Friday, September 30, 2011

Your Past Is Your Future

Go to the FutureGo to the Future - Image via WikipediaBy Andre DeFosses

At first this title might sound like I'm saying you can't control your future; this is not true. We all create a new past every moment. I like to call our actions and thoughts memory seeds. Every action you take is like planting a seed. The action may only take a few minutes or hours but the effect will be felt well into the future.

This is very important because thoughtless actions, words and thoughts can have a huge result in the future.

Today I plant a seed. I do this now. Tomorrow my past becomes my future. There is a seed growing. I did not need to grow it, only plant it. If the spot I plant in has enough nutrition, light and water then I might not even need to do anything else to it. In my future there will be a tree with fruit. The type of fruit of course depends on the seed I plant. My past became my future.

Some of our memory seeds are good for us and those around us and some are not. Some of them can grow with little or no effort. Others need constant care and attention. The same is true for the plant to stay alive. Some just die off and others never go away. This is important.

Think of another event in life like going to see a movie with a friend. The movie only lasts a few hours. The experience of the movie lasts perhaps even a lifetime. You saw the movie in your past, but most of the actual experience of it is in your future. You think about the movie, talk about the movie. Some things that happen in your life may remind you of parts of the movie as well. Feeling very inspired is common after watching a great film. Like anything else in life, the experience can change you forever.

This is all great news for us. realizing even the smallest action today can tomorrow be something else entirely is extremely liberating. We can be very aware of what we are creating for ourselves and others. We can also clean up the past by taking care of the present. We can weed the garden. We can uproot the plants we don't like and take better care of the ones we do.

Take great care of your mind garden. Plant only the highest quality thoughts and actions and watch them grow into the brightest happiest future you can't even imagine.

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Thursday, September 29, 2011

What Is Procrastination? Beat It and Become a Happier Person Who WILL Achieve More!

DSC02210Image by lemonfridge via FlickrBy Debbie D B

So what is procrastination? Basically, you are putting off things that are important for 'a later day', you are in effect doing less important things in it's place.

It may be very basic and simple, yet the results have far reaching implications.

Maybe beating procrastination is no big deal, right? Think again, for those who are skeptical why not take a look at your surroundings, do you have children, do they dote on you, do they follow your every move, mimic your actions, it might seem amusing while they are young, what about when they get older, need to start doing things for themselves, what kind of role model are you setting. Are you even aware that you are setting a bad example, ignorance is bliss.

As loving parents we want the best for our children, we are there to lead by example but more importantly, we want them to grow up to become decent human beings. It starts at home.

When you think there are only 24 hours in each day, there's never enough time, it is a challenge, a challenge which if not checked, could have far reaching effects on your life and others.

I'll do it later.
I will do it tomorrow.
I have got plenty of time.
I am too busy I'll do it later.
I am tired............. Ring any bells?

Continue being a slave to a bad habit or change. Change is difficult but the rewards are so worth the effort.

Each and every time you say to yourself "I'll do it tomorrow' you are in effect reinforcing the very habit you are trying to avoid in the first place - as my father use to say, tomorrow never comes, do it now - but more importantly - I did.

The good news is that it does not need to be that way, behavior is learned, we know that because we have been learning all our lives, how to walk, to talk, how to eat etc, if we can learn how to, we can learn how not to also.

You can beat procrastination and eradicate it from your life once and for all. Beat it. Stop it. Avoid it.

One of the most difficult challenges is to know how to change your mindset, before you can move forward you need to know why you need to move forward in the first place. Makes sense.

Wouldn't you really like to know why you procrastinate in the first place and how it begins, what the signs of procrastination are or the effects and the steps needed to avoid it. The bottom line is unless you are successful, have everything you have ever wanted you really need to know how you can beat procrastination.

Beat procrastination and avoid it, by being shown step by step how to beat this dream stealer, eradicate it from your life once and for all by clicking the link below.
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Wednesday, September 28, 2011

How To Change Your Thoughts in 3 Simple Steps!

Cover of "Change your life"Cover of Change your lifeBy Christiana R Carter

The quality of your life is reflective of the quality of your thoughts.

Are you a glass is half full or half empty person? Your thoughts create your life. Do you believe people are out to get you? Then that's the experience you'll have. Or do you believe that people go out of their way to help you? If so, you'll notice people showing up to help. Which are you most like?

You choose what you think. You are either consciously creating your thoughts or passively reacting to the habit of thinking. What do you spend the majority of your time thinking about? Is it positive or negative? You can change your thoughts and focus in 3 simple steps.
  1. Make your success list! Think of all the best moments of your life. How did they feel? What were those moments you were at your best or succeeded? Now on a separate sheet of paper write down all your failures. How many have you overcome or turned around? Those get added to your success list too.
  2. Make your joy list. Write down everything that brings you joy or makes you happy. Take a few uninterrupted moments to do this. Now write the percentage of time you spend doing these activities. This is only a gauge to know where you are starting. Now mark your top 5 activities. Put them on your calendar.
  3. Make your laughter list. There will most likely be overlap here. Think about everything that makes you laugh and write out this list; Friends, activities, things you find funny. What about movies, comedians, or books? What we are doing is creating a menu of things you can do when you have pockets of time and need to laugh.
    Print out a copy of these lists and put it somewhere where you'll see it everyday. Make a point to read it everyday. You get what you focus on. This will help you spend your time thinking about your successes which will bring more successes. Laughter will be available when you need it most.

    Laughter is a holistic approach. First you must find remind yourself what's working in your life, where you have succeeded and what your best moments have been thus far. Then compile a list of things make you happy and finally write out your laughter list. Let these become your bucket list.

    Start checking items off your list every week, month or year depending on the size. Some will become reoccurring activities you do daily, weekly or monthly. The more you find time in your schedule for these the better your results will be.

    In order to bring more joy and laughter into your life, focus on improving the quality of your thoughts. You'll find that the more you consciously choose your thoughts the happier and lighter you'll become.

    T. Harv Eker says, "Thoughts lead to Feelings which Lead to Actions which lead to Results." Thoughts come first. So the first step is to consciously start choosing to focus on what's working, what brings us joy and what makes us laugh.

    Life will be challenging and throw in some curve balls but stick with it and you'll notice you bounce back quicker and easier each time. Change your thoughts and you'll change your results. You can change your life at the speed of thought and laughter is just around the corner!

    Getting different results means taking a different action. Take a different action and see what happens! Let the laughter flow!! You'll be feeling the benefits of laughter in no time. Here's to a life of laughter!

    Christiana has been studying laughter since January 2002 after a natural healer told her she did laugh enough. She transformed her life with laughter. Now her passion is helping others do the same to attract the life they want and to improve their health.

    For great tips, tools and videos visit her website Now you can laugh yourself healthy and happy!

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    Tuesday, September 27, 2011

    Take The Leap

    duiken bungy jumpImage by Gerard Stolk 64 via FlickrBy Nadine Lajoie

    At one point or another in our lives we need to take a leap. We as humans have a tendency to analyze things in such detail that we never take the leap of faith. We are always concerned with the outcome, how our action will affect us and our future.

    As a result of this, we never listen to our heart and are always using our brain. I insist that one should take the leap and it is likely that you will benefit. And, if unfortunately something bad happens, you can always count it as a learning experience. Below, I shall share with you my personal anecdote of the big leap I took and what I learned.

    The first thing that comes to mind before taking any leap is your comfort zone. People don't like to get out of their comfort zone. I always dreamed of owning a sports car, but the only way I could do it in my early professional career, was to sell my house and my lovely Mercedes convertible. And believe me when I say I dearly loved both of those belongings. But to make my sports car dream real, I had to sacrifice them both.

    So despite my family and friends advising me otherwise; I took the leap and sold my house and car. I started living in the basement of my office, but ended up buying a 1995 Chevy Van. Apparently it seemed like a big setback.

    However, when I wanted to take a tour of the United States, here is where the van became useful. I started looking for a companion who could accompany me on my journey and I met a woman named Carole. Again my family and friends warmed me against trusting a total stranger.

    However, I took the leap of faith and Carole is now one of my good friends. She and I witnessed the most amazing scenery and shared many adventures. And, by the end, my life dream of visiting California came true in this journey. So it all seemed worth it.

    I might say that by taking the leap I have learned a lot and am more satisfied internally. What I learned was that I had to break out of my comfort zone in order to experience new adventures. My leap initially seemed at loss when I ended up buying a Chevy Van, but the results proved otherwise. I got the chance to make my dream of touring the United States come true.

    And the same is the case with meeting Carole. If I had not taken the leap of trusting her; I might have not had the chance of knowing her and finding a good friend.

    So what I highly recommend is that you break out of your comfort zone and take the leap. Stop worrying about what will happen, just remember that no matter whatever happens you are strong enough to face it. Once you develop the attitude that you are IN-POWER, then there is no stopping you from experiencing new horizons and achieving your dream. So trust yourself and take the leap.

    To your Success,
    Nadine Lajoie

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    Monday, September 26, 2011

    Limiting Beliefs: Overcome Thoughts That Sabotage Success

    You Don't Have To Stay Inside The LinesImage by cyi101 via FlickrBy Barrie Davenport

    Right now, think of something that you've always wanted to do but haven't done. Got it?

    Okay, now ask yourself why. What has held you back from doing that thing you've dreamed of doing?

    There might be some solid reasons. I have two daughters who are ballet dancers. I've always wanted to be a ballet dancer, but if I started training now, I might make it into Ballet Geriatric. I'd be in the corps, standing in the back, wearing a heating pad under my tutu. Sadly, it's too late for me to be a professional dancer, but I can still dance.

    Yes, there are some dreams we might not be able to realize. Most of us won't become professional dancers, athletic superstars, or president. But I'd like to suggest that the vast majority of our dreams can become reality, and we are the only ones holding ourselves back from seizing those dreams.

    As Paul Simon says, "There must be fifty ways to leave your lover." I think there are fifty ways to sabotage your success. Let's look at a few of them.

    I Don't Have Time

    This is the oldest excuse in the book, isn't it? You don't have time if you don't make the time. Life is a demanding mistress, and if we let her, she can take over and manipulate us like puppets. We race around with our tasks and jobs and look longingly at our dream like it's a distant vision in the mist. It will stay that way if we don't seize life by the horns and control it. Put your dream first or at least near the top of your priorities.

    You control time. It doesn't control you. Make the decision to act on your vision, and remarkably all other activities will find their place in your schedule. Ask yourself if you are using your belief about time as an excuse to sabotage success.

    I Might Fail

    Yes, you might. But if you only do things you are already successful at doing, you will never grow. Even though it can smack you around and embarrass you, failure is really your best friend. If you fail, you have tried. If you never try, you will never make it to your dream. Sometimes success is a pathway cobbled with failures.

    Every stepping stone leads you to what you want, and you will get there eventually, even if you trip a few times. Try to laugh at failure, even learn to love it. It shows that you are bold and fearless and willing to step out of your comfort zone. Accept that failure is a natural part of the path to success and just keep going in spite of it!

    I Don't Know How

    This is the first cousin of I Don't Have Time and I Might Fail. If you knew how, you probably would have done it. You just don't want to take the time to learn, and you might not get it right the first time. Most of the time, it's never as hard as you think. I have been a "special need" computer user most of my adult life.

    Now I'm a successful blogger, even though I just recently learned what "URL" means. I figured it out, mostly by myself. Whatever it is, you can learn it. Just get started. Take the first action.

    Others Might Disapprove

    This is a hard one. It's so uncomfortable to offend or disappoint people, especially people in your family. Like your mom or dad. Or spouse. We do so many things because we feel we "should." Or we let our dreams sail by because someone else doesn't think it's the right dream for us. Sometimes sacrifice is necessary, especially if your actions might really hurt someone. But if you are just avoiding the discomfort of someone's anger, then you will be forever resentful.

    This is your one and only life. If you live to age ninety, count up the days you have left. Do you want to give up your dream because it might make someone mad? They will get over it, and if they don't, they are not supporting you the way you deserve to be supported.

    I'm Too Old

    I recently turned fifty, but inside I feel the same as I did at thirty. Don't act your age. Act on your dreams in spite of your age. Your brain continues to grow and thrive even into old age - but only if you keep learning!

    See every single day as a delicious PuPu platter at a Chinese restaurant. There are so many wonderful choices, so keep choosing to engage in life regardless of age. Age has some limitations (I, for one, no longer wear bikinis), but life is to be lived with joy and passion and adventure. Use the wisdom of age to enjoy every minute to the fullest!

    Limiting beliefs can only control them if you believe in them. Stop believing in limiting beliefs. See them for what they are - a smokescreen to forward moving action. Vaporize the beliefs and just take action. Before you know it, you will have unlimited possibilities manifesting before you!

    You can zap limiting beliefs by doing the inner work necessary to find your passion and purpose in life. When you tap in to what makes you truly fulfilled and happy, when you find your life passion and discover what is most meaningful to you, you will see that it is easy to zap limiting beliefs. Living an authentic life helps you recognize the thoughts that sabotage you and drag you down. Put some time and effort into finding your passion, and you will also find that limiting beliefs begin to disappear.

    Barrie Davenport is a personal and career coach and the founder of Live Bold and Bloom, a blog about bold and fearless living.

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    Friday, September 23, 2011

    3 Steps to Deal With That Perfectionist Inner Critic

    Japanese Tea Flavoured Ice CreamJapanese perfectionism - Image by timtak via FlickrBy Valencia Ray MD

    Perfectionism will reduce your personal power and effectiveness. I used to take pride in saying I was a "perfectionist" until I started to realize WHY I was a perfectionist.

    Truth was, I felt insecure and "making a mistake" pushed my "not good enough" button that I was doing my best to conceal. I was great at putting on a mask that appeared by most people's account as smart, successful and competent.

    Actually, I really was smart, successful and competent ... I just didn't really believe I was on the inside. My inner critic worked overtime no matter how many tests I aced, how much money I made, or how many successful eye surgeries I performed. So, of course, I was always driven to "do" more because I thought if I could just do more, I could "be" more.

    I was also sucked into believing back then that if I could achieve more, then I could "have" more, and then I would be "more happy." Well, one day I finally woke up. I realized that there is a very big difference between "perfectionism" and excellence. I also started to take steps to change my thinking and to rid myself of these beliefs. Here are three examples of what I did at the level of self-identity.

    1. I made an intention to begin to like myself, so-called "flaws" and all. So, what's wrong with having flaws, anyway? Why are we so worried about being "perfect," and who gets to say what this is, anyway? Well, it worked and I have discovered that as I learned how to disconnect the brain's version of the "Mental Me" and become aware of my authentic True Self, it is getting quite easy, quite frankly. "Mental Me" is the source of the inner critic voice in the first place.

    2. I used to think like most people that the order to achieve goals should be "do, be, have." I realized that I had it backwards. Actually, our state of being (the "be") will determine what we do unconsciously and what runs our life is 95% unconscious. If you don't know how to change your subconscious/unconscious, getting things done or being effective/efficient can be really "hard work." This is why I felt like a fake. I was trying to "do" so that I would look good and feel good about myself, but in my subconscious I did not really feel in alignment; hence, I felt like a "fake." Start with authentic being and your life will flow much easier. Now that I am ("be) congruent with "smart, successful and competent," I feel less stress, get more done in less time, and I don't worry about "making mistakes" very often. Beside, making mistakes is only "learning"; it's no big deal. I am worthy because I breathe - how about that! And, my inner critic rarely bothers me.

    3. What I "do" is NOT who I "am" (or "be"). When we get this one, workaholism will decline sharply. I was a perfectionistic workaholic avoiding my feelings and trying to find significance and affirmation in my "doing" - my work. I was not dealing with my state of being. Admittedly, it was more difficult for me back then when I did not understand how my brain was hijacking my personal power and I did not know how to retrain my brain to get the inner critic to get on my team instead of being my enemy. I also did not understand the importance of integrating my mind with my heart and taking care of my whole self - spirit, soul and body. What a difference knowing how to do this - and doing it - is making!

    Now, I could have given you three things to "do" that may help a bit with dealing with perfectionism. I have discovered, though, that if a person does not start addressing the core issue of self-image or limiting beliefs about "how life is," just getting the next "3 Steps to Success" action steps will not change your quality of life.  You will simply have more "to do."

    The next level of personal growth is true inner transformation by learning how to dump the conditioned perceptions that are limiting HOW you see yourself relative to life. I do want to emphasize here the need to have compassion, or at least intend to develop compassion for yourself. When you do, this process actually becomes easier. You will also have more patience and compassion for others.

    Personal power and self-image is tied to how we "see" our self, and we can truly change this when we know how. I feel like a new person because I think and believe like a new person. Of course, I am also a better leader, friend, wife and mother, and I enjoy my life more and more. You have more potential than you realize.

    Visit for your complimentary special report, "7 Common Beliefs that Block Your Vision for Your Life - and What to Do About it!"

    Valencia Ray, M.D. teaches progressive business owners & professionals how their amazing brain hijacks personal power to improve their relationship, entrepreneurial and work/life balance skills. You can visit her website at

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    Thursday, September 22, 2011

    Passion and Energy - The Secret Forces to Growth and Development

    The Action Is GoImage via WikipediaBy Dipen S Shah

    Have you ever wondered what separates outstanding people from people who simply achieve 'good' results? The answer is two things - passion and energy.

    Individuals who achieve amazing things always have a drive that separates them from other people. They will go to lengths, commit resources and finances that a person would not normally do. Above all, they have an abundance of energy that will ensure that they have the physical strength and capacity to commit themselves fully. Passion and energy come hand in hand.

    Let us consider an example. Think of something that really drives a positive emotion in you. This could be your job, family, spirituality or anything else that gives you passion and puts a huge smile on your face. Now, think of what you are feeling at the moment. This is the feeling of complete and total commitment to whatever you have thought about. This is also the feeling of positive emotion and drive to do whatever it takes to succeed in your goal. The chances are that you are doing very well in whatever you are thinking about.

    Now, try to impose the same passion and drive for other things in your life that do not necessarily turn you on; perhaps related to an area that you are not doing so well in. You have just demonstrated that you have the ability to call on your passions and positive emotions whenever you want and at will.

    The key to your success in other fields is to have the ability to transfer the positive emotions that you have experienced to an objective in your life that you wish to improve. After all, if you wish to improve your understanding of particle physics but you shudder at the very mention of the subject, then how do you change your emotions? Previous articles have discussed the techniques that you can employ to achieve this - examples include anchoring, visualizations etc. This will support your 'passion' function.

    In addition to passion, you must also have the energy to complete your task. There is not much point in having all the passion in the world but no energy to commit to making your goal happen. Energy ultimately stems from your physical being. Exercise and a healthy diet will all provide you with the necessary energy to complete your task.

    Passion and energy go hand in hand. If you have passion but no energy, then you will enter a world of procrastination. Alternatively, if you have no passion but lots of energy, then you will be doing lots of things that will lead to nowhere and be getting stressed out about it. Both are needed and both will help you achieve your ultimate goals. If you employ both passion and energy you will not only meet your goals, but will even exceed them!

    Dipen is an experienced healthcare professional, trader, business owner, author and owner of the website He has invested a substantial energy into implementing the strategies outlined and now uses his vast experience to help others get the most out of their lives.

    Go to for more advice, books, free tips, courses and articles on how to get the most out of yourself and use the same resources Dipen has used to make most of his dreams possible.

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    Wednesday, September 21, 2011

    Motivational Quotes - 21 September 2011

    Andrew Carnegie, American businessman and phil...Andrew Carnegie - Image via WikipediaFrom the Inspirational Quotes blog:

    If you want to be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic - Dale Carnegie

    Aim for the highest - Andrew Carnegie

    One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus - Tony Robbins

    Some people are at the top of the ladder, some are in the middle, still more are at the bottom, and a whole lot more don’t even know there is a ladder - Robert Schuller

    There is far more opportunity than there is ability - Thomas Edison

    If you fall, fall on your back. If you can look up, you can get up - Les Brown

    We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them - Albert Einstein

    Don’t find fault, find a remedy - Henry Ford
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    Tuesday, September 20, 2011

    Are You A Slave To Your Reactions?

    Angry Penguin                             Image via WikipediaBy Beth Cuje

    Todd and Claire are fighting. He's angry ... furious. He can't seem to make Claire understand how her complaints hurt him. Claire is bewildered. She did not complain. She simply mentioned to Todd how important it was to finish painting the bathroom. What's going on here?

    Our Reality May Be Distorted

    Like you and me, Todd has his own way of seeing things - his "reality." Now, no-one sees reality perfectly. We all have a reality that is colored by what has happened to us and by what we think will happen to us. But in this case, Todd's reality is twisted. You'll find out why later.

    To begin, let's get clear that when we pay attention to something (OUR FOCUS), we automatically attach our own special way of how we see that person, thing, or problem. This is the MEANING WE ATTACH.

    The meaning we attach, real or not, stirs up feelings of pain or pleasure, threat or no threat. And our body responds accordingly by stressing or relaxing. BODY REACTIONS.

    Emotions Are Signals From Our Body

    In every experience, our mind sends information and energy through out the body and brain. If we pay attention to what is happening in our body, we can label those feelings as EMOTIONS. Now, if know how, we can release our stress and emotions safely and appropriately (without hurting ourselves or others) and choose how we prefer to behave. BEHAVIOR.

    Here's The Bottom Line

    If Todd, you, or I, stay aware and take responsibility for what we think, feel, and want, we create choice. We can choose to listen to our body and label its signals of angry, fearful, or shame-filled emotions. The instead of going on auto-pilot and inappropriately trying to avoid or control the person, thing, or problem, we can choose to work with an issue and resolve it. We can choose to act in our best interests and the best interests of others.

    Is Todd A Slave to His Reactions?

    Seems simple enough. But let's see what Todd does with his reactions: his focus, the meaning he attaches to it, his body responses, emotions, and behaviors.

    Todd focuses on Claire's statement, "It's important to finish painting the bathroom." Note, he doesn't question or share his "reality" that he thinks she is criticizing him. No. Instead, he automatically attaches a negative meaning to her simple observation. The meaning her attaches stirs up old body stress responses - signals of the painful emotions of shame and anger - that he felt as a kid when his mother criticized him.

    Because Todd fails to stay aware of his reactions and take responsibility for what he thinks, and feels, he flips into control mode and starts raging.Todd misses the opportunity to discuss the matter rationally with Claire. Instead, because of the meaning he attaches and his failure to take responsibility and release his stress, hurt, and anger, he goes on auto-pilot. Once on auto-pilot, he seems doomed to react the same unreasonable way he has so many times before, with anger.

    At this moment, no matter how hard Claire tries to reason with him, Todd will not be able to hear or understand her. Also, each time he goes on auto-pilot this way, he increases the likelihood that he will react the same way the next time he misunderstands her.

    Here's One Way To Work With Our Reactions

    At times, we all try to inappropriately avoid or control things. What do you usually do? In her book, Become the Person You Were Meant to Be, Dr. Beth Cuje sets forth tools and steps to give you choice and help you change.

    Copyright Dr. Beth Blevins Cuje 2011

    Want to learn some tools and four 4 steps to help you leave negative attitudes behind and embrace a healthier way of living? In her book, Become the Person You Were Meant to Be, Dr. Beth Cuje teaches you how. Here's your chance to download its first chapter for FREE. Go to and get an idea of what the Choice-Cube Method can do for you. You can retrain yourself, change and grow, and engage life more fully.

    Copyright Dr. Beth Blevins Cuje 2011

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    Monday, September 19, 2011

    How to Start a Personal Improvement Plan

    A senior citizen in trying to slow down his pr...                                Image via WikipediaBy Rachael A Marifosque

    Your personal improvement plans starts with a desire to become a better person. You know there are many areas to work on and are unsure of where to begin.

    Life coaches would normally suggest you start with physically improving yourself. That's because your physical fitness affects your ability to concentrate and motivate yourself. If you are basically healthy, you are much better equipped to deal with your emotions and think through problems. When you look good, you feel good.

    Assess yourself in the mirror. Are your hair, skin and nails healthy? Are you within your ideal weight range? Do you wear clothes that flatter your figure? If not, improve your grooming and embark on a fitness regimen you can work into your daily schedule.

    The next step to personal improvement is by looking into yourself. How have you been feeling and dealing with other people? How do people in general perceive you? Ask your trusted circle of family members and friends for their opinions. Make a checklist of your strong and weak points. Then list your strategy for each weak point on how you plan to improve them

    Another thing to consider is your current occupation. Are you in a job that you fairly appreciate? Or if you're a student, are you majoring in something that you really like, or is it something you chose to please your parents? It would be unrealistic and unfair to you to keep doing something you're not happy with. In order to grow as a person, you need to be in a place where you are happy and comfortable if you wish to succeed in life.

    Plan your studies or job path carefully so that they will eventually lead you to your dream career. Don't be in a rush to achieve this right away. You need to pay your dues, so to speak, by improving your set of skills and even learning new ones. Develop a strong work ethic and one day you will be rewarded.

    Personal improvement also requires us be positive at all times, and that includes surrounding ourselves with positive people. Avoid negative individuals who will only discourage you. They are not worth keeping as friends. You need people who can boost your morale, build your confidence and point you to the right path.

    To sum it up, in order to reach your maximum potential, you need to be:

    - Physically healthy
    - Emotionally stable
    - Engaged in worthwhile pursuits
    - Doing what you love best
    - Disciplined in everything that you do
    - Able to sustain relationships with positive people

    Continue living according to the principles above and you will achieve success in your personal improvement plan.

    Learn more about personal improvement and how it can do wonders for your life. Get tips on maximizing your potential and boosting your self-esteem for a happier and healthier life.

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    Sunday, September 18, 2011

    Who's Really in Control?

    TWENTYTWO | threesixtyfive "Spinning Out ...Image by ortizmj12 via FlickrBy Linda Binns

    Where are you holding yourself back? What are you putting up with in your life? Where are you not speaking up for fear of upsetting somebody else? It may be more common than you think.

    I meet many women who are holding themselves back in a big way because of the fear of upsetting somebody else. This is usually a spouse, partner or family member. It starts off, perhaps in very small ways, but then becomes a pattern that is more difficult to change the longer it goes on. Why does this happen and, more importantly, what can be done about it?

    It's important to understand that there are many levels to this issue and many complexities that I couldn't possibly cover in one article. So what is discussed here is more of a general overview to help you recognize if you are in this pattern and to what level.

    To find out if this is a pattern that has become your reality, start by taking a look at the following questions to see if any of them apply to you:
    • Does somebody else (spouse, parent, friend, etc.) like to make decisions for you, so that you find yourself deferring to them on most things?
    • Do you hold yourself back from expressing your desires or opinions?
    • Do you find yourself going along with what the other person wants/doesn't want and then feel upset or resentful - and probably guilty for feeling that way?
    • Have you lost all sense of what you want, because it's been so long since your opinions or desires even mattered?
    • Are you afraid to discuss certain topics with this person because they will get angry, upset or stressed and so you avoid mentioning them, even though you may want to discuss them?
    • Do you find yourself minimizing your accomplishments or holding yourself back in some way so as not to upset this person?
    • Do you feel that you cannot be your true self around this person or even that you have completely lost all sense of your true self?
    • Does this person undermine you when you have made decisions or agreed on things together?
    • Do you feel constantly criticized and not supported?
    • Have you squashed your dreams and desires because it would make this person feel uncomfortable?
    • Does your home reflect the other person's tastes, likes and desires and not yours?
    • Are there things about your home that you would love to change, but this person won't let you, or he/she has control over what does and does not get done in the home?
    • Are your interests, passions, hobbies, dreams or desires ridiculed or minimized by this person?
    • Does this person make you feel guilty if you enjoy yourself or do anything that you really love to do?
    • If you challenge this person about something they've said or done that you didn't feel was right, do they turn it around and make you the one who is 'in the wrong?'
    If you said yes to one or two of these questions, the situation can probably be quite easily changed by you making a few changes in your energy, specifically some of your beliefs and programming and how you feel about yourself.

    The more of these questions you said yes to, the more difficult it can become. It's definitely possible to change, but the more entrenched you are in the pattern and with the person, the harder it is.

    What it all comes down to is how you feel about yourself, what boundaries you set, and what your beliefs are about what's possible. For example, I know many very intelligent, very talented and successful women who feel intimidated in their relationship with their spouse. Often (but not always) this can stem from a fear the spouse has that if you become too successful, you will leave them or not want them any more, so they subconsciously try to control you.

    Any relationship is about growth and hopefully you will grow together. However, sometimes one person in a relationship or family strives for growth while the other(s) want to stay the same. They feel threatened by your growth because they fear it will take you from them, make you feel superior to them, etc., so they make you feel bad for even wanting to change and grow. They don't want things to change, they want them to stay the same - which means you staying the same, because they feel threatened by you changing.

    Mostly this all happens on a subconscious level and you may not even be aware that it's happening until you're so deeply entrenched int eh pattern that you have no idea how to get out or you're afraid of what will happen if you try to get out of it. What the other person is doing to you is manipulation, pure and simple. Not consciously perhaps, and not intentionally perhaps, but ultimately, that's what it is.

    The first step to changing it is to recognize it. The second is to become aware of how big of a problem it is. The third is to realize that you have to make a decision about what you want. The choice is yours - even if it may not be a comfortable one. You can choose to stay in the pattern, recognizing what's happening. Or you can choose to make a change.

    You make a change by learning to value yourself, by speaking up for yourself, by setting boundaries. Hopefully, the other person doesn't realize what has been going on, is not doing it intentionally and, once the pattern is pointed out to them, is willing to change it.

    Or, what often happens is that you simply take responsibility for yourself, you change your energy and the other person changes along with you. But be aware that you cannot change somebody else - to create change, you have to focus on changing yourself - and they either respond positively to that or not.

    You have to be prepared for the fact that the other person may not be able to come along with you though, and you may have to distance yourself from them in order to truly be able to be yourself and do what you want to do with your life. The choice is yours and it's not always an easy choice.

    As with everything, awareness is key. You must know that it's not right for anyone to ever hold themselves back and make themselves small because they're afraid of upsetting someone else. You do have a choice and this leads you to step 1 - acknowledgement that you have allowed someone else to control you.

    Interestingly enough, one of the things that can really help you in changing this pattern is your house. Since your house is a reflection of you and what's going on in your life, if you change the energy there and assert yourself, your energy, and your presence more in the house, it can help you with the changes you need to make on a personal level.

    There is so much more I could say on this subject, I could probably write a whole book or at least a report. But my intention with this article is to bring this to your awareness, because it's an issue for more people (particularly women) than you may realize.

    Linda Binns is known as The Energetic Edge Expert. She is a success coach and mentor, helping professional women and women business owners achieve work-life balance and freedom by identifying and releasing whatever is holding them back. She accomplishes this through comprehensive 'change your energy' courses, events and community.

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    Friday, September 16, 2011

    Someday Is Not on the Calendar

    Carpe diem - sieze the dayImage by maxymedia via FlickrBy Barbara Edie

    Oct. 2, is my late mother's birthday. She died suddenly in 1998 from complications following a respiratory arrest. She was 65. Ten years earlier, my younger sister died in a car accident at age 23. I dedicate this piece to both of them, two of the people I loved most in this world and who taught me never to schedule what matters for someday.

    "Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero. Seize today, and put as little trust as you can in the morrow" - Horace

    You could say 1988 was the year that I lived like there was no tomorrow. It had nothing to do with reckless spending, learning to sky dive or being diagnosed with a rare, intractable disease; it had everything to do with making my self available ... for life at full speed and spending time with those I loved.

    We hear a lot about living in the present, embracing the moment and the power of now, yet often neglect to put the theory into practice; now is my opportunity to change that...forever. The events of that year brought home the "power of now" with all the subtlety of a car accident-more accurately, two car accidents.

    It began in January with the perfect remedy for an unfortunate oversight; my younger sister Grace and I, two cosmopolitan Prairie girls both in our twenties, had never been to New York City. It was at the top of our "Must Do" list.

    I booked a flight and a weeklong getaway to the city that never sleeps as a surprise Christmas gift for my sister. It was seven days and six very long nights of non-stop Manhattan madness. We shopped at Macy's, Bloomington's and Saks Fifth Avenue, strolled through Central Park, Rockefeller Plaza and along Fifth Avenue; saw Cats and A Chorus Line on Broadway; dined at the Russian Tea Room; saw the Manhattan skyline from a helicopter, a ferry and a yellow cab; partied like misguided socialites at the Lime Light and Palladium night clubs; cheered for the Knicks at Madison Square Gardens; and applauded wildly in the studio audience for David Letterman's anniversary show at Radio City, listening to live performances by Cyndi Lauper, Billy Joel and Carly Simon. All of it a never- ending lucid dream in one of the world's greatest cities.

    We used every New York minute to take the biggest, sweetest bite we could from the Big Apple ... and savoured the juice.

    In February, a close encounter with a moving car brought life's fragility to my attention. I was hit at a pedestrian crosswalk by a young driver who passed the van that had stopped to allow me to cross the wide boulevard of Portage Avenue. I bounced off the hood of her car, was thrown about 15 feet from the point of impact and landed, smashing my right knee on the pavement. Miraculously, I had no other injuries. The ER doctor told me I could have been killed... I knew that. But a last minute action-hero-inspired-instinct to leap on the car's hood probably saved my life, and certainly my legs.

    Shaken but awakened by the incident, I didn't let a battered knee and some crushed cartilage keep me from a winter escape to California with my 23 year-old sister and my sixty-something father. Though my sister and I had previously explored the Magic Kingdom, this time we were taking Dad to Disneyland, and to see his best friend in Orange County. My golden-haired sister and I, on our second vacation in as many months, were happy, pre-tanned chaperons. On the flight down to L.A., the male flight attendant, noticing my Dad was flanked by two young blondes, asked him if he was traveling with Charlie's Angels.

    In June, when the long days of summer rolled around, Grace decided to take on a French immersion course in Jonquiere, Quebec. We sent her off to La Belle Province with a French-inspired fete of berets, baguettes and bons moments with her closest friends.

    In September, she and I rendezvoused with her new found bilingual friends in Montreal for an Amnesty International concert and a few days of old world charm in Vieux Montreal. There's a photo of all of us overlooking the city from Mount Royal, looking like college kids filled with optimism and standing at the top of the world. That scene is forever etched in my mind. That and the sound of Bruce Springsteen belting out Born in the USA live at Olympic Stadium.

    Our adventures in New York, California and Quebec marked 1988 as a year to remember - the months imbued with a feeling of endless celebration. We were living large, living in the moment, and enjoying the languorous luxury of time without taking it for granted.

    In November, we took a weekend road trip to visit our older sister Elaine for a quiet family celebration with a rural setting and home cooking.

    On the highway home, in a pitch-black November night, my sporty Toyota Celica was hit head-on by a drunk driver. I survived; my little sister did not. She died instantly, six inches from my side in the passenger seat.

    At her funeral, we celebrated-for the last time-a life lived fully, with an open heart, a sense of adventure and a deep love for family and friends ... right to the final breath.

    Looking back, I realize that I seized every opportunity that year to celebrate life, as if I had some advanced notice - even if only subconsciously - that 1988 was the best year available to live flat-out, to laugh loudly and to cherish each moment with loved ones, like they might be my last.

    Nineteen ninety-eight was the year that my younger sister and I made ourselves available for the people, places and things that mattered. We set dates, booked the time and, most importantly, showed up. "Someday" was not on our calendar.

    What are you waiting to do "someday"?

    Barbara Edie is a freelance writer who likes to tell a great story and help others tell theirs - in print or online. That includes feature articles for magazines & newspapers, as well as creative content for websites and corporate publications. I believe that powerful writing, too, can link the artistic with the practical. My feature writing has appeared in: Ottawa Citizen, Winnipeg Free Press, The Western Producer, The Cottager, Manitoba Business Magazine, Manitoba's Northern Experience, Home & City, Manitoba Gardener, Ciao and up! (WestJet's magazine).

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    Thursday, September 15, 2011

    Passion: The Key Element You Need to Overcome Obstacles

    Genting Trailblazer 2009 - Overcoming obstaclesImage by suanie via FlickrBy Arvin Cubil Mejillano

    No person is exempt from life's hardships. That's a bona fide fact. However, how people overcome obstacles differs from one individual to the next. Some people just ignore the problem, refusing to face it and letting it make their quality of life worse.

    Some take on the easiest solution, even if it means compromising their relationships with others. There are others, however, who tackle the problem head on and get rid of it once and for all. They're the ones who do it right; they're the ones who harness their passions for difficult tasks.

    Passion is the key element to taking on your greatest problems because it is the best motivator of them all. Sure, you can try to overcome obstacles by telling yourself that you just have to get this stuff over with. You can also make yourself think that everyone would see you as a better person if you did.

    But these motivators are not as sincere as true passion. When you harness passion, you don't feel the need to take on your problems. Rather, you have a burning desire to take them on-a want, as opposed to a need.

    But how do you harness this passion inside yourself? It's quite simple: think of your problem as a monster that keeps telling you of how worthless you are. Imagine it taunting you, dancing around, sticking its tongue out. Overcome obstacles by seeing them as a direct threat to your very being. If you have an ounce of self-respect, then you should be passionate about defending yourself from such a negative force.

    Nothing stirs one's passion more than a threat to one's dignity and integrity. You only have one life to live on this earth, and you are fully responsible for anything that might happen to it. Your very being is the one thing that you can wholly love and care for without repercussions.

    If you don't take life's trials as seriously as life itself, then how can make sure that you can properly overcome obstacles such as these? You have to make it a personal issue. You have to treat every obstacle as your greatest challenge to date.

    You can only live a rich and fulfilling life if you accept the conflicts that come with it. A great person isn't someone adept at dodging problems and responsibilities. A great person is someone who is never afraid to take on trials, and takes them on with vim and vigor. Are you that great person?

    Passion not only helps you overcome obstacles, but it can also do a whole lot more for your success and wellbeing. Learn how to embrace passion and make it work for you.

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    Wednesday, September 14, 2011

    Self Confidence - 5 Steps To Turbo Charge Your Confidence And Inner Belief

    Outstanding Achievement AwardImage via WikipediaBy Robert N Jones and Rhodri Jones

    Self confidence is the key to success. Self confidence is a balance of a positive self-image, self-respect and an inner belief in yourself. Your perception of yourself is critical to how you live your life. This perception is based on how you see yourself, feel about yourself, and how you believe other see you and feel about you.

    It is these perceptions that lay down the foundations of whether you life will be one filled with happiness and success, or struggle and failure.

    A belief and a confidence in yourself and your abilities, enables you to take advantage of any opportunities that present themselves to you and approach them with vigor and energy. Also with belief and confidence comes an inner strength and determination which is vital when confronting the inevitable challenges and setbacks that come your way.

    Having these personality traits and a positive attitude of mind will ultimately make it almost impossible for you to succumb to so-called 'insurmountable challenges' that you sometimes face and enable you to go on and achieve any desirable goals.

    Every challenge that you face and overcome, will further strengthen you self-confidence and inner beliefs making you an unstoppable goal achiever and an irresistible attractor of success.

    A great story that highlights great confidence in their own abilities was that of Hannibal. With an army numbering 38,000 infantry, 8,000 cavalry and 37 war elephants, he told his generals he wanted to cross the mountain ranges of the Pyrenees and the Alps and attack Rome. His generals replies were an emphatic "It can't be done", in which Hannibal famously replied, "We will find a way or we will make one!"

    Want a similar level of confidence? Well here are some steps to follow that will help you on your way

    5 Steps To Self Confidence


    Be easy on yourself, and try not to judge yourself too critically and harshly. All the mistakes you do are opportunities to learn and grow so treat them as such. The words you use and your inner self talk holds incredible power. All words have accompanying thoughts and when consistently repeated create harmonious beliefs and ideas. These ideas and beliefs have corresponding actions which then ultimately determine your journey in life. So I ask you choose your words carefully. Avoid negative and derogatory words and instead use language of a more positive, encouraging and uplifting nature.


    Frequent with people you admire and would like to emulate. Be with people who are confident and successful and copy what they do, how they act, speak, stand and walk. Being in a vibrant positive environment will increase your confidence no end. Whereas hanging out with people who are always negative and pessimistic towards you will inevitably drag you down to the extent that you start forming negative beliefs about who you are and what you can achieve. Avoid these people at all cost. They will drain your confidence and self-worth.


    Whatever plans, action or direction you decide on, just make sure to follow through. Possessing a 'never give up' attitude will enable you to achieve anything and everything in life. There no such thing as failure, you only fail when you throw the towel in. There is nothing more damaging to your self-confidence than GIVING UP!!!!! Keep focused and determined towards achieving your goals. Be flexible. Try different strategies, techniques and approaches and your goals will eventually be realized. The pay-off with all this is that your self-confidence will soar and you will develop more rounded, innovative and diverse skills.


    Fronting up to your fear and just tackling it head on will mean that the fear will shrink to nothing and just disappear. Ok, it may not happen exactly like that, but the more you confront that fear or phobia that's been haunting you, I can guarantee that it will subside and eventually go away. Whether it's the fear of heights, approaching someone of the opposite sex, public speaking the more you confront the fear the easier it will disappear and of course the more your confidence will grow.


    Keep a journal or diary of all your achievements and gains that you've experienced each day. No matter how small they are record these before you go to bed and congratulate yourself. These positive thoughts prior to going to sleep will start to imprint on your subconscious mind that you are achieving goals and success which are the foundations to achieve more goals and success in the future.

    Some of these achievements could relate to point four above when confronting and overcoming a fear. Whatever it is that makes you feel proud and good about yourself make a note of it and bask in some of the glory. In a few months you can then look back and see the strides you've made in your personal development journey; the challenges you've faced and overcome. All this will lead to giving you self-confidence and inner belief.

    If confidence is an issue for you then I advise you to start practicing some of these points in your life With a little patience and perseverance, I'm certain your self-confidence and inner beliefs will slowly but surely reach the heights that enable you to realize any goal and making your life more happy, rewarding and fulfilling.

    Confidence is an attitude of mind that you have about yourself and your abilities. Being confident about what you can do and achieve makes you a powerful and unstoppable force. Take on the world, achieve anything you want and be anyone you desire by building bullet-proof self-confidence.

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    Tuesday, September 13, 2011

    Surround Yourself With People Smarter Than Yourself

    Leighblackall-76202401Image via WikipediaBy Tracey Fieber

    A wise boss once told a group of managers, "Prepare your staff to take over your job."

    In a shaky economy, where people try to prove themselves indispensable, this was astonishing advice. His point was that you should always be looking toward your next job, so you need to develop the leadership potential of your staff. You ought to surround yourself with smarter people than you - in fact the smartest ones you can find.

    This is not the way most firms operate. Companies often have a pecking order that keeps talented people in their place. Especially in small companies, this can be the death knell for smart people who hope to move up to greater responsibility but see nowhere to go. Current workers are threatened by those with too many ideas who might displace them from their management job or their status in the company.

    Hiring smart people is wise though. Why? Even if you own the company, you do not have a monopoly on great ideas. In fact, you may be more of an efficient manager than an innovator. You need others to help create the future of your company. With a good idea, you can have your engineers refine it, your marketing department gussy it up to sell, and your administrative staff work with you to make it all happen. Without fresh inspiration, your company can stagnate. Smart, fresh blood can keep your company current.

    Particularly in technical companies, you, as a leader might not have the expertise to build your product right. Even if you are providing something completely non-technical, you might need a team of experts in technology, finance, systems, logistics, and administration. This is not a deficit in you.

    Your role is to manage the team so that they can work together for you, not be a genius-of-all trades who reinvents the wheel. Smart people may challenge you, but it you are serious about growing your company, you will adopt a management style that allows people to use their creativity without micromanaging them.

    Regardless of where you are in the company, smart new hires can provide competition that might stimulate you and other workers to new levels of achievement. When new people come into the mix, talent realigns itself, so what the new person brings is often complementary to the skills the others might not have realized they had. They might also have amazing new skills that will help the company.

    If you have a strict budget, you may think that hiring the smartest, most qualified people will break the bank. You might need to change your corporate structure or priorities to accommodate them or find creative ways to fund positions.

    If you are willing to surround yourself with people who might be smarter than you and listen to good ideas that result from having them in the mix, you will grow both your own management skills and your company.

    Tracey Fieber invites you to her free webinar "WHERE are they?!" 5 No-Fail Steps to Finding the RIGHT Support Staff For Your Growing, High-Demand Business & How to Bring Out Their Very Best Day After Day!"

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    Monday, September 12, 2011

    Why Practice Makes Perfect

    Player releases a short jump shot, while her d...Image via WikipediaBy John Matos

    If a person is physically fit, what makes him successful in sports? Is it because he's fit? I don't think so.

    When I was in High School I tried to play basketball. I was really athletic in High School, so I thought that I would be great in basketball. There were kids in my team that smoked, never ate properly, and never slept. "Man, I'm gonna' rock these kids," I thought to myself. But I was wrong.

    I got dunked on, pushed on, my ball constantly stolen, I really sucked. But I was more fit than these guys. Why did I suck? Well, I didn't practice playing the sport. Even though I was more fit, the other kids had more experience. But if physical fitness alone doesn't make you good, than what does?

    Practicing and the Mind

    The mind is a success machine. It records every moment of you life. And when you practice something, it remembers the successful movements. Experts call this "Muscle Memory." But is muscle memory really a physical response, or is it the mind adapting to the successful movements?

    I think it's a little bit of both, but more mind stuff than physical. Each and every time you practice a sport your mind records the action. So when you shoot a ball and make the shot, the mind records that shot as a successful movement. It takes a snap picture and stores it into your subconscious for later use. The more of those pictures you have the better. And to get more pictures, you need to practice more. More practice means more successful movements.

    That's why when you make mistakes you shouldn't sweat it. Make a mistake, learn from it, and immediately forget about it. Your mind does NOT know the difference between a successful move and a mistake. So concentrating on mistakes will give you more mistakes.

    But when you practice physically, the successful movements are kinda' random. You don't always make the shot. So you have to practice a lot to get at least a few successes. But what if you could directly plant successful movements into your mind each and every time? It can be done, within the theater of your mind:

    The Theater of Your Mind

    There have been studies done to improve the free-throw shot of athletes. Researchers conducted a study with three groups of people. They told one group to practice their free-throw shot everyday for 30 minutes. Another group to practice the free-throw shot in their minds-to imagine themselves making the shot. And they told the last group to do nothing. This exercise was done fore 30 days. Something really cool happened after the 30 days.

    The first group, the ones who physically practiced, improved their shots by 25%. The second group, the ones that practiced in their minds, increased their shots by 24%! Just 1% less than the first group. The third group, the ones that did nothing, didn't show any improvements. Muscle memory didn't have much to do with it, because the second group didn't physically practice. But their minds rehearsed the successful shot over and over again. So the body knew what to do when shooting the ball.

    Use that study to your advantage. Practice in your mind the successful shot. You're inserting the successful movement directly into your subconscious each and every time.

    If you really want to dominate your competition, practice physically and then go home and imagine more successful movements in your mind.

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    Sunday, September 11, 2011

    Who Do You Choose To Be? Changing for the Better

    ChangeChange - Image by mbgrigby via FlickrBy Kelle Sparta

    Many people seem to think that change is hard. It's not. It's simply making a decision to do something differently and then following through on that decision - simple. The hard part is deciding to make the change.

    Once you've decided - you're committed. Everything flows from there. It may not be smooth or simple, but the change itself, within you (which is the only place that actually matters since it informs everything else), is immediate.

    The Decision To Change

    The sticking point is the decision to change. People see this as some huge thing they have to do. They see change as sweeping and radical. And it can be - don't get me wrong, I've seen and created some freaking huge change in my life. But people make most change out to be something bigger than it is, something harder than it is. But it isn't.

    Who Do You Choose to Be?

    We all make choices about who we choose to be - in every day, in every minute, in every moment we choose.

    Are we the person who crosses at the crosswalk or who jaywalks? Are we the person who puts sugar in our coffee or smiles at the barista or gets flustered when we trip, or says "hi" to that cute guy/girl? Are we the one who speaks kindly to strangers or to ourselves in our heads. Are we the person who chooses to walk four blocks instead of taking the car, who carpools to save gas (and the environment), who owns up to their mistakes, or who takes credit for other people's work? Or are we someone different?

    In every moment, we create our own inner and outer character. We make millions of these decisions every day. And change is simply shifting enough of those decisions to make a difference in our lives. It's the small things we choose that often make the biggest difference. Do I go to Dunkin Donuts or to Starbucks? That choice could determine whether or not you meet someone who could be pivotal to your life.

    Don't Get Bogged Down in the Decisions

    Don't over-think this. It's easy to get stuck in the minutiae of your day. Instead of freaking out about it - go with the flow. I mean think about it, would you really know if you missed that important connection? No, so there's no point in worrying about that. But if you choose to be the person who finds amazing opportunities and capitalizes on them, then the Law of Attraction says that you'll pick the right coffee place at the right time. But you have to choose to be that person.

    Who Is The Person You Want To Be?

    This means that you have to put some effort into thinking about who that person is. How would someone who lives a charmed life behave? Where would they go? How would they think? What thoughts would rule their mindscape? These are the miniscule, moment-to-moment changes that you'll need to make to become the person you've always wanted to be. Want to attract the perfect mate? Well, you need to think about whether you are the person that your mate would want to date. And, if not, make the appropriate changes to get there.

    What You Can Do Now - Today

    Every change begins with the awareness that change is needed. Begin to notice where you are, what is working for you and what isn't working for you. In essence, draw the little red dot on the map at your feet that says "you are here". You need to be really honest with yourself about where you are in your process before you can begin to make and real change. After all, if you think you're in Texas and you want to get to Chicago, you're going to head in a different direction than you would if you thought you were in Toronto.

    So take a moment to really notice where you are. Notice your thought processes, the way you interact with the people, animals, and inanimate objects in your world. Are you proactive or reactive? Do you take responsibility for your life or are you the perpetual victim/martyr? Are you generally happy or pessimistic or sad or angry? How do people respond to you? How do you respond to them? Come into awareness - because this is the first step to any lasting change. Once you find where you are, the changes you'll want to make will become really apparent.

    Happy Changing!

    Kelle Sparta, Thought Alchemist, Wise Woman, and author, takes you into the energy world to learn the secrets to love, happiness and personal enlightenment. Through humor and deep insight, she dives into the elemental nature of the universe to unlock the secrets of love, peace, and true joy. Join her on the journey. For more information, visit her website at - C2011, Kelle Sparta.

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    Saturday, September 10, 2011

    Simple Habits Of Mind To Improve Your Mind Power

    use your mind   Use Your Mind - Image by max_thinks_sees via FlickrBy Greg Frost

    What are habits of mind, you may ask, and why must we improve mind power; without your mind you wouldn't be able to read any of this either. Mind power is important. It affects our thinking and our ability to concentrate as well. So we need to develop our mind in order to develop successful lives.

    If you're looking for tips to help you improve the power of your mind, you are reading the right content. Trying to improve your mind power doesn't require a lot. It is simply a change of your habits in a new direction, introducing a new way of living, which helps your mind nurture in the best of environments and conditions.

    The first tip that you need to know is to drink lots of water. It may sound absurd in the beginning (because what does water have to do with mind power). But remember, a mind without a healthy body is nothing. So plenty of water helps keep you healthy.

    Adequate amount of sleep is necessary for improvement in mind power, because a well rested mind performs well and is powerful. So sleep is a habit that you should introduce to yourself.

    Changing that way you eat is another habit that you should work on. It's related to the water tip mentioned above. A healthy body gives way for a healthy mind!

    Keeping yourself active, through playing or exercising is very important. By improving your bodily functions, you improve your mind. Healthy, oxygenated blood flowing to the brain is what keeps your mind fresh and healthy. A healthy mind is powerful, thus you need to exercise.

    Meditation should be an important habit too. Learn to ease your mind and help it focus.

    Try and look at things through new perspectives. This increases the brain's capability to think differently, making it powerful.

    Keep your mind stimulated constantly. Solve crosswords, puzzles and brain teasers to help it function in different ways and sharpen itself.

    Try travelling and exposing your mind to different environments! Learn new things and experience different cultures. Helps your understanding and assists it in such a helpful manner, by diversifying its way of thinking. A mind which thinks outside the box is a powerful one.

    Meeting new people is another way to increase mind power. By meeting new people, you gain understanding of different situations and learn to deal with them. That is what makes a mind powerful. A mind that is isolated from human contact is a weak one. Because it is unable to understand other minds like itself. Social contact is important.

    The last tip is to make all the tips a habit of mind. Only you can take control of your life and your mind, and help it gain power. If you follow the tips mentioned above half heartedly, you might never achieve results. But by showing enthusiasm and by trying hard, you are well on your way to improving the power of your mind.

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    Friday, September 9, 2011

    Living With Purpose: Is Your Vision a Dream, a Nightmare or a Reality?

    VisionVision - Image by ransomtech via FlickrBy Valencia Ray MD

    Life purpose is something that I've always wanted to live into and is a topic of growing interest to many. One thing I will say is that often we are already living our "life purpose" but we may not be aware of it. One way that you know for sure that you are out of alignment is if you are miserable and feel no real purposefulness in anything that you do.

    You could still very well be living into your purpose and be whining and complaining about life but if you are trying to do something that has no real meaning for you, chances are you are out of alignment. Sometimes our purpose has times that we need to deal with our "stuff" and our ego may not like it - hence the whining. Many people are busy living based on the "should" of others or society at large.

    They desire to be an artist for example, and would like to creatively express in some way, yet they find themselves miserably trying to be a logical engineer that thinks only in black and white terms. We are all creating every day, even if it is "drama" with other people. We are still co-creating our life experience.

    Yet, if you have an inner specific longing and you are not in touch with it, you are more likely to simply live out the "fate" of your genetic background, your societal thinking or your religious beliefs (that you really don't feel connected with fully). You will miss the beauty of a destiny that could be more self-fulfilling and contribute more to humanity and the planet in general.

    Either way, it's your life and I don't believe the Universe is judging you as "bad" or "good." It's just a pity that most people don't get to live out their talents or are able to share their gifts with the world - they die with these things within them. The first step for moving toward conscious realization of your life purpose is to break free from the social conditioning of being a "doing" machine.

    Yes, we need to take action and the question must first be, "What and why am I doing?" If we don't take the time to quiet our busy, noisy mind, which for most people is full of inner criticism, we won't give place to hear our inner guidance. Doing in an orderly way would be following "Being" - the order is "be, do, then "have." We are acting backwards when we think, "if we "Do," then we can "Be" what we want and have what we want."

    Being is a state, a consciousness. Likewise if we sit still, quiet our mind and "be" but take no action, we still won't manifest with experience or conscious awareness our life purpose. The key is the balance of both. Be still so that you can know and hear what your heart is saying so that you can begin to envision it, and then take action based on the inspiration that you receive. It will also make your doing much easier. If we do things in the backwards way, meaning, taking "massive" action with no clear purposeful vision, or having a vision but taking no action, this is what you can expect:

    "Vision without action is a daydream, action without vision is a nightmare" ~ Unknown

    I've done both, mostly erring on the side of "massive action." Massive action will wear you out and waste your resources on all levels. I've always had a sense of my purpose and it has always related to "vision". The earlier levels were as an eye surgeon helping people to see with their physical eyes. Now, as I help people to recognize how misperceptions created by the way they "see" life with their brain limits their life "vision"; I'm still helping others to "restore their sight."

    It's just on a different level. Also, everything in my life has helped me to bring out my gifts, which is why we should stop resisting where we are or what we are going through. We can change and grow without self-inflicting the pain of resistance into our experience. So, life purpose is about living purposefully, intentionally, and trusting the Universe to clarify our questions as we choose the next inspiration to act on. It's an adventure. Listen to your heart and use your mind to help bring it to form. Then you can experience your life purpose as your reality. It's a collaborative effort.

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    Valencia Ray M.D. teaches business owners and corporate leaders how their amazing brain can actually hijack personal power - not in the abstract, but in the context of business and life. You can visit her website at

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