Sunday, May 19, 2013

Two Important Life Skills

Beautiful place to relax
Beautiful place to relax (Wikipedia)
by Linda Binns

When it comes to mastering the skills that are necessary to help you live the life that you want, have the success that you want, and the relationships that you want, I have found that there are two in particular that are perhaps the most important, and also the most difficult.

If you embrace these two life skills they seem to make everything else so much easier. Yet the majority of people (myself included) find them challenging.


This is easier said than done. You might think that you are a relaxed person - I used to think that about myself, and so do many people I know. Yet when you look really deeply, you may find that you're not as relaxed as you thought.

Do you:

  • Worry about things you have no control over
  • Stress about what 'might' or 'could' happen
  • Try to control outcomes
  • Think that everything has to be a certain way
  • Have perfectionist tendencies
  • Deny yourself the time to take care of yourself or to do fun things
  • Put everybody else before you
  • Overwork

If you look at yourself honestly, you may find that you're not as relaxed as you thought. Why is relaxing so important?

Because the more energy that you put into any of the above, the less you have for yourself, the more out of alignment you can become, and the less likely it is that you will easily find solutions to the challenges you are facing.

When you are not relaxed you cannot fully be open to opportunities that come your way. You block yourself off from anything good. You'll struggle more than you need to.

You'll find yourself trying to make things happen or wishing things would happen or being frustrated because things are not happening as you want them to - this is not being relaxed.

It's harder than it sounds because you can't just give yourself a command to relax and then find yourself doing it.

Instead, you have to catch yourself when you're not relaxed, take a deep breath and be willing to let go of the stress, anxiety and struggle. If you are at least willing to let it go, then you are on the way to allowing yourself to relax.


During a recent tele-seminar interview that I did with Human Design expert, ReGina Concotelli, she was sharing the qualities and aspects of the different personality types as outlined in Human Design.

She was sharing what each of the types needed to do to be in alignment with their true selves, and to maximize their energy. The one thing that all of them benefited from the most is waiting.

This means waiting and allowing a pause before you jump into something or before you take action. Pausing to allow yourself to really connect on an inner level with what it is you want to do.

When you allow yourself to wait and check in with yourself this way, you can easily get a sense of whether or not this is something that you truly want to put your energy into.

Waiting in fact allows you to not only make sure that it's the right thing for you to do, but it also allows you to put more of your energy into it when you do it.

Because then you truly know it's the right thing and you'll be doing it at the right time - for you. This is because you took the time to wait and check in with yourself.

If you're like me and you love to take action and you enjoy being busy, waiting can be one of the most difficult things. I have so many ideas that when a really good one comes along it is tempting for me to just jump in.

However, I am learning to wait and when I do that it ultimately makes whatever I want to do so much easier. I find that the right people show up to help me, things flow more easily because the timing is right and I'm not trying to force anything.

Most of all, I feel more energized because I'm making the best use of my energy.

Practice these two critical life skills and see how much easier, and more enjoyable your life can be.
Linda Binns is an energy expert. She specializes in helping sensitive and highly sensitive people understand and manage themselves and their energy so they can be more successful and fulfilled both personally and professionally.

Linda Binns is the author of 7 books on energy, including her popular Energy Tips Series which demonstrates how to easily improve your health, increase your income, sell your house and create a supportive home environment by changing your energy.

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