Friday, May 31, 2013

Journal to Find Your Core Self

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by Mari McCarthy

People in general tend to be moody. Sometimes we're energetic and optimistic, and sometimes we're sluggish and blue.

In addition to the globe's atmospheric conditions, producing constant weather changes, we have our own internal weather, seemingly as capricious as clouds.

We do our best to maintain a happy mood or to work out of a sad one, but in actuality the weather does as it pleases.

We can take a hint from atmospheric weather, though. It is something we observe.

It's caused by disturbances in the air high above the Earth. It can severely affect ground-level objects and conditions.

'Weathering' happens to everything, from rocks to roses, houses to humans. It can even affect outlook, as in a sunny day encouraging a positive mindset, a rainy one evoking sad memories.

But, (and this may seem subtle, yet it's huge) we have no delusions that we have become the weather. It may affect us but we don't get confused and think we have become the rain or the sun. As long as we're rational, we know that the weather will change.

With inside weather, though, with our own emotions, we tend to start believing they define us. We're 'seized' by a mood; fear or joy 'overcomes' us; we usually say, I am sad instead of I feel sad. We tend to identify with feelings; we often don't even try to separate from them.

There are multiple reasons why we take our inner weather so seriously and many justifications for letting it kidnap our identity. Mostly, the power and passion of emotions are hard to resist.

The sheer force of strong feeling is cathartic and can easily be mistaken for salvation or some other ultimate fate.

In short, we forget that our emotional life is the same as weather. It may shape us and color our days, but it remains merely atmospheric and can't touch the core, unchanging reality of the Self.

It's that Self which journal writing, when done pen-to-page on a daily basis, slowly, gently, lovingly unearths.

The process of writing in a journal is like digging up buried treasure, loosening the packed earth around the forgotten You as you were born so that your core Self can at last begin to emerge.

One distinguishing characteristic of the core Self is that it is far less subject to moods. From the Self's viewpoint, moods are properly perceived as weather: temporal, external, and beside-the-point.

This is not at all to say that the core Self has no heart! To the contrary, a generous heart may well be the Self's strongest trait. Just because we are freed from the tyranny of emotions in no way means that we no longer feel them. We feel them as much as ever!

But, as journaling teaches us, we're no longer slaves to them.

Here are some practices to get started on your journal to emotional freedom.

Describe in your journal a day in the past when your emotional state completely obsessed you. Write about what happened before, during, and after the emotion possession. The particular day you select may have involved positive or negative emotion.

Use the following process to examine your current emotional state in your journal:

1. Sit down with your journal, close your eyes, and take one long deep breath.
2. Open your eyes and write the first word or phrase that comes to mind. Add a few more words if you wish.
3. Take another long deep breath and open the floodgates, letting your pen ramble on from the prompts of those keywords you wrote in step two.

When you feel in the grip of an emotion, use your journal to describe the feeling and to dialogue with it. Ask questions of it: where did you come from, what do you want from me, how can we live together peacefully?

Before long, with the help of journaling, we can learn to experience emotions in the same way we experience the weather - as lightly noteworthy but nonessential distractions.

Mari L. McCarthy is The Journaling Therapy Specialist, founder of Create Write Now, home of Journaling for the Self of It™. Mari offers counseling and encouragement to journal writers through her many online journaling resources, as well as private consultations.

CreateWriteNow's Personal Journal Blog provides articles on how starting and sticking to a daily pen to page Journaling Practice can help you access your inner intelligence and transform your life.

Mari offers lots of Journaling Free Stuff with free Journaling eBooks and free samples from her 15 eBooks, including Start Journaling and Change Your Life in 7 Days, and Who Are You? The 7 Day Journaling Challenge. Please see http://createwritenow.com.

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How to Live Outside The Box

by David MacGregor, Sovereign Life blog: http://www.empowernetwork.com/sovlife/blog/how-to-live-outside-the-box/

Have you ever stopped to think about how much of your life is just a matter of following predetermined rules, which you have learned from your parents, your culture and your education?

Have you ever desired to step outside of that “box” and become a truly autonomous individual? Well, I can tell you, it’s a lot harder than you think.

Just consider some of the things you may want to question, and therefore may want to discard, in the process of freeing yourself from the shackles of various pre-programmed auto-beliefs.

Education

A better term for this would be brainwashing. And this accusation is supported by the fact the whole education system is controlled by the state, and that they won’t let go of such control.

My own children are long grown up. But if I was starting over, I’d definitely consider not sending them to school at all!

Seriously, I think the idea that children should be “locked up” in a government-controlled environment from the time they are five (or earlier) is really scary. Who said this type of education is necessary anyway?

Is there any scientific proof this stilted process is any better than simply learning the basics, then being encouraged to follow your own desires and interests from then on?

I know my own father, in Scotland, left school at 14. And yet, he was much more literate than most 20 year olds today, in the sense he had a full grasp of the English language and a fully competent understanding of mathematics.

He was equipped for life at 14 - and thereafter, his education consisted in following his own dreams, and learning what he wanted to learn.

In my book, a basic education should be able to stop at around 7 years old, to be followed by encouragement to learn that which is of interest. In other words, to follow one’s passion.

As I’m sure you know, when you have a passion or keen interest, it’s completely natural, and enjoyable to learn about it.

“But”, I hear you say, “what about a college education and a degree - so our children can grow up and get a good job?” Which brings me to the second idea that should be challenged.

A Job

What’s a job? It’s when you sell your labour to someone else, in return for money. The whole of our educational system is geared towards teaching children how to get a job. Nowhere is it taught how to create a job.

A job is the last thing you should want (if you value your freedom), as it ties you to the objectives and requirements of another person or organisation.

Why settle for a job, when you could create your own? Why be bound to someone else’s goals, when you could be dreaming and acting on your own?

I’ll tell you why, because state education has completely removed both the desire and the means to do so.

All that’s left is the crazy drive to get everybody “educated” in order to get into university - where they can get a degree, to show a future employer - in order to get a job! It’s a merry-go-round from bizarro world!

If I had a young child now, I’d want them to grow up without this mind-numbing rubbish being drilled into them, and for them to enter the adult world as someone fully believing in their ability to create their own job, and generate their own income - doing what they love.

I think this is the reason I admire British billionaire, Richard Branson, so much. He lives totally “out of the box”. He is not limited in his ideas as to what he can and cannot do.

He started out in business in mail-order music. Then one day had the idea he’d like to have an airline (Virgin). And wow he wants to take tourists into space. He’s a man who sees no barriers and takes no prisoners.

I can only assume that while growing up - in spite of any official education - he must have been exposed to a lot of liberating ideas about his own ability to lead a life of his own choosing. A truly self-made man.

Religion

Now here’s a big one. It’s obvious most people don’t choose a religion, it’s simply drummed into their consciousness at an early age. How else can you explain that a Catholic country produces millions of Catholics, rather than Muslims? And vice versa.

Now, if you’re religious, don’t get offended by what I’m saying, but rather put yourself outside your own head for a moment, and think about it.

Have you ever stopped to really consider what religion is - and why you should believe in one? Have you ever really, seriously set out to prove the validity of your own beliefs, or did you just acquire them by osmosis?

I can tell you, there is a very good reason why Jesuits have always said if you give them a child until he is seven years old, then he will be “theirs” for life! They know a thing or two about the power of religion, or the power of any belief system that is inculcated at such an early age.

I grew up in a very religious home, and as a result, came back to the “fold” after a brief rebellion during my teenage years.

However, after a studied re-evaluation when I was older, I discarded my early beliefs. And as a result, I brought up my own children without religion. Strangely enough, they don’t miss it!

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you can’t believe what you want, I’m just suggesting that such beliefs (if not chosen rationally, but absorbed while growing up) can be counter-productive to you leading a life of your own choosing.

Of course, I shouldn’t have to point out that the history of war and conflict, including the present day, has a lot to do with the consequences of irrationally held beliefs.

You can test this assertion for yourself, by noting your own reaction to the word “fundamentalist”. If you’re like most people, it will have a negative impact on you, and will probably conjure up images of zealots with a scary look in their eyes, or worse, who pose a potential threat to your own life.

But what is a “fundamentalist”?

It’s just someone who believes 100% in the literal meaning and edicts of their own particular religion. This belief is not usually of the scientifically proven kind, but rather a deeply held conviction born of cultural and educational input during early childhood.

The State

This is also is a form of religion, the secular variety. We grow up worshipping the state. We sing national anthems. We fly flags. We fight and die for it. We pay taxes. We vote.

We even kow-tow to the very people who have the gall to call themselves public “servants”, while acting like public slave masters. And in the UK (and other Commonwealth countries), we used to stand to attention at the end of the movies, to the tune of “God Save the Queen”.

The state is a form of madness. It’s the fundamentalist belief that disorder can only be managed by force; that the economy is some sort of machine; and that people must be herded like sheep, lest they go astray.

The question is: how do you undo a lifetime of brainwashing and gain the knowledge, conviction and courage to live outside the box?

In my own experience, there is really only one way, to expose yourself to very different ideas. To challenge your intellectual status quo, by confronting a completely different view of the world, and your place in it.

And if someone asked me to point them in the right direction, and suggest sources of such radically different viewpoints - I’d probably say, “start by reading these three books”.

And here they are: Atlas Shrugged - by Ayn Rand. The story of a man who decided that evil only existed because people gave it permission, and so organised a “strike” of all the people of ability.

He secretly persuaded all such people to escape to a private hideaway and engage in a form of passive resistance, by removing their sanction of such evil.

Sic Itur Ad Astra (this is the way to the stars) - by Andrew J Galambos. A brilliant and challenging thesis that debunks the party line that the state (force) can ever deliver freedom.

He goes on to outline why he believes that freedom is a product, and how it must, ultimately, be delivered by the free market.

How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World - by Harry Browne. A challenging look into the cultural blocks to the achievement of our own happiness, and how to free oneself from them.

He also discusses the essential difference between direct and indirect action, and shows why direct action is the only way to achieve one’s goals.

About The Author

David MacGregor I've been making a full time living online since 1998, when my eyes were first opened to the possibilities offered by the emerging internet.

I was really excited by what I saw and decided there and then that I would create for myself a new life and lifestyle as an "international citizen" and build a portable business that would enable me to live as and where I chose.

My dream became real in 2000, when I packed my bags, headed for a new country and began the adventure of my life. And the adventure continues...

Why Your Mind is The Source of Your Wealth

by David MacGregor, Sovereign Life blog: http://www.empowernetwork.com/sovlife/blog/why-your-mind-is-the-source-of-your-wealth/

I clearly remember the eureka moment, when I realised I had within me the power to create money out of ‘thin air’.

It was after I had launched my very first successful business, which followed a previous “lifetime” of being a professional drummer.

At that moment in time I discovered I no longer needed a job. I no longer needed a boss. I no longer needed someone else to hire and pay me. I can tell you, that was a most powerful awareness, one I have never forgotten.

The “high” it created was amazing and I was surprised I’d never discovered it earlier. But there it was, staring me in the face, the fact I had created a substantial monthly income from within my own mind and acting via my own will.

At that moment I understood what all wealth-creators know - that money is not a finite resource, with only so much to go around, but that there’s an unlimited supply just waiting to be tapped, if you know how.

The mind-trap of the average employee is in believing money is created by others - and that if you’re lucky, they may do you the favour of offering you a job.

All that changed when I discovered the secret - that the amount of money available is unlimited and that wealth is a product of the mind.

And all you have to do to create it, is apply your mind to the provision of products or services which other people will value sufficiently enough to pay you handsomely for.

What makes living right now so exciting is the technological breakthrough that has made it possible for anyone, anywhere, to tap into this unlimited money pie - the internet.

If you lived in a small village a hundred years ago, the opportunities for making money would be strictly limited. Perhaps you could become a baker, a greengrocer, or choose a profession like teacher, doctor or lawyer.

Whatever you chose to do would be constrained by the hard fact that your village only consisted of so many people - the people you would need to become your customers.

Obviously, sticking to tried and true goods and services would be best - food, clothing, medicines etc. If you were an artist or musician you would likely have to keep your talent to yourself, as a hobby.

If you were an inventor you would likely find it very difficult to find anyone willing to try your new contraption. In fact, if you had aspirations anywhere out of the ordinary, you could probably kiss your dreams goodbye and simply get on with the job of “making a living”.

Fast-forward to the internet age, and you are staring a full-blown revolution in the face, where you can now realistically create for yourself the life you want, doing what you love. No longer is it necessary to go to university and get a degree, in order to get a good job.

New vistas have opened up to anyone who can see the potential. Just consider how some of today’s entrepreneurial giants were college dropouts - people like Steve Jobs and Richard Branson.

These innovators followed their passion and let their imagination set the course of their lives. The internet has levelled the playing field. It has enabled almost anyone, anywhere, to dream up a new life for themselves, and turn it into reality.

It’s not formal education that prepares you for this new reality, but your awareness that the creative capacity of your own mind has the power to invent and make real whatever life you desire.

But to turn on this creative switch you have to believe you can.

About The Author

David MacGregor I've been making a full time living online since 1998, when my eyes were first opened to the possibilities offered by the emerging internet.

I was really excited by what I saw and decided there and then that I would create for myself a new life and lifestyle as an "international citizen" and build a portable business that would enable me to live as and where I chose.

My dream became real in 2000, when I packed my bags, headed for a new country and began the adventure of my life. And the adventure continues ...

Thursday, May 30, 2013

How to Be a Healthy and Active Boomer

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Dancers Vernon and Irene Castle (Wikipedia)
by Sylvia Behnish

When we look around we can see that many boomers are leading healthy and active lives.

They are growing older with a vitality that our parents didn't possess.

Boomers have redefined aging and retirement.

They were the ones who redefined young adulthood and they're doing it again as seniors.

Although some may find it is necessary to accommodate their needs, they're not going to sit back and rock on the porch with their feet up.

Most take their well-being seriously and because of this they usually take care of their health by walking, playing golf, swimming, bicycling and although they may be taking ballroom dancing lessons instead of attending music extravaganzas such as Woodstock, they are active participants in life.

Most also still have a sense of adventure and although they may continue to be risk takers, they keep caution in mind more seriously than their younger counterparts.

Boomers who were incredibly independent in their youth continue to be self-sufficient. Now they may garden, do canning or become involved in crafts. Or they may take yoga, do water exercises or join a walking group.

But staying fit and being mentally active is high on the list for most boomers. They are also the ones who encourage the continuance of family traditions.

The majority of boomers are comfortable with a computer at least as far as having an e-mail address. And many have a cell phone.

But there are also many who do search the net, are active on Facebook and other social media sites and own other technology based paraphernalia such as an iPod.

And since many boomers are single, there are those who have tried online dating. Socially their time is spent with close friends and family.

Statistically this generation is living longer than their parents or grandparents. Some of the ways to stay healthy are:

- Do not smoke.
- Keep active by maintaining your strength, flexibility and cardiovascular abilities.
- Eat a balanced diet.
- Control your weight by eating properly and exercising.
- Get regular screenings. Women should have regular mammograms and pap tests, and men should be checked for prostate cancer. Other screenings can include such things as a periodic colonoscopy, regular blood pressure checks and blood tests to check cholesterol levels.
- Protect yourself from the sun by using sunscreen.
- Have regular dental and hearing check-ups.
- Stay interested by continually learning something new - continue to challenge yourself.
- Get a pet (even if it's only fish). They won't exactly give you unconditional love but they are interesting and much easier to leave when you travel (and there are no kennel fees).
- Travel as often as you are able.
- Get out amongst people and enjoy what life has to offer.
- Join a book club, a walking group or an environmentalist group - whatever interests you.

There's a song by Todd Hunter which says, 'Life is good, life is great, life is asking you to participate'. That is the best we can do to ensure that, as boomers, we remain healthy and active. Get out there and live; don't vegetate.

Sylvia Behnish has had numerous articles published in newspapers and magazines in both Canada and the United States on subjects relating to boomers, seniors, grandparenting, parenting and families. She has also published 'A Rollercoaster Ride With Brain Injury (For Loved Ones)', 'His Sins', a fiction novel and 'Life's Challenges', a short story collection.

For more information on boomers, retirement, seniors, grandparenting and parenting, go to http://www.sbehnish.blogspot.com

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Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Creating An Action Plan For Success

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Action Plan for Success (Wikipedia)
by W Timothy Johnson

You can qualify people into 3 groups: Achievers, Planners/Dreamers and Drifters.

Drifters do just that. They drift from place to place in life. Job to job. Relationship to relationship.

They may find a permanent place or relationship, but they probably will be unsure of how they got there or why.

Planners/Dreamers know WHERE they want to go, they just don't know HOW to get there.

They often have big dreams and goals. They probably can tell you in some detail the things they want and show you their goals list.

But ask them how they will achieve those goals and the eyes get kind of glassy.

No idea. Sometimes they have a vague idea of the vehicle they want to use, but have no roadmap or idea how to start it.

Achievers on the other hand (3 hands?) pretty much always know where they are going AND how they are getting there. Generally knowing the how gets them pretty excited. Excited enough to put together an Action Plan and execute it.

Ahhhhhh, the magic word: EXECUTE. To put into motion in this case. It can also mean to apply a little juice to jumpstart your plans.

So what is an action plan? It is a list of the things you MUST do in order to achieve your goals. It is a set of milestones along the way to your goals and a list of steps to take to get to the milestones.

Once you have done your vision and goals, you know the where, correct? But maybe you aren't sure how to get started. Put yourself into your vision, imagining your goals already achieved. Really get into this. Now let's list the things you need to be in order to get there.

Do you need to be a skilled salesman? A great athlete? On time or early? What skills are required? What do you need to have? What are the personal habits that are necessary? Education? Relationships? Mentors? Confidants and advisors?

Each item on the list can be acquired or instilled in you. Surprisingly it is pretty easy to figure out how to do that too. For instance, say you need to gain the skills to design websites. How do you do that?

You can start by reading some beginners' books on the subject. Take a class. Get some practice.

Say you need to have the regular advice of a tax expert. You can hire a tax CPA or lawyer, or you can go to any of their public professional meeting to network with them. Develop friendships and maybe some partnerships.

A mentor? Find someone who has built success doing what you want and cultivate a friendship and let it grow naturally. Don't push the mentoring. Get to know the person and then ask.

That is how you get ANYONE as a resource for your future success. Get to know them, befriend them and you will be surprised at what happens.

After doing this, see if anything still needs some more steps added. Maybe you need to learn how to network before you can befriend all these strangers.

Once the list is complete, prioritize it and also to put it in order of what needs to be done first, second, third, etc. Now work on item #1. Finish it before moving to #2 (unless appropriate or #2 needs to be started before #1 can be finished).

Keep focused on the Action Plan. Don't deviate from it except to check to see if you are still going where you thought and that this is the road that will take you there.

It's OK to look around to make sure you are still working on the things that you want and that will make you happy. Don't pursue the plan because you think you have to. If it needs to be changed, then do it quickly and decisively. And don't be afraid to change it as often as necessary.

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Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Resilience - What Is It? And Why?

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Resilience (Wikipedia)
by Nick James Smith

What is Resilience?

Do you remember the Weebles and their catchphrase, 'Weebles wobble but they don't fall down'?

However much you knock them over, they always bounce back up.

For me that encapsulates resilience - they always finish upright, however many knocks they take, however hard they are hit.

What does that really mean for humans though?

Some people like to believe that life will be straightforward. In fact, the very idea of life coaching can suggest to people that you can make life what you want it to be and many coaches will sell their services on that basis.

This is not completely true though, because however well you predict your future, there will always be unanticipated difficulties, at a variety of levels of importance.

An unexpected bereavement, not quite hitting your targets, an exam failure; these are all things that can blind-side you and knock you down.

Resilience is the ability to deal with the issue successfully and rise again to carry on. Note that it's not a talent for ignoring the problem. That is a short term fix that will usually come back to bite you later.

Resilience is actually processing the negative feelings, healing the hurts, putting the pieces back together and finding a solution that allows you to move on.

Where do the issues come from?

Yourself

However great you are, there will be times when you make poor choices and then have to suffer the consequences. It might be something simple like that last drink that you didn't need causing you to be hungover at work the next day.

It could be more serious like jumping into a relationship (in work or life) that ultimately doesn't benefit either side. I'm sure you can remember times when you looked back and realised that a problem was of your own making and therefore probably avoidable.

For me these are the hardest to deal with because along with the problem comes the admission that I am not as brilliant as I would like to think! I am plagued with 'what if' scenarios that can easily descend into metaphorical self-flagellation.

Others

There are also bad events which are the result of someone else's actions; these are even less predictable than the results of our own actions. This doesn't presume that the people are malicious.

Maybe the consequences were completely hidden from them or possibly they made choices as badly as you sometimes have.

However, it might be that your problems stem from the deliberate, possibly criminal, actions of others. Our newspapers are full of such stories.

Accidents

Finally there are the genuine accidents. Some people name them as 'acts of God' which maybe assumes a non-loving God. The idea that this is something out of the control of humans does accurately describe them though.

Earlier this year, I turned quickly and ruptured my achilles tendon. Accidents happen. Even if I had stopped beforehand to consider my age and fitness level and the wisdom of playing football, I still would not have foreseen this result; it was an accident with no blame to be apportioned.

Ongoing issues

I have talked above as if resilience is only dealing with the one-off things in life but this is a generalisation. Sometimes things hit you that are longer lasting; changes take place that can never be undone.

Adrianne Haslet, a ballroom dancing teacher who lost a leg in the Boston bombing, will never have the same body that she used to.

Yet she has recently said, 'I absolutely will dance again' and plans to accept an offer of a place on Dancing with the Stars once she is used to life with a prosthetic lower limb.

Resilience is about dealing firstly with the change but then secondly with the ongoing, adverse conditions that the change has instigated.

Sometime these 'adverse conditions' are simply that you are over-engaged - you have more tasks to do than hours in the day.

If this is the case, it is easy to become stressed and lose your ability to prioritise, becoming too tired and weary to say no to the unreasonable demands. Resilience is the ability to stay strong in the face of this pressure, continuing to perform successfully.

Why be resilient?

As I suggested above, things will go wrong in life. This fact should not be a surprise, even if the actual event is. As you read about the different kinds of issues, you will already have been processing some of the reasons why resilience would help you to be better.

Being resilient and coping well with the change is the secret to not letting the change derail you for too long. The quicker you can get to a new way of life that works for you, the better. The longer you leave things unresolved the harder they will be to tackle and the more affected you will be by them.

Assuming you want a bit more success, happiness or quality of life, stand up and deal with them now. Achieving your goals in life will require you at times to be resilient and tackle the challenging bits.

Some of them can be anticipated and planned around, others can be avoided by better decision-making on your part but other obstacles are unavoidable and will simply need to be overcome.

The alternative is to not deal with them, either not well or not at all, and the consequences become longer lasting and have a bigger negative effect.

You can see this in the news where people have become bitter and sad because of past events that affected their lives adversely many years before. They never dealt with it and it is still impacting on their lives.

As a comparison though, I like to think of Gordon Wilson from Enniskillen, who forgave the people who bombed the Remembrance Day service in 1987, killing his daughter, Marie.

He is quoted as saying, "I bear no ill will. I bear no grudge" and followed that up by campaigning for peace. Not only did his ability to deal with the event help him but also changed his community for the better.

The other possible consequence of not being resilient is that you start to worry. You recognise that problems will occur but become anxious at the thought that you won't be able to deal with them - if you get hit, you will be knocked down and stay there.

A lot of people in this situation will make complex plans to avoid any possible problem, expending huge amounts of mental effort to ensure nothing ever touches them.

This then takes a lot of time away from pursuing what should be their main goals in life; instead they have substituted 'avoiding bad things' as their goal, which will never lead to achieving more.

Conclusion

Resilience is the ability to sustain successful performance in the face of adverse conditions, misfortunes and changes, to bounce back and live life to the full once more. Without it we condemn ourselves to being in the thrall of the change, controlled by it, rather than taking control ourselves.

Nick Smith is an Outdoor Life Coach and Trainer. Within his company, Square Pegs Coaching, he uses outdoor experiences to help people develop themselves. By walking and talking together, people discover how they can take further steps in their journey of life.

Although working mainly in Glasgow and the West of Scotland where he is based, Nick also travels around the UK - if you want to be coached by him then get in touch through his website at http://www.squarepegscoaching.com.

There is more information there to help you understand the concepts of outdoor life coaching, background on Nick and the opportunity to book coaching when you are ready.

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Monday, May 27, 2013

Overcoming Self-Doubt to Pursue Your Dreams: 11 Sure-Fire Techniques

Dreams and All That Stuff
Dreams and All That Stuff (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
by Cher N Gunderson

Moving Through Doubt

Our doubts in our abilities tend to show up most when we are in career transitions such as starting a new job, changing careers, or starting a business about which we are passionate.

It's important to acknowledge these doubts. However, necessary to move through the doubts in order to be successful.

 In this article, you'll learn 11 steps to raise your confidence levels to pursue your dreams.

Freeing Negative Thoughts

Doubts are rooted in negative thoughts that often are so automatic in our minds, that we don't notice them.

In Master Your Accent's article, "How to Empower your Presentations with Balanced Thoughts," we outlined 4 steps to freeing yourself from negative thoughts.

The power of this is that it removes obstacles to reaching your full capacity. To be successful in dealing with doubt, you're at your best when you believe in yourself.

Achieving Balanced Thoughts: 4-Step Review
  1. Identify the automatic thought
  2. Examine the evidence that supports the automatic thought
  3. Examine the evidence that does not support the automatic thought
  4. Create a balanced thought
Believing in yourself: 11 Techniques to Creating Lasting Change

Believing in yourself is essential if you intend to be able to share your talents with the world. To shift from your old patterns of disbelief takes regular practice. Here are 11 techniques to create lasting change.

  1. Apply the 4 steps to creating balanced thoughts on a regular basis
  2. Set aside time each day to focus on your thoughts (five minutes might be a good starting point in the beginning)
  3. A few times a week, jot down a note (or quick voice recording) from yourself to yourself on how good it feels to be making the changes you want for yourself
  4. Put a voice to your changes by talking to trusted friends about how good it feels to be doing your personal growth work
  5. Write or record affirmations to yourself. Listening to supportive music, or if you are recording, recording the affirmations with the music in the background may deepen the effect
  6. Listen to commercial affirmations with which you resonate
  7. Listen to uplifting music that feeds your soul
  8. Visualize yourself successfully changing and succeeding
  9. Write or record a dialogue or scenario that fits exactly what you want for yourself in a specific situation. Include your senses. Describe where you are, what you see, what you feel, and smell
  10. Pay attention to your breathing. Give yourself permission to feel relaxed in your body
  11. Act as if. Another way to say this is fake it til' you make it. Even when you don't feel confident or believe in yourself, act as if you are confident and that you believe in yourself

Summary

Changing careers or pursuing your dreams by starting your own business often raises doubt in our abilities. It's essential to move through the doubt if you intend to be successful.

The first step is learning the four steps to achieving balanced thoughts. The next step is implementing the steps on a consistent basis. To do this, acknowledge your own efforts and successes by following the 10 additional techniques to creating lasting change about your belief in yourself.

It is very possible to raise your confidence levels about yourself so you can create lasting positive change and pursue your dreams. I believe that you can believe in you.

Cher N. Gunderson M.S., CCC-SLP
Owner of Master Your Accent, LLC
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Sunday, May 26, 2013

How to Get Clarity in an Instant (or at Least in 20 Minutes)

Instant Clarity
Instant Clarity (Wikipedia)
by Remy Chausse

Let's look at one little word that has an amazing power to get you on your way to living a life you adore.

That one little word is CLARITY.

Do you have clarity? Now, wait ... do you really?

Sometimes, the reason things don't quite work out the way you want them to is because you haven't really answered this question: "What do I want?"

We know the universe can't bring us what we want if we aren't absolutely 100% clear.

So how do you know if you really, truly have clarity? Get out your pen - we're going to find out!

Draw two columns on a piece of paper.

On the left-hand side, jot down everything that's challenging you right now. Look for any places where you're feeling stuck. Just brainstorm and make notes for about 20 minutes.

Some items will be either/or questions such as ... do I want to do this, or that? Some may be confusion - I'm not sure what to do about blank? 

 Some may be about an exact resolution - why haven't I achieved blank yet? And some will be puzzles or mysteries - I've taken every conceivable step I know of to achieve blank, so why is blank not happening?

Keep listing these questions as they come up for you, and for most people, it takes about 20 minutes or even longer. Then on the right side of the paper, oh right ... maybe there IS no right side of the paper because you had so many questions that it took up both sides!

Well, there you have it ... that's a lack of clarity. I can't tell you how often I have people do this exercise, and once they sit down in a dedicated space with a pen, can see how much clarity they're missing.

If you write out all your questions and puzzles to the universe in 20 minutes, you'd probably be surprised at how many questions are stirring inside you. Amazing, right?

So there are a couple of options you have. One option is to use another piece of paper to directly state what you want.

Don't worry about the "how" right now, just state "what" you want. This can be done line-by-line, answering each of your questions or challenges one at a time.

Or you may even look over your list and realize you already have the answers to some of these questions, and you don't need to circle around the possibilities anymore.

So line-by-line, write down the ideal outcomes you'd love to see. And remember - let go of the "what-if's." It's possible to do so much questioning, as in "what if this, and what if that, and what if it doesn't go well" ... that it neutralizes your clarity!

Right now, clarity is all you need. Everything else will fall into place.

Remy Chausse is the author of the best-seller "Living Life As An Exclamation Point!" and founder of "The Get UNstuck Revolution!" for extraordinary women with big-ass dreams who are ridiculously unsatisfied ... to get past go and get out of status quo.

Remy has been featured on FOX Business, the On the Edge Show (a CBS affiliate), and Smart Money Talk Radio (an NBC affiliate). Free stuff at http://www.RemyChausse.com "

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Play Detective With Your Fears

Mister Fear
Mister Fear (Wikipedia)
by Kevin Kachin

What Do You Do When You Don't Understand Something You're Interested In?

If you're like most people you investigate it.

You begin to talk to your friends and family about it, ask questions, research the internet, read books, attend seminars, workshops, and maybe even sign up for coaching or mentorship to help you improve at it.

In other words, you begin to take the necessary steps to learn about your interest with the idea that one day you will eventually learn enough to choose to take action.

This isn't some outrageous revelation. Its simply the learning process that we all have gone through since we were kids.

So Why Don't You Go Through The Same Process With Your Fears?

Most people are afraid of their fear simply because they don't understand it. This lack of understanding quickly becomes problematic because fear is hands down the number one reason why people choose not to pursue their dreams - like investing in real estate.

Further, fear emerges in different ways for different people - some fear being embarrassed, some fear not knowing the answer, networking, negotiating, talking about money, losing money, getting an offer accepted, rejection, etc.

If fear often stops you from pursuing your interests - a relationship, a job, a real estate business, etc. - wouldn't it be beneficial to do what you do when you want to improve your ability to take action in other areas of your life and ...

Learn about your fear.

I'm not talking about learning how to "overcome," "master," or "face" your fears - all of which imply getting into conflict with your fear. I'm talking about simply learning what fear really is and why in certain circumstances its extremely beneficial while in others it becomes just another stressor.

A funny thing happens as you learn about fear. You become less afraid of it.

Why Do You Experience Fear?

You need fear because fear is an signal that keeps us from real danger. Its an evolutionary response that dates back to the time when your ancestors were competing with other animals for the same food.

Specifically, back then when a predator (e.g., a tiger) started to approach, your mind had to quickly make a decision whether to stick around, fight and potentially become Mr. Tiger's lunch or hightail it outta there immediately.

This fear response developed as a way for your mind to instantly tell your body, "Danger! The end is near unless you fight or run right now!"

Today this is called the "fight or flight" response. In situations where there is real danger (i.e., threat of physical harm), you absolutely need this fear response that signals your body to get ready to "fight" or "flee."

Notice that two phrases were emphasized: real danger and your mind.

Why were those two phrases emphasized?

Nowadays there is very little actual real danger that you experience on a daily basis. For the most part, the danger exists solely in your mind.

Most of the danger you experience today is simply perceived danger that develops from the thoughts in your mind whether you are aware of them or not. Thoughts like:

"I don't know what to say."
"I don't know what I'm doing."
"I don't have the money."
"I don't have the resources."

Those thoughts are really part of an if-then combination inside your mind that goes something like this:

"If I don't know what to say, then I'll be embarrassed and they won't deal with me again."
"If I don't know what I'm doing, then I will look dumb and nobody will work with me."
"If I don't have the money, then I can't do anything."
"If I don't have the resources, then nobody will work with me and I can't proceed."

The problem is that your brain doesn't know the difference between real danger and perceived danger. It just knows "Danger! The end is potentially near!" and therefore reacts the same way to both types of danger - with the "fear response" (fight or flight).

The dilemma is that the fear you experience now is of what "might happen." Understand that this is completely natural when you enter into an area that your mind has never experienced before and therefore has no point of reference to make decisions.

Its natural because its your mind's priority is to protect you from all possible danger. When you enter into a new situation, it automatically searches for the potential danger in order to keep you safe.

Given that you're no longer facing a potentially deadly predator (i.e., there isn't any real danger right in front of you), your brain immediately starts to go through its rolodex of ALL potential dangers that exist in whatever situation you are focused on at moment: making a phone call to a seller, networking, talking to another investor, negotiating, etc.

If you look closely, what you fear nowadays is not getting killed by the tiger ...
 
You fear being alone

Let's look at those phrases mentioned above because there is one more part to them that occurs in our mind. It goes something like this ...

"If I don't know what to say, then I'll be embarrassed and they won't deal with me again, and I'll be on my own."
"If I don't know what I'm doing, then I will look dumb and nobody will work with me, and I'll be on my own."
"If I don't have the money, then I can't do anything, and I'll be on my own."
"If I don't have the resources, then nobody will work with me and I can't proceed, and I'll be on my own."

How Does This Fear of Being Alone Stuff Relate To Real Estate?

After nourishment, the most basic of human needs is to form relationships. Real estate is not a business of properties, financing, contracts, or construction. It's a business of relationships.

Those other things result from relationships but without relationships, you simply don't have a real estate business.

This is where your fear works against you because you want to form those relationships, but you choose to allow your fear to stop you from doing so.

By choosing to allow your fear to inhibit you from forming relationships by avoiding them, you end up alone in this business. As a result, you have no business.

Even worse, you believe that you're the only person who has ever experienced these fears. Its an unnecessary cycle.

So What Do I Do Mr. Fear Expert?

You start to examine the evidence for your fears.

And How Do I Do That?

The next time you experience fear:

1) Acknowledge it out loud. For example: "I am afraid to talk the seller because ...".

2) Then state out loud the reasons why you are experiencing fear:
"Because I won't know what to say and they won't deal with me."
"Because I don't how to negotiate."
"Because they might get mad at me."

Note: stating your fears out loud may sound ridiculous but it serves a couple purposes: by stating something out loud it becomes real and, as a result, almost immediately become less intimidating.
These next to steps are extremely important:

3) Ask yourself what would happen if ALL of your concerns (perceived danger) came true. What if you got embarrassed? What if you didn't know what to say? And so on ...

4) If all of your concerns actually happened, what would that say about you? Would you be able to go on with your life or would that be the end?

Use these four steps to examine the evidence whenever you experience fear. You'll see that the more evidence that you look for to justify your fears, the less you'll find.

Thanks for your time.

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Beliefs, Success, Conscious and Unconscious Integration

English: Unconscious Motivation
Unconscious Motivation (Wikipedia)
by Todd Pierce

How much potential do we have as human beings?

  • What affects our potential?
  • With our potential we take action, yet do we always get good results?
  • What happens to our beliefs when we don't get a good result?
  • How does that affect what we believe is our potential?
  • If that decreases do you think we will take more or less action?
  • With the action we do take, do you think we will get better results?

This is essentially why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer

It all comes from what we believe is our potential, then our willingness to take action, and when we get that good result our beliefs get stronger which in turn increases our potential and so forth ...

So if our belief systems are filled with empowered beliefs then we perceive ourselves as having more potential. When we perceive ourselves as having more potential then we take greater action.

The greater the action we take the greater the result. When we get those amazing results then our beliefs become more and more empowered which furthers our perception of what we think our potential is.

This is the success cycle and it goes both ways and that means that you need to consciously begin to work with that part of you that is in general - out of consciousness - and begin to spin the cycle around so that instead of giving power to negative beliefs, start giving power to positive beliefs because that will have you tap in to your true potential which means you'll take amazing action and get fantastic results.

Because for a large portion of society; they have this cycle which is active in all areas of life, spinning in a downward spiral, leaving them with heartache, pain and a feeling of hopelessness.

Here's the thing ... it all comes down to you; nobody can make you do this

You may be a product of all the things that happened in your life but that does NOT mean that you have to be stuck because you have a choice, you've always had a choice, the problem is that we are never taught how to properly exercise this part of ourselves, the part that allows you to make massive changes in the quality of your life.

All
Learning
Behaviour
Change
is unconscious ...

And most people have their conscious mind (their logical mind) and their unconscious mind (their emotional mind) thoroughly separate.

Now with this being the case then it is no surprise why so many people have such trouble making changes, being happy and getting the things they want, it's because they have no communication between the two.

All your memories, values, beliefs, attitudes, perceptions and emotions are stored at the unconscious level. An emotional response is an unconscious response; some people get really emotional and don't know why.

When you get connection between your conscious and unconscious mind everything becomes much easier.

Think about it like this ...

  • Where you are right now? Is it where you want to be?
  • Do you think you could have more, be more and have done more?
  • Do you have all the things you want?
  • Are you on track to getting all the things you want?

Because if you boil it down into simplicity then there are only three things to consider when it comes to you not having, being or doing the things you desire.

  1. What am I doing?
  2. What am I not doing?
  3. What could possibly be the things that have prevented/will prevent me from achieving my outcomes?

Ask yourself:

  • What am I doing to get the things I want and to be happy?
  • Am I doing things that are actually holding me back?
  • What am I not doing to get the things I desire?

Now as you consider that you may be beginning to notice that both of these things come down to unconscious processes, because if you're doing things that are holding you back (habits, behaviours) then its unconscious programming.

If you are not doing all the things you know you can, then it's likely due to limiting beliefs about yourself or others, values conflict (it simply just isn't important enough to you at the unconscious level, we only do what is important to us), or maybe it's some other unresolved stuff sitting at the unconscious level.

They key is to get alignment at the unconscious level, let go of all your unresolved stuff, through learning about how your mind works and doing processes that have you consciously working with your unconscious then you'll build a strong connection between the two and life becomes much easier.

Does that make sense?

That by letting go of all your unresolved stuff and by being able to actually work with the part of you that controls majority of things in your life including emotions, beliefs, values and so forth.

That you would be able to put your life into a cycle of success?

You just have to make that choice to live the life you want, find what's been holding you back, learn what you need to make it happen or find somebody that can help you make those changes now.

Conscious mind and unconscious mind integration.

My name's Todd Pierce from Prime-Minds Solutions and I'm a peak performance coaching and training specialist.

I work with people on a regular basis in a business and personal setting helping them to recognise limiting patterns of behaviour and help them be motivated to make the changes they want.

What would being in total control of your emotions and being motivated to make changes do for you?
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Saturday, May 25, 2013

Achieve More by Learning How to Set Smart Goals

Get Smart
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by Shafiq Ul Hasan Siddiqui

The key to becoming successful is to learn how to set smart goals.

However, before you start writing down things you want to accomplish, it's important to sit down and assess yourself first.

What do you really want out of life? What are your present qualities that can help you in achieving your goals?

Getting to know yourself first and determining your capabilities can help you set realistic and achievable goals.

Know your Capabilities and Limitations

There are times when you think you can do everything. While this may often be taken as a good sign of confidence, you should also realize that not acknowledging your limitations can actually hinder you from reaching your goals.

When you have a realistic view of your capabilities, you will be able to easily point out areas that needs to be given attention. This way, you can improve one these qualities until they are no longer limitations for you.

If your goal is to join a marathon within a year and one of your present limitations is your diet, then you should focus on improving your diet first and then move on to the next step of achieving your goal.

When you focus on turning those limitations into capabilities, it will be easier for you to set a plan of action for your goals.

Be S.M.A.R.T.

Coming up with a SMART goal is not always as easy as it may sound. SMART is a mnemonic for a set of guidelines you should use when setting goals or objectives.

S= Specific

Your goal must not be ambiguous. It should be clear and well-defined. A simple goal will help you stay on the right track. A goal that is specific must answer the question "What do I need to do". A goal that states "I want to teach a class on the importance of breastfeeding for new mothers in the community" is a lot better than a goal saying "I want to help new mothers in the community".

M= Measurable

How will you know that you have achieved your goal? Having a way to measure your efforts will help you determine if you are getting nearer to your goal or not.

A= Attainable

A goal is attainable if you have the required skill needed to perform the task and you have the necessary resources. These could be in the form of skills, experience, knowledge, man power and even budget.

R = Relevant

A goal is relevant if it is consistent with your other goals and contributes to your personal growth and development.

T= Time Bound

Having a time frame is part of goal setting. Without setting a deadline, you may procrastinate or even end up simply abandoning your goal.

Be Inspired

Without motivation and inspiration, it will be difficult for you to work on achieving your goals. One of the things you can do to get motivated is to join a goal based social network.

This way, you will be able to connect with people who can help you in setting better goals. You will also get to meet people who will motivate you to carry on despite of the many stumbling blocks you may face along the way.

Shafiq Ul Hasan Siddiqui is a content analyst at Linkagoal, a goal-based social network that motivates users to create smart goals and share their success with others.

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Friday, May 24, 2013

Why You Are What You Think About and the Consequences

Man thinking on a train journey.
Man thinking on a train (Wikipedia)
by W Timothy Johnson

How many people do you know that are happy, healthy, wealthy and living the "good life" that constantly worry about things?

Little things? Dumb things? Unimportant things?

Not many.

And it's not just because they are living the "good life" either.

If your thoughts are always dominated by negatives, problems and conflicts, you will ALWAYS have negatives, problems and conflicts.

Why?

Well how can you possibly achieve greater and better things in life if all you ever think about are the bad things that have happened or are happening to you?

Where do you find the time to learn from mistakes? Or how to avoid similar problems in the future? Where do you find the time to plan the future, much less act on it?

The human mind is an incredible thing. It can deliver to you the things you focus on. If you focus on getting out of debt, a better job, you will most likely do it.

What most forget is that worry means the same as focus in this context. Worrying is focusing on your problems in a negative way.

While it is good to be concerned about potential road blocks and problems, we absolutely cannot spend all our time on them or over analyze what might happen if we encounter them.

We WILL encounter them, but constant fixating on them will do nothing to overcome the road blocks in life. NOTHING.

When you worry, you take away that part of you that is working in the background. That is the part that "sees" the opportunities and possibilities in life.

Worry, conflict and negative emotions are like putting blinders or sunglasses on. Instead, focus on possible solutions and watch what happens.

Let's think about an addict. What does an addict think about all the time? His addiction of course.

An addict's purpose in life is the next fix and only the next fix. You can be addicted to anything in life. Bad things and good. No addiction is good though. Food is good and necessary. An addiction to it leads to obesity, disease and an early death just the same as an addiction to cocaine can.

We need to put good and varied things into our mind. We need to think about the future in a positive way, the possibilities and probabilities. We need to think about the impact we can have on others for their good.

We need to think about the good we can do for our family, our friends and our communities. We need to think about WHY we want to be successful at what we do and why we want to achieve certain things.

Focusing on and thinking about selfish things, makes you a selfish person.

Focusing on and thinking about helping others, makes you not just a helping person, but someone others respect, admire and emulate. Focusing on this causes us to find ways to be better at everything we do.

Think about how you can help others in your family, job, business, church and community. And then do it.

What does that make you now?

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Are You Living Your Life or Your Parents Life?

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by Hazel Palache

Did you choose the life you are living or are you living your parents life because of the stories you have in your head.

Through working with clients over the years and my own journey, I've seen many people who didn't realize that the reason they couldn't achieve what they wanted in life, relationships or business was because of the thoughts in their head.

Take a look at your thinking, is the story you are telling yourself yours or are you re-living your parents life?

You don't come into the world with fears and doubts or expectations and entitlement issues, you learn them. From family, society, school and the world in general!

And, as you learn, not knowing any differently, what you see and hear as a child creates the story and you become an adult living life from that place.

Did you ever hear "don't' be so selfish" or why can't you be like little Jimmy, Jenny or whatever the name was at the time or maybe "money doesn't grow on trees" and maybe everything was very chaotic.

There are probably a myriad of different ways in which what you saw and heard as a child has affected your life. And, it's not even what you see and hear that counts, it's how you as a child perceive it.

When you are told "don't be selfish" the perception as a child is usually that you are not worthy. Not feeling worthy leads to lack of confidence and fear and going forward you don't put yourself at the top of the list because that would be "selfish."

You doubt your ability to achieve the success you want or to maintain a healthy loving relationship and you continue to live your life without the balance you deserve.

There are very few people that this doesn't apply to. When I was in private practice I saw a lot of A level celebrities who would come in with a completely different 'face' than the ones you might see on the screen.

They weren't all made up and smiling, they were working through the pain of not feeling they were worthy enough or able to maintain healthy relationships or fears that they would fail and usually a huge lack of confidence. Because of 'stuff' they had been carrying around in their head for years.

In changing your story you can change your life! Always believe in yourself no matter what anybody else tells you. Everyone in their own way is special but you are unique too, you are the only you so treat yourself with love, admiration and pride.

Transformation Expert and certified coach Hazel Palache is the president of Your Stairway to Wealth and an Amazon, best selling author and motivational speaker. Hazel has been in the field of personal, professional and spiritual development for over 20 years.

She teaches 40+ women how to let go of fear and doubt so they change the way they think and they live their life infused with more joy, fun and financial freedom.

For more information and to register for for her free Lifestyle and Business Alchemy Report and international Monday Motivator visit http://www.yourstairwaytowealth.com

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Who Can Use Coaching?

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by Bonnie Dewkett

Who can use coaching?

Just about everyone can use a little "tune up" in his or her personal or professional lives.

Coaching is different than therapy.

While a therapist wants you to talk about your emotions, coaching focuses on solutions and the actions that can help you reach your goals, both short and long term.

Coaching is a gentle reminder to stay on the course you have determined you want to live.

We often get lost in the day to day and forget that what we do, each and every minute has an effect on our long-term success.

Coaching provides us with a mirror and an unbiased view of our lives and ourselves. Like doctors, coaches offer unbiased and nonjudgmental views of what they observe.

There is nothing that can surprise a coach or make them take a step back. Coaches help you find the solutions. In most cases, you already had them inside of you and just needed someone to help you change perspective.

Just a few reasons to use a coach:

1. You're ready to change careers

Even if you don't know what's next working with a coach can help you determine what you are most skilled doing and what brings you happiness. If you have been in the same position for a number of years, working with a coach to take a step back and access your strengths is an important step in earning the position you desire.

2. If you're unhappy

Working with a coach can help you achieve the life you want to live. Working with someone is an important way to take a look at your life with another perspective.

3. Your business isn't what you want it to be

The work place is where we spend most of our time. Even on the best days, stress level can be high and it can creep into your personal life. We can help you separate your work and personal lives, and become more productive in both.

4. If your relationships weren't as fulfilling as you'd like them to be

We need to put a lot of time and energy into relationships to make them worth of your time and love. Working with a coach can help you better the relationship you have, make new ones and determine if some relationships are not worthy of your time and attention.

5. Your home is cluttered

If you just can't seem to accomplish what is on your to do list and your home is filled with stuff, we can help you live a life free of clutter, stress and missed appointments. Working with a coach can help you determine how what you do every day makes impacts on your long-term goals and lifestyle. Working to determine what is truly important to you and aligning it with your goals.

6. Your family could be more cohesive

Families rarely take the time to discuss goals, troubles or joys. By working with a coach you can align all of these and make your family more unified, supportive and learn to truly enjoy time together.

Coaching doesn't carry with it the same stigma as therapy. In many cases it can be even more productive for you as it focuses on actions you can take today to improve your quality of life.

Getting things done is great, but a coach will help you to ensure you are getting the RIGHT things done.

Call or email for a free consultation! We help you get started moving in the right direction, no matter what that means for you! Practical, easy to implement tips that will make you happier TODAY!

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Thursday, May 23, 2013

6 Essential Leadership Traits

Regional Leadership Forum
Regional Leadership Forum (Wikipedia)
by Chris D Cruz

Though some aspects of good leadership such as confidence and problem solving skills may be taught in leadership courses, there are some things that simply must come about naturally to have the desired effect.

The benefits of the most important leadership traits are obvious, though the actual traits themselves may not be obviously present.

Competitive

A good leader is driven and competitive. They pride themselves in offering the best available service or option, and will work hard to out-do their adversaries. They will resolve themselves to be the absolute best they can be and produce the best work possible for their abilities.

Trustworthy

An untrusted leader will have no followers, negating the title of "leader" completely. If employees and employers alike feel that they can trust the person in charge of projects, more work will be delegated to them.

Conversely, an untrustworthy individual will drive potential clients toward competitors. A good leader should be able to garner trust, and, in operating under that trust, not break it.

Intelligent

Competitive drive and the ability to create a bond of trust mean little, if the person with those traits is unable to complete a project due to a lack of intelligence. Intelligence and ingenuity are important for organization of information and materials required for a project.

As well, it helps to garner trust in their coworkers if they feel the person in charge is intelligent enough to handle the task.

Focused

The ability to remain focused on future goals and tasks at hand is one of the most important traits on this list. Without a commander with their eyes on the prize, direction could quickly be lost, resulting in chaos and, potentially, utter collapse of the blueprints of the plan.

They should be able to create and keep in perspective any goals necessary to the completion of assignments, and they should be able to drive those working under them to keep the same perspective and focus they have.

Communicative

The ability to clearly state objectives and assignments is important to the delegation of specific tasks within a given project. As well, anyone working under the leader should be able to approach them without hesitation or risk of judgement or repercussion.

Without an open line of communication, important information can be lost or neglected. This can lead to project errors, or even complete collapse of the project. As they say, the devil is in the details, and, if left unchecked, can cause the whole plan to go awry.

Vision

True leaders are never satisfied with the present situation, and have a vision for a better, brighter future. They are always working towards achieving their vision, and are willing to do anything in order to successfully reach this goal.

They often share their vision with their coworkers and those above them, which can add to the ingenuity and development of a company as a whole.

Though many people can be taught important leadership traits, the six described above are the most essential, and, unfortunately, most difficult to come by.

They're difficult to teach, but if you're lucky enough to have an employee on staff who exhibits these traits, further training and a position with more power will help to foster them, benefiting your company in the long run.

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