Saturday, December 8, 2012

Want More Self-Esteem? Just Follow These Tips

Self Esteem
Self Esteem (Photo credit: Editor B)
by Tony Mase

If you never seem to feel good about yourself, you're not alone. Luckily, though, you don't have to live that way anymore! Instead of falling victim to low self-esteem, you can fight against it by following these 5 tips:

1. Be honest with yourself

Sit down and honestly analyze your self-esteem. What makes you feel bad about yourself?

Are there certain situations that do a number on your self-esteem - like going to an event where you don't know anyone? Are there certain people who make you feel bad about yourself - like a spouse who says mean things or a friend who's always trying one-up you?

The sooner you can figure out what makes your self-esteem plummet, the sooner you can take action to stop it.

2. Listen to your inner conversation

Everyone talks to themselves - whether it's out loud or just as a silent inner dialogue. Either way, the conversation you have with yourself can be crippling to your self-esteem. In fact, the negative things you say to yourself can be far worse than anything anyone else says to you!

Here's a good rule of thumb - if you wouldn't say something to a friend, don't say it to yourself. Once you stop your negative inner conversation, chances are you'll feel a whole lot better about yourself!

3. Set an "alarm" for when your thoughts turn negative

As hard as you try to eliminate negative thoughts, they can still creep up. That's why it's so important to alert yourself every time your inner conversation starts to damage your self-esteem. That inner "alarm" will eventually help you cut negative thoughts out altogether.

When your "alarm" goes off, take note of what's happening physically. You may discover you have trouble sleeping, an upset stomach, or you start to sweat. By seeing how your negative thoughts are affecting your whole body, you'll have an even bigger incentive to stop them.

4. Challenge your negative thoughts

Most of the bad things you say to yourself are completely irrational. So, whenever you say something bad about yourself, challenge it. If there's any evidence to the contrary, say it - out loud if you have to.

For example, if you tell yourself you're a terrible student - but you just got an A on your midterm - that's evidence you're not as bad a student as you thought. By "arguing" with yourself, you can prevent yourself from believing those irrational, negative thoughts.

5. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones

Instead of talking about what you can't do, talk about what you can do. For example, if you know there's not enough time to 10 pounds before your high school reunion, don't beat yourself up over it. Instead, remind yourself you've got plenty of time to lose 5 pounds. Just like that, you've turned a negative into a positive!

Tony Mase is a serious student of the works of Wallace D. Wattles and the publisher of the "Lessons in Constructive Science" ebook package that includes " Your Own Ability " by Wallace D. Wattles along with fourteen other great articles by Wallace D. Wattles. Grab your copy now at:

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