|Confidence-based learning (Wikipedia)|
While many claim that circumstances, events, and other outside forces are often to blame for their lack of the hoped for degree of success, generally, the reality is that we are much more often our own worst enemies, refusing to look within at how we can improve.
Our most important task is to do all we can to create a "better me," rather than expending our energies on blaming circumstances and others for why we may not have succeeded to the desired degree.
Until each of us adapt ourselves to the "It's up to me" mindset and philosophy, we will never achieve what we wish or need to do.
There are three basic factors that go into this: 1. maintaining a positive can-do attitude; 2. evaluate, learn, and know our personal strengths and weaknesses; and 3. an understanding that self-confidence is far different from ego.
1. Everything constructive in life begins with having a positive attitude
This is far different than simply using the rhetoric of positivism, and requires an introspective self evaluation, training, learning, and an absolute commitment to prioritize how you can, as opposed to seeking reasons that you will be less than successful.
A positive mindset puts one in a position of accepting the challenges that come before us, and using our energies constructively and in a forward - thinking manner. We must learn that when we proceed in a positive manner, we become energized and accomplish far more.
2. Perhaps one of the greatest challenges, and most difficult tasks, that each of us face, is to know our strengths as well as our weaknesses
Individuals often are either self-defacing, and refuse to admit their strengths, or they behave as egoists, often refusing to either admit or even acknowledge that they have weaknesses.
We will invariably become better and more effective when we take the time and exert the effort to learn more about these factors.
The key and essential aspect is to ascertain each of these, and then to properly utilize these strengths, while addressing our weaknesses, and enhancing/ improving ourselves in those areas.
3. There is often a fine line between the needed and necessary degree of self confidence, as opposed to unfounded egoism
In fact, more often than not, those behaving in an apparently egotistical manner are in actuality quite insecure. The goal should be self-improvement.
Will you commit to creating a better you, so that you can actually perform to your potential? It's always up to each of us personally!
Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, and Director of Development, as well as a consultant. He has professionally run events, consulted to over a thousand leaders, and conducted personal development seminars, for over 30 years.
Rich has written three books and well over a thousand articles. His company, PLAN2LEAD, LLC has an informative website http://plan2lead.net and Plan2lead can also be followed on Facebook http://Facebook.com/Plan2lead
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