Resilience is the ability to bounce back from tough situations and to avoid becoming a victim of helplessness. Being resilient can help you manage stress, lower your chances of depression, and it has even been proven to make people live longer.
You may feel like you've had so much bad luck that it's impossible to come out strong on the other end, but your lack of control stops here. Once you learn to seize your life by the reins and prepare for the unexpected, you'll be on your way to being a more resilient person - and to living a happier, more purpose-filled life as a result.
Check out Step 1 to get started.
1: Changing Your Thoughts
Develop a more positive attitude
Sure, it's not easy to have a positive attitude when you broke your arm in a car accident that wasn't your fault, or when you've been rejected by the last five girls you've dated. It's not easy - but that doesn't mean it's not impossible. Your ability to be optimistic and to see your setbacks as isolated incidents instead of indicators of your future success is precisely what will make you succeed in the future. Tell yourself that just your positive attitude alone has the ability to help you seize more opportunities, be creative about ways to improve your life, and to feel more fulfilled overall.
Learn to embrace change
One major aspect of being more resilient is learning to deal with and accept change. Studies show that if you view the changes in your life as challenges instead of threats, you will be much more equipped to deal with them. Learning to adapt to new situations, whether it's moving to a new place or becoming a new parent, is a survival skill that will help you find creative solutions to new problems and to face adversity with relative calm and ease. If you're stuck in your old ways and can't imagine doing things any way but your way, then you're bound to run into trouble sooner or later.
Improve your problem-solving approaches
Part of the reason some people struggle with being resilient is because they don't know how to face their problems. If you develop a workable method of dealing with challenges, you'll be more likely to feel capable of solving them and of not feeling hopeless. Here is a helpful approach for dealing with a problem in front of you:
Learn from your mistakes
Another quality of resilient people is their ability to learn from their mistakes. People who are not resilient make the same mistake again and again because they are unwilling to be honest about why they failed in the first place; people who are resilient take the time to think about what didn't work so they can avoid running into the same kind of trouble in the future. Don't feel dejected after rejection or failure - no matter how much it hurts - and think about how it can help you grow stronger instead.
B2: Changing Your Actions
Find purpose in life
Having a goal and dreams increases resilience. Simply bumbling along and letting life take you wherever it will reduces resilience and leaves you open to manipulation, poor life choices, and being a doormat. It reduces your sense of control over your life, which easily leads to depression and anxiety.
Maintain a strong social network
While it's easy to let go of important relationships in our frenetic lives, it is important to make room for them. Good relationships are a pillar of rock for resilience and are a source of support when the times get tough. Maintain your family and friend relationships and you'll have an instant, trustworthy and reliable support network around you at all times
Find a mentor
Another way to develop your resiliency is to find a mentor who can help you deal with the blows that life throws at you. This can be a person who is succeeding in your field, a grandparent, an older friend, or really anyone who can help you achieve your goals and face adversity with a level head. You may feel that your life is hopeless and that life is caving in all around you, and having an older and wiser person who has been there can help you feel like you're not alone and like you're equipped to deal with life's challenges.
Work toward your goals
If you want to be a more resilient person, then you have to not only set goals, but you have to work to achieve them. If you're just sitting around waiting for life to happen to you or dealing with pain and suffering caused by another person, then your levels of resilience will only go down. Making a plan to achieve your goals - whether you're getting an advanced degree, getting more physically fit, or trying to get over a break up - will help you feel directed, focused, and driven.
B3: Staying Strong
A study from Harvard Medical school showed that people who do yoga as opposed to other forms of physical fitness were less prone to angry outbursts and more capable of dealing with challenging. When you do yoga, you will strike challenging poses and will learn to build strength and endurance in holding the poses even when your body is begging you to stop; this builds up your ability to "stick with" challenging situations and to find the resources to stay calm and determined
Stay physically fit
Though you don't need to have six pack abs to deal with a major crisis, being physically strong certainly helps. If your body is stronger, then you have build up the strength and endurance to have a stronger mind, and it will indeed help you in moments of crisis. Being physically fit will improve your self-esteem, positive thinking, and ability to feel empowered, all of which will help you be resilient. Even something simple like taking a walk in the sunshine for twenty minutes a day has been proven to help people be more open-minded and ready to face challenges
Accept the things that happen to you
It isn't possible to foresee the things life has in reserve for us. Expecting life to be always peachy or always dreadful is a way of viewing life in extremes and will cause you to have unrealistic expectations. You cannot always predict how you'll respond to unseen painful events but you can use resilience as the means to build up defenses that will help you get through the worst without falling apart completely. In nurturing resilience, your quality of life will improve
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