Thursday, August 29, 2013

Why Do Some People Refuse To Change?

“I can be changed by what happens to me, but I...
“I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.” -Maya Angelou. (Photo credit: deeplifequotes)
by Jon Domer

Change is a common topic in the subject of personal development, because change is a part of life.

Successful people embrace change and plan for it, but unsuccessful people fear and dread it.

Here are some reasons why people are afraid of, or refuse to, change:

Change is uncomfortable

One characteristic of change that seems unpleasant is that it is uncomfortable.

It entails moving out of one's comfort zone, shaking things, moving around, and breaking patterns.

This aspect of change is readily visible, and if a person has the tendency to see the negative side of things, the person would tend to focus on the negative impact of change - and sometimes even exaggerate it. On the other hand, the positive impact of change is often not evident.

Hence, some people respond to change based on the negative consequences than on the positive effects.

People fear that the change will not turn out well

People also refuse to change for fear that the change will not turn out positively. Change takes courage, and one major stumbling block is the fear of failure, ridicule, embarrassment, and of the unknown.

But, really, ask yourself: "What is the worst that can happen?" "Is it any worse than my condition right now." "Where will I be years from now, if I don't change?"

Some people are afraid to change jobs because of the uncertainties with the new job. But what if it turns out fine? What if it turns out to be the best job so far?

As the saying goes, "Stop thinking of what could go wrong, and think of what could go right." It pays to remember that every positive result takes bold decisions.

Change takes effort

This is true when it comes to diet, physical fitness and exercise. It's also true about reading good books. Everything that affects life in some way takes effort.

Watching television all days takes effort; only, the "benefit" of watching television seems more immediate than say, reading a motivational book or listening to audiobooks.

But in the long run, when all the negative effects of neglect have piled up, one thing is going to be true: It would take more effort to endure a life of regret.

People refuse counsel and advice

There are people who refuse to accept criticism and counsel. One sign of this is "seniority complex". You've probably met somebody in your workplace who thinks he or she deserves to be promoted because of seniority.

Or maybe you've encountered an older person who refuses to learn from a younger person who happens to know better. Wisdom comes from the lessons gained from experience, not just age.

Really, what is there to fear or worry about change?

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