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"There is just one life for each of us: our own" ~ Euripides.
I'm sure you've heard the expression, "You know what they say?" Who are THEY? I've heard it a hundred times.
They say that people should do this or that. Or, they say this is right and that is wrong. They say a lot of stuff but who died and made them boss?
There are no rules that mandate that you have to live by what they say.
Of course, they say we should live by the Golden Rule - Do unto others, and I actually have to agree with them this one time. But when it comes to your own personal choices, what do YOU say?
There is no law that says you have to grow up, get married and have children otherwise you won't be happy. But many people seem to believe that to be true. Who says you can't be happy without getting married and having a family?
There is also no law that says just because someone does something one way that their way is right and yours is wrong.
For instance, let's say you're a picky eater. And you're with someone that likes to try all kinds of new and different foods. There you are dining out and you don't want to try the Lizard's Eyes in Champagne Sauce because it just doesn't sound very appetizing to you. Your friend says to you, "Oh, I can't believe you won't try it, you are such a picky eater."
So, who cares if you're a picky eater? (Apparently, they do.) It's not like you're saying to them. "Oh, I can't believe you're going to eat that, you're NOT a picky eater." They say you should try new foods and experience new cuisines. Again, who are they to tell you what to do?
When someone tries to push their opinions on you they act as if there is something wrong with you because you should do it the way THEY think you should. When in reality you are perfect just the way you are with all of your likes, dislikes, habits, little idiosyncrasies and the way you do things is just fine.
I say, "You be you and I'll be me."
If I want to watch T.V. and you don't. Then don't. If you want to eat anything that crosses your path then by all means eat it and Bon Appetit!
But don't try and make me be any different than I am because I like who I am and I'm sorry you don't. And vice versa, you have no business trying to change someone to be who you want them to be because as you probably already know, the only person you can change is you.
Unless someone is hurting you by their behavior or they're abusive on some level; simply let them be who they are (if they are hurting you, it's time to set boundaries, but that's another issue altogether).
By accepting people with all of their so called faults, if that's what you want to call them, you take the pressure off of you for not liking what they do or don't do and you take it off of them so they can just be who they are. And then everyone is happy!
The truth is that when people let go of judgment, condemnation and criticisms it frees you and them to live in harmony and you know what THEY say, "The truth will set you free."
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