Saturday, August 3, 2013

Five Tips to Help You Deal With Worry

by Susan Leigh

For some people worrying can become a habit, almost a way of life. They worry if things are going well, they worry about what might happen, they worry if they have nothing to worry about - they must have forgotten something! Does any of this sound familiar?

Let's look at some tips to help you deal with worry:

A worry list works well for some people

They take time with a large writing pad to sit and write down everything that they're worried about.

It may take days to compile a comprehensive list, adding things that had previously been forgotten. They keep adding to the list as required, then store it somewhere safe.

If you decide to use a worry list whenever any of those identified worries come into your head you can tell yourself that they don't need to be constantly fretted over; they're safe on your list, ready to be dealt with as appropriate.

Be firm and tell yourself that it's okay to clear your head of those thoughts and worries because your list is in a safe place. Once a week look at the list. Cross out worries that have disappeared or been dealt with.

Add any new items to the list. This is a positive way to separate yourself from the old worry habit pattern and introduce a more responsive rather than reactive way of thinking and behaving.

Break down your worries into bite sized chunks

Often a problem or worry has to be dealt with in stages rather than all at once. Some aspects may be your responsibility, others may concern other people. Look at what you can deal with now and set that action into motion.

It may be that you need to start by making a call, arranging a meeting, beginning an activity. Identifying what needs to be done gives you the feeling of being more in control, followed by being proactive and doing something about it.

How much of your worry is real and how much is imagined?

Being told that your boss wants to see you can cause hours of worry and anxiety and yet he/she may simply want to discuss something innocent or positive with you.

Question your mindset and become more vigilant about the quality of your self talk. Hypnotherapy is one way to support that process by breaking old habit patterns and introducing a more optimistic way of thinking.

Ask for help

If you've taken on too much, are overladen with work, tasks, responsibilities, worrying about what needs to be done may distract you making a start and performing well.

Share the load, delegate, and be assertive in asking others to help you, whether it be at home or at work, with friends, colleagues or family. Involving others often has the positive benefit of helping everyone feel important, valued and part of what's going on.

Ask yourself if this worry will really matter in a month, six months, a year's time

This question helps introduce a more rational, realistic perspective. We can become so embroiled in our own thoughts, worries and situation that we lose our sense of perspective.

Taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture can take the edge off our worries and maybe even cause us to smile at how seriously we take ourselves.

Share your worries and allow friends, family, maybe even colleagues to help you cope better and recognise the signs when you're becoming stressed and starting to worry excessively.

Taking steps to deal with matters before they take a hold and become more serious is often a positive way to retain a healthier balance on potential problem areas as they arise.

Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples experiencing relationship difficulties to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.

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