Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Learning to Develop an Intense Focus

Total focus will get you through the seemingly...Total Focus! - Image by wildphotons via FlickrBy Kevin Sinclair

Becoming side tracked is a part of life, and while this can be a serious problem when we want to complete some important task, distraction is simply a fact of life. It is important to learn how to deal with distraction and keep your focus so that you can finish the job you set out to do in the first place.

Distractions may be hard to ignore, especially when it's a chatty coworker, a ringing phone, a demanding spouse, or many other things. Thankfully, there are some tried and true strategies we can use to put the distractions on hold and place an intense focus on our task.

Distractions can come in a number of different forms. For instance it might be an over-talkative coworker, a demanding spouse, a video game, or any number of other items that we haven't mentioned here just yet.

If you want to develop an intense focus, try the following exercises:

Take Distractions out of your life

There are many different things that could be considered time-stealers. For instance you have your e-mail, you have Facebook, and perhaps even online games. There are ways to get rid of these, but you have to be 100% committed! It's not going to be easy but, turn off your phone, close your web browser, and focus on the things you need to do.

Ready, Set, Commit!

You more than likely know you have a task to complete, and you probably know that it is vital to get it done, but are you truly committed to getting it done? If not, then you need to get your priorities straight and commit yourself in your entirety. A lack of commitment will lead to you giving into distractions which is not acceptable in any case. If you are committed however, you will find that it is much easier to deal with those distractions.

Limit your Time

The task you're working on might not have a time limit, but that doesn't mean you should not assign one to it anyway. Set a specific time at which you want to be done, and then try to meet your goal. There may be plenty of distractions going on around you, but you will be in a race to beat the clock, and there is a strong chance you won't be concentrating on much else aside from your work.

Take Breaks

If your mind becomes tired, you will find that you cannot work quite as efficiently as you did. You might finish your task, but how long will it really take to complete if you don't take a break? There is a strong chance that it will take way too long, and this is not something you want to deal with. The best way to go about it is to work efficiently and with focus for about an hour, and then take a ten minute break. This might sound counterproductive and contrary to what you are trying to accomplish, but you won't accomplish anything if you are too tired to concentrate.

Make a list

If you want to accomplish something, it would be best for you to make a list of your objectives and cross them off as you accomplish each one. This will help you to mark your progress along with way, which will certainly help you to achieve your goals faster.

Reward yourself

You can offer yourself a reward of your choosing when you complete the task at hand. By rewarding yourself, you will keep your focus and complete your goals in a much quicker manner. You can keep your intense focus if you follow these steps and remember that you are only human. It won't be too long before you're accomplishing your goals and getting your work done on time. Just remember that it all depends on you!

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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

The 7 Keys to Living An Inspired Life

LIFEImage by Light Knight via FlickrBy Dr Tom Gargiula

Simple Steps for Consciously Creating YOUR Life In Your Own Ideal

KEY 1: You MUST Take Responsibility For Your Life

a. No matter what has happened in the past and no matter what cards you were dealt, you have to take ownership and responsibility for your life. Laying blame on others and on your situation simply prolongs anything that you would view as a problem.

b. There are many people who have challenges in their life. They have used these challenges to motivate themselves to overcome what others view as a handicap. There are many who are in wheel chairs as a result of an accident that is not their fault. Even though it is not their fault, they forgive any wrongdoing and move on to create a bigger and better life for themselves.

Once you take responsibility you must ask:

KEY 2: What do You want your life to look like?

a. You have to ask the hard questions. What do you really want your life to be about?
b. What is the Vision you have for your life?

You need to focus on ALL areas of your life:

Health / Relationships / Finances / Career / Fun / Purpose

KEY 3: Why do You Want YOUR Life to Look like that?

a. When you answer the "WHY" question you will discover what your purpose is in your life.
b. WHY is your vision important to you?
c. What is it about your Vision that gets you excited?
d. What is it about your Vision that keeps you up at night for good reasons.

KEY 4: What are Your Strategies?

a. What strategies are you going to put in place to create the life that you see in your vision?
b. Each Strategy MUST be specific, realistic, and able to be accomplished.
c. Strategies must be laid out in a very structured time schedule.
d. These strategies are not arbitrary goals or wishes. They must have the meat of a plan behind it.

KEY 5: What obstacles may come up in the process of executing your strategies?

a. Always be positive, but you must be realistic about the obstacles that may arise. Recognize them before you begin and have a plan to overcome the obstacle now.
b. Have a written plan in place. Typically, when you are prepared for obstacles they tend to not show up.

KEY 6: Measure Your Life

a. Measure your strategies as you go. Have a plan of measurement to insure that you are making the progress you desire.
b. As you measure, you may have to change and tweak your strategies.
c. Elect a close friend or relative to "hold you accountable" for reaching, achieving and exceeding the goals you design for yourself. Sometimes with the help of another, and gentle reminders to keep pressing on, Your Vision, Your WHY and Your Purpose become even more defined and attainable.

KEY 7: How Does Your Life Impact Others?

a. What is inspiring about YOUR life?
b. How does YOUR Life impact the lives of those around you? Spouse, Children, Friends, Co-workers
c. Are YOU aware that every "Little" thing you do impacts many, many other people?
d. What kind of a Legacy do YOU want to leave behind?

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Monday, August 29, 2011

3 Quotes About Fear, Success, and Fear of Success

Robert T. KiyosakiCover of Robert T. KiyosakiBy Steve Nash

Just what the heck is fear of success, anyway?

I mean, who wouldn't want to be a millionaire online publisher, for example, with tens of thousands of newsletter subscribers and hundreds of thousands of visitors to his website each and every day? Who wouldn't want to get millions of views on YouTube each time he published another helpful, inspiring video?

And who wouldn't want to be 'famous' as a personal development 'coach' responsible for helping improve the lives of men and women everywhere?

Who wouldn't want success like this, who would actually fear it?

Hmm, well now you're asking I can think of at least one person I know who seems to be resisting this particular definition of success for himself. And maybe that's part of the problem with so-called 'fear of success' - the success that is feared may well be someone else's definition of success.

So it's important to know what success is - what it actually means to you. And it's also important to know what fear is, too. And before the inspirational quotes do their thing - and I talk about fear, and success - I'd just like to tell you what I think fear of success is, what most psychological fears reduce to actually, and it's this: fear of change.

Wow, we just don't want things to change - that's what it all boils down to! Wow, we're living in a universe where change is the only constant, and yet we don't want things to change. Wow!...

"Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here" - Marianne Williamson

So fear is something we learn. That's what Marianne Williamson says, anyway, and I happen to agree with her. Fear does serve a useful purpose - that's why we learnt about it in the first place - it helps keep us safe and out of danger.
But the psychological fear we all seem to be infected with has really got out of control. This fear isn't protecting us from anything other than our own growth. This kind of fear - that 'protects' us from 'failure' and other disappointing events - only serves to limit our FULL experience of life. Fear is useful, yes, but love should be trusted more. And that goes for fear of failure, as well as for fear of success...

"Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds" - Orison Swett Marden

Courage is a much misunderstood word in the 21st century. People think of soldiers fighting wars; people think of firemen fighting fires; but people seldom think of courage as the simple act of facing fear.

I've experienced having to face who I was - warts and all - in front of a group of men I did not know very well (and they were also doing the same). And, believe me, it takes real courage to be able to do that, to be able to expose the darkest aspects of yourself in front of others you think may judge you. Similarly, it takes courage to let a partner look deep inside of you via the act of emotional intimacy.

It takes courage to do what you want, to overcome your own particular obstacles, and to keep going no matter how long it takes - this is what I believe success to be, just like Orison Swett Marden does. So stop thinking of how much money you're making (or want to make), and remind yourself just how far you've come already and what you're still prepared to do, to face in yourself, to keep on growing, to keep on taking an active part in life. Turn up, take part, get involved. This is success. The rest is details.

"If you don't first handle fear and desire, and you get rich, you'll only be a highpay slave" - Robert Kiyosaki

And so, finally, it's important for us to define our own success in our own terms.

For example, one version of success that I'm daring to contemplate is the 'millionaire online publisher success' I described early on in this article.

But another example of success I've been happily living for the last 10 years is this: working for myself, doing what I want and when I want (no matter how much money I earn in the process - no highpay slave for me!).

When you WANT something deep in your soul, then you do not fear the getting of it IF you are being true to yourself. Yes, the prospect of a dream relationship (does such exist?) might scare you the same way that becoming a parent might scare you - because a new massive fear enters your life, "I want nothing 'bad' to happen to my child".

But new experiences bring new risks, new chances to grow and experience life in new ways.

So I say that fear of success can ONLY be thought of as fear of living. Let me say again, fear of success is really fear of living. Now who seriously wants to fear the gift we all share right now, that is the gift of life?

So next time you're sensing yourself to be fearful at the prospect of 'getting what you want', rejoice and embrace this evidence of your growing pains, but continue forwards, still continue on ... That's what I'm going to do from now on, anyway! And I urge you to join me.

Big deep breaths, and ...

You can find my further thoughts on fear of success at my guru-free self help site, Self Help Collective:
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Sunday, August 28, 2011

Your Personal Best Practices: 5 Success Habits You Can Adopt Today

Sir Richard Branson kite surfing at Necker Isl...Sir Richard Branson Windsurfing - Image via WikipediaBy Tracy Dacko

No matter what you do for a living, there are some habits you can adopt that will undoubtedly ensure better results. Just like the most successful weight-loss programs are based in long-term lifestyle changes, your personal and professional achievements are the result of years of behavior modifications and incremental actions.

Success isn't an accident. Though you may look at someone like Richard Branson or Jack Welch and think they must have been "born with it," the truth is, they fumbled through things too, and developed new, more effective behaviors and habits along the way just like everyone else. It is the collective effect of habits like these that will bring you long-term success:

1. Define your success plan

This may seem like a given, but I am always amazed at how many people don't commit their goals to writing. It's not enough to have them floating around in your head. Writing out your goals not only defines them more clearly, but it establishes them as a commitment.

You can't get where you need to go if you don't know your destination. You have to be clear about what you want to achieve. Be sure to break your larger goals into smaller, shorter-term ones that will lead you in the right direction and give you milestones to celebrate more frequently.

Large goals can seem overwhelming, but incremental successes will keep you motivated along the way. When making your plan, be sure to include all areas of your life: career, family and personal relationships, spiritual or religious, money, travel, philanthropy, etc. Keep a list of your goals nearby at all times so you can refer back to them as you create your daily to-do list to make sure you are focusing on activities that correspond to your goals.

2. Create a prioritized To-Do List EVERY DAY

When you start your day without a To-Do List, you lack focus and direction. It's way too easy to spend time on less important tasks that don't support your larger goals when you haven't started your day with a well-defined plan. Control your day. Don't let it control you.

Your list should be no more than 8-10 items with 2-3 highlighted as priorities. Finish at least one of the high priority items BEFORE you check email or answer voice messages. Yes, before email. I know that's a tough one to swallow for many of you, but emails provide endless opportunities to get pulled in different directions.

If you have at least one priority item done before that distraction starts, you'll be closer to completing your list, even if requests and unexpected problems carry you away for a while. It's a discipline that will keep your day on track and your activities in line with your larger goals.

3. Make networking a habit

You can never know too many people. I'll be the first to admit that I found networking events intimidating when I started my first business, but it's a comfort zone you have to break away from to be successful. Whether it's a planned business networking event or a friend's picnic, make a point of talking to people you don't know.

You never know where your next job lead, referral or partnership may come from and the more people you know, the better your pool of resources will be. That said, approach people with a genuine interest in who they are and what they do.

Consider how you might be able to help them - whether it's referring them to your dentist or answering a question that's in your area of expertise. This will prevent casual conversations from turning into a sales pitch. Over time, this approach will become second nature and you'll have a much larger network.

4. Talk to yourself

We all talk to ourselves constantly. Unfortunately much of that self-talk is critical. What you say to yourself reinforces what you believe you are capable of, even if you think you're joking around. The subconscious mind doesn't understand humor. It just cements that belief about yourself into your mind and uses it to govern your behavior.

Be a better friend to yourself and offer deliberate words of encouragement and power. It may feel awkward to begin with, but this habit alone will substantially improve your mindset and increase your potential for success. The main difference between someone who is not successful and one who is, is their beliefs about what they can achieve.

5. Surround yourself with positive, encouraging people

This may sound overly idealistic, but don't underestimate this one. It is the root of many people's unfulfilled dreams and untapped potential. They say that you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. Consider who these people are and whether you want to be more or less like them, then make changes if necessary.

We've all known people who sap the energy out of everyone around them with their constant complaining and negative attitudes. They're toxic. If you have one (or more) of these people in your life, limit your exposure to them. No matter what your relationship is (yes, even parents) and how central they are in your day-to-day life. Toxic people like to keep everyone down in the dumps along with them. Over time, their words will begin to feed your self-talk. Don't allow yourself to be sucked in.

In order to reach your potential, you need to surround yourself with people who believe in you more than you believe in yourself and who want to see you succeed. Your energy level and motivation will dramatically improve if you associate with people who are supportive and enthusiastic.

Your success is the sum of many small accomplishments that are supported by the incremental adjustments you make to your habits and behaviors. Once you establish your own personal best practices, they will serve as a strong foundation for many years to come.

Developing success habits and a strong mindset are essential to your success. Start today and see better results for the rest of your life. For additional products, programs and resources that help you develop your most powerful mindset, visit

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Saturday, August 27, 2011

Life Coaching Vs Counselling

LifeImage by Rickydavid via FlickrBy Thomas Macken

"We cannot hold a torch to light another's path without brightening our own" - Ben Sweetland Counselling

What is counselling?

Counselling is the providing of opinions or instructions given in directing the judgment or conduct of the client while at the same time listening to the client. It is a way of relating and responding to the client in order to help them explore, clarify and work towards resolving issues in their life.

Counseling tends to look at the past, processing feelings, and attempting to understand why the client is having difficulty with particular issues in their life. It is about helping the client process, understand and resolve these issues in order to live more fully in the present.

Who comes to counselling?

Clients come from all walks of life and all occupations; they come both young and old. Clients generally come to counseling when they are having emotional difficulties with a specific issue. Clients coming for counseling see no light at the end of the tunnel. Clients often have bottled up feelings such as anger, grief, anxiety which have become so intense that they need help to process these feelings. Clients come when they suffer from issues like eating disorders or addictions such as alcoholism or smoking.

There are others who have experienced abuse; verbal, emotional, physical or sexual in their childhood or as adults Some people may be just unhappy about the way their life is going, some may be experiencing difficulties at work, school or at home. Others may have just learnt about a diagnosis of illness or disability relating to them or those close to them.


A person who gives counsel, and advice. The counselor is almost always considered the expert. The core competencies of counsellors are a genuine acceptance of people without judgement. Most counsellors will have had a substantial education and have a broad knowledge and experience of the issues they counsel on. They are supportive and strive to understand thoughts and feelings from the client's point of view.

Where does counselling take place? Counselling usually takes place in a safe and confidential setting however these days people are opting for online counseling also.


"Everything can be taken from a man but ... the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way" (p.104, Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl).

What is coaching?

The name coaching comes from sport, the title going to the person who has the special task and responsibility for training sports people and teams to achieve peak performance and to win. No team or athlete would consider achieving excellence and winning tournaments without a coach.

Coaching is a relatively new profession taking off in the eighties, starting out in a business environment coaching is now widespread and used in every area of a client's life. In coaching the client is held accountable, it is all about the client's agenda and the whole process is focused on getting the results the client wants.

Coaching begins where the client is now in the present and helps the client setting and achieving their specific goals. Coaching is about improving performance, it is about self awareness and it is about making choices. Coaching is about living more fully in the present with the future in mind.

According to the ICF (International Coach Federation), coaching can be defined as "an ongoing partnership that helps clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Through the process of coaching, clients deepen their learning, improve their performance, and enhance their quality of life".

Another definition from the authors of Co-Active coaching "Coaching is chiefly about discovery, awareness and choice. It is a way of effectively empowering people to find their own answers, encouraging and supporting them on a path as they continue to make important choices."

Who comes to coaching?

Clients come from all walks of life and all occupations; they come both young and old. Large corporations down to small businesses come for group coaching. Basically anyone who is seeking solutions, seeking to improve their performance and sometimes reaching for excellence come for coaching. People come because they want things to be different; they are looking for positive constructive change in their lives.

They come because they have important goals to reach, goals: to start a new business, to get a new job, to buy a new house, to loose weight. People come to coaching because they want more order and balance in their lives. People come because they want fulfillment, happiness, joy or fun from life. They also come because they want less stress, less confusion or less financial pressures in life.

"You get the best effort from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within" - Bob Nelson.


The coach is a person with a set of skills they use to support and encourage clients in setting and achieving goals. The coach and client are active collaborators; they form an alliance between two equals. The coach and client design their working relationship.

The coach holds the client accountable knowing that the client has the answers or can find the answers. The coach is always responding to the client's answer aware that every answer provides information where to go next. The coach keeps them moving forward towards their dreams and goals.

The core competencies of a coach are a genuine acceptance of people without judgment focused listening with the client's agenda in mind. One of the most important qualities of a coach is truthfulness, if clients are going to risk making change, they must feel confident to talk freely with their coach.


Having assessed the difference between coaching and counselling there can be no confusion between the two roles. Coaching and counseling can't work together effectively. There is an obvious role for counselling and if a client needs counselling a good coach will recommend the client seeks this before proceeding to coaching. The opposite would be great, if at the end of a counselling program a good counselor would then recommend coaching to their client in order that they might have a better quality of life.

Tommy Macken

Tommy is the author / designer of the indirect '28 days to success' coaching program. Get his Free eBook 28 days to success.

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Friday, August 26, 2011


keys-to-smart-goal-setting-mind-mapSMART Goal Setting - Image by jean-louis zimmermann via FlickrBy Michele Landers

Before long, autumn will be upon us. In the northern Hemisphere autumn is easily recognizable by a spectacular display of vibrant colors as the changing weather heralds in the season of harvest.

The onset of a new season signifies change. Change is an inevitable part of life or as the Greek philosopher Hippocrates put it, "The only permanent thing is change." Our ability to welcome or accept change is an important ingredient when it comes to achieving our goals, as well as our capacity to grow and learn.

As the end of this year rapidly approaches, are the goals you had hoped to accomplish 'right on target' or like many people, are you scratching your head wondering "where has another year gone?" As a Certified Life Purpose Coach, I find that although most people start off with sincere intentions, very often good intentions fall by the wayside. Why? There's an old adage: "Fail to plan, plan to fail." Without a solid plan and strategic tools your goals will often fail to materialize.

One of the many tools that I use in my practice - and one that you might find useful in helping you achieve you goals is called S.M.A.R.T. Goals:

Specific - Measurable- Achievable- Realistic - Time- limited

Specific - Your goal should be clearly defined. Have a specific date to accomplish it by and know what action you will need to take. An example would be the desire to be healthier. Is 'healthier' specific? Not really. A specific goal would be to join a health club and/or lose 12 lbs. When you are specific, your goal has a much better chance of being accomplished.

Measurable - Ask the question "How will I know when it is accomplished?" The number of times you plan to visit the Health club or how many pounds you plan on losing are measurable goals. Measuring your progress helps you to stay on track to reach your goal. "Wow, "I lost 3 lbs this week" - "I'm right on target!"

Attainable - It is wonderful to set high goals, but be realistic about them. Setting goals that are unrealistic can be very disempowering. Good example: "I will lose 12 lbs within 3 months." Bad Example: "I will lose 12 lbs by next week."

Realistic - To be realistic, you must believe it can be accomplished. Have you done anything similar in the past? What components are needed to reach your goal?

Time-limited - Without a time frame, your goal enters that nether land of 'someday.'

Setting a specific end date prompts your unconscious mind to 'get to work.'

Attaining your goals is easier than you think. The first step towards success is to know what you want (a Coach comes in handy here!), and the second is making your goals S.M.A.R.T.!

Michele Landers is a Certified Life Purpose Coach, Author of the "Tao of Numbers" and "The Year of Living Miraculously." She is a dynamic and gifted lecturer, teacher and consultant on the subjects of personal empowerment, law of attraction and numerology. She has helped thousands of clients internationally to gain clarity and direction in their lives and to discover their own unique talents. To learn more about Michele, visit

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Thursday, August 25, 2011

Who Is Really in Control of Your Life?

Take ControlTake Control - Image via WikipediaBy Curt Gorlick

You might be thinking, what a ridiculous question! "Who else is - or could be - controlling my life if it isn't me?"

The truth is there are many possible answers to this question. Here's a few: your spouse ... your significant other ... your parents ... your siblings ... your good friends ... or .... I'm sure you can come up with many more answers than I did, but here's the simple yet powerful answer. Your life is controlled by whomever you give your power away to.

Believe it or not, for you and for most people, the powerful driving force running your life is that all mighty little voice in your head known as your "Saboteur."

Think about it. Throughout your life you've had good times when everything was going right and there was no need for you to change anything. Then something shifted which caused your life to become stressful and overwhelming. You might have even had many sleepless nights thinking about all the "what ifs" that kept swirling through your mind.

Not wanting to stay in this now stressful and overwhelming life, you decide you want to make changes. That's great - and it's a wise choice. Yet, no matter how much you want to make these changes, for some reason you find you just can't do it. This is the land of the all too familiar experience of being "stuck." You need to get "unstuck!"

There is a lot more to the process of getting unstuck and achieving what you want than just deciding you want to make changes. You need ...
  • To know what you want
  • To commit to the process
  • To change your current mindset, and, most importantly
  • You need to know how to deal with that little voice in your head - your personal Saboteur
Sounds like a lot, huh? You might even be saying, "No wonder it's so hard to get to where I want to be." Or, maybe you're thinking, "That all makes perfectly good sense, but now I don't even know where to start or what to do. HELP, get me unstuck!"

Ok, since you asked, let me share a few tips with you to get you started on the road to change - and to get you "unstuck."
  1. Declare what changes you want to make. Write them down on a piece of paper. Putting it in writing is powerful. Don't just say the words.
  2. I recommend working on only one or two goals at a time.
  3. Remember, take baby steps and keep it simple.
  4. When you start in on your goals, take time to notice how this moves you out of your comfort zone.
  5. As you start getting out of your comfort zone you'll notice that little voice in your head getting louder and louder. You might be hearing, "You can't do that" or "You tried before, and it didn't work then and it won't work now," and so on. Don't let it control you!
  6. Quiet down your Saboteur. Refuse to surrender to those negative voices and success will be yours.
Are you ready to give it a try? Good for you!

Curt Gorlick, The Life Choice Strategist, an expert coach and public speaker on mindset and successful life skill strategies helps baby boomers navigate smoothly through their ordinary and extraordinary life struggles, guiding them into the life and relationships they want. Having experienced living life in anger, overwhelm, and frustration, Curt knows first-hand how to Break the Barriers to Happiness. Get your FREE report, "Tips From Break The Barriers To Happiness" at

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Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Motivational Quotes - 24 August 2011

Portrait of Henry Ford (ca. 1919)Portrait of Henry Ford - Image via WikipediaHi all,

These great quotes are from Nicolas at the Inspirational Quotes blog at:

Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event - Brian Tracy

I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know what can’t be done - Henry Ford

A well-spent day brings happy sleep - Da Vinci

Part of your heritage in this society is the opportunity to become financially independent - Jim Rohn

The truth of things is the chief nutriment of superior intellects - Da Vinci

You need to break larger goals down into smaller steps and create a plan of action to achieve them - Richard Parkes Cordock

There is no instance of a nation benefitting from prolonged warfare - Sun Tzu

Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought - Napoleon Hill
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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

So What Do We Mean By Change?

Evolution is change 2Evolution is Change - Image via WikipediaBy Ivan Eyre and Carole Eyre

If you've read any of my other articles, you will know, the work my wife Carole and I do is specifically for people who seek change in their lives - but what does 'Change' mean?

First we'll tell you what change meant to us, but then we'll go on to explore other aspects of change. You'll soon see, change can mean very different things to different people.

If you're not familiar with our story, here's a potted history.

We married in 1981 and have two adult sons, Christopher and Michael, and a dog, Jack. For more than 30 years, I followed a fairly typical career path, first in the Civil Service, then retail followed by almost 20 years in Financial Services.

Carole took a career break when our sons were born until they started school and, given they were born almost 6 years apart, the break was fairly extended. We believed, and still believe, it was absolutely the right thing for our boys, if not for our bank balance! Once Michael, the younger of our sons began school, Carole returned to work in education.

Although we both enjoyed our work, we did not enjoy the fact that our careers were placing ever greater demands on our time. We were working long hours to try to support a lifestyle we didn't have time for!

The penny finally dropped when we were on holiday (our first holiday in 3 years - you can see how time-poor we were). We were in Italy, high in the Umbrian hills. It was a beautiful warm Thursday evening as we sat on the terrace of our tiny cottage - a converted wine cellar built into the side of the hill. We had had a perfect day - one of a series of perfect days in, what for us had been the perfect holiday.

As we sat back in our deck chairs, the only sound we could hear was the gentle chirruping of the cicadas in the trees further down into the valley. The only lights we could see in front of us were those of Assisi, on a hill some 15 miles distant; the only lights above us, those of the Milky Way, the occasional shooting star and the light of the sun reflected off man-made satellites as they made their silent procession across the dark night sky.

And it was as we sat there, totally contented, with the warmth of the evening seeming to seep into our bones, that the cold realisation dawned upon us that, just four days from now, we would be back at work and at the back of the line for our own time. Such was the nature of our work that everyone else had a prior call on our time.

Don't get me wrong, we both absolutely love to provide a service to other people - but we also love to spend time with each other doing the things we want and, occasionally, doing nothing! Back in 1981, we made promises to each other in our wedding vows - not to everyone else who was demanding our time.

So, on that Thursday evening, on that idyllic night far away from home, we took one of the biggest decisions of our lives - we just weren't going to live that way any longer. We didn't know it at the time, but that was the evening the changes in our lives began and our new future was born.

I won't bore you here with the details of how we actually got from there to here - that's just logistics; logistics are important - but nowhere near as important as the initial decision that renders them necessary.

Key to the success of the change we made was the fact that it was a decision to make changes and not just a wish that things might change. And the first changes we made were to ourselves. Once we started working on ourselves, the rest of it all began to fall into place.

I'm not going to tell you it was all straightforward - it was not. We took off along a few blind alleys and detours along the way - but a drive down winding country lanes is always more interesting than a drive along the fast lane of the motorway!

Clearly, change does not have to be as dramatic as ours. You may be in a situation where you're 95% happy with the way things are and it's just that 5% you wish would be a little better. Well, the same thing applies. You have to decide to make the changes you seek, not just wish that things might change.

But, what if you think the 5% is out of your control? What if it's your supervisor or a co-worker you just don't get on with; or maybe you wish a particular relationship were better?

You should know this. The change still has to begin with you. Most often, it's not the circumstances that are the problem; it's our response to them. If there is a particular circumstance of your life you do not like, first ask yourself  "can I change this circumstance?" If the answer is yes, then make your plan to change it, and then set about it!

If the answer is no, then your only option is to change your response to the circumstance. It's not as tough as it seems and it will be the subject of my next article.

Ivan Eyre spent thirty years pursuing a typical career path, when a series of events led him to suspect there must be more to life. So he and his wife, Carole, decided to see if there was. The answer was a resounding YES!

Ivan and Carole now show others how they can have the life they want if they just make the decision to go out and get it. To get your free report and 21-day video programme, just visit

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Monday, August 22, 2011

What's Your (Upper Limit) Problem?

Cover of "The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidd...Cover via AmazonBy Linda Binns

Have you ever experienced a situation where things are going really well, you're feeling pretty happy with life, you feel you're finally making progress, when all of a sudden something happens - perhaps a family crisis or an illness or you suddenly feel depressed for no apparent reason? It seems as though every time things start to go well, something happens to spoil it.

I think this is true for just about everyone. It has certainly happened for me. In Gay Hendrick's book, The Big Leap, he describes this as an Upper Limit Problem (ULP). And the thing that's difficult for most people to understand or believe is that you're actually the one who creates it. It's an Upper Limit Problem because subconsciously you believe that you have reached your upper limit, you cannot go beyond where you are now.

That's right. Whenever we experience a ULP it's because we've created it. I know that's hard to believe, because very often it seems to be something outside of ourselves that affects us, so it seems that it has everything to do with somebody else and we simply get drawn into it. But that's not the case.

I think Gay Hendricks explains it beautifully in his book, which I highly recommend reading. You see, your beliefs, your programming and conditioning are so powerful that when you start to move beyond your comfort zone, they immediately create something to pull you back. It's the part of you that says "you can't be that happy;" "life's not supposed to be that good;" "you're not supposed to be that successful." So something happens to reinforce the belief.

Upper Limit Problems can appear in all sorts of ways. Here are some of them from the book:


Gay says that worrying is usually a sign that you have a ULP because worry and anxiety are not helpful. When you worry, it's about something that might happen, not something that's real. Worry is only useful if it relates to something you can actually do something about right now so that it leads you to taking some positive action.

Next time you find yourself worrying about something, ask yourself what's really going on. Allow yourself to really feel the anxiety and ask yourself what really wants to come through. What is the worry trying to pull you away from?


When you are criticizing someone or something it's usually to cover up something else that's really going on. when you criticize or blame, you are blocking the flow of energy, so it stops you from moving forward. This also includes self-criticism and blame.

When you find yourself criticizing or blaming - yourself or someone else - once again stop, and ask yourself what's really going on. What's really bothering you? Why do you feel the urge to criticize or blame? What's it stopping you from doing, feeling or thinking?


There's nothing that can bring you down and make you feel bad as quickly as an argument (and arguments can come from criticism and blame). Any type of conflict immediately blocks the flow of positive energy and you can find that it develops into something that lasts for a long time (such as when you find that you haven't spoken with a particular family member for years, because of one simple argument).

In the book, Gay explains that for an argument to occur each person is trying to prove that they are the 'victim' in the conflict. The argument can only end when you realize that each person involved in a disagreement has 100% responsibility. He explains this in more detail by outlining the physics of arguments. If you are willing to step out of the role of victim in an argument and take 100% responsibility it is the only way to keep the positive energy flowing.


Have you ever worked really hard so you could enjoy some time off only to find that when you take that vacation and are relaxed and enjoying yourself you get sick? Or things are going really well, you're feeling good and then someone rear-ends your car? How do you know if these are just things that happen or if they are Upper Limit Problems? One way is to think back to times when you have had illnesses or accidents and ask yourself if they came in the middle of or just after a period when things seemed to be going really well in your life and you felt really good.

There are other ways that we create Upper Limit Problems in our lives, but I hope this has given you some food for thought. The most important thing is to start becoming more aware, so that you recognize when an Upper Limit Problem arises and you recognize it for what it is. Once you do that, you have no need for it and you can move on to greater success and happiness.

What are some of the ways you create Upper Limit Problems in your life?

Linda Binns has helped thousands of people change and improve their lives, their businesses and their energy since 1997.

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Sunday, August 21, 2011

Thoughts Upon Thoughts Upon Thoughts

Thoughts...Image by Julian E... via FlickrBy Gudrun Frerichs

I heard the other day that the average person has between 50 and 70 thousand thoughts each day. Oh my goodness, that is between 35 and 50 thoughts a minute. No wonder I can't remember where I put my keys this morning. That information is lost in the tornado of thoughts that is going through my brain.

There doesn't seem to be much rhyme or reason to the content of the thoughts we produce. It seems to come from all corners of our inner world, past, present, and future, as well as from stimuli from our environment. We are, or better our brains are, truly thought-producing machines.

Many of these thoughts will pass through our mind like a wee little flicker, barely noticed or not even noticed at all. Like an electric storm that runs through our neuro networks, fed by an energy I can only describe as life force. Buzzing, and buzzing all day long. Not only that, also buzzing at night, coming to us as dreams. Because it's our thoughts that cause our feelings its interesting to notice on which of the 35 to 50 thoughts a minute we focus on, isn't it?

You may just have spilled a perfectly brewed coffee on your white carpet and start telling yourself off for being so clumsy, having ruined the carpet and so on and so on. It will be no surprise that you feel grumpy or depressed or ashamed, depending on what exactly you've been telling yourself.

You might even have delved into the memory box and picked out other incidences from your earlier life where you have been clumsy and been told off for it ... there is no end to thoughts that will confirm your initial response to spilling the coffee. With a little bit of hard thinking work you could manage to set yourself up for a pretty lousy day!

If you have this kind of incidences happen more regularly, you could even end up at your doctor's practice and be given some antidepressants for what some people like to call 'chemical imbalance'. Well, your thoughts might have caused a chemical imbalance, but it was your thinking all along, wasn't it?

It's important to realise as soon as you notice your thoughts that they are not real. They are just thoughts. You are not clumsy, you just spilled coffee and it left a mark. End of story! Happens all the time, all over the world. Is a stained carpet worth you being on antidepressants for the next 20 years? I am sure the pharmaceutical industry would say YES, of course. Our livelihood depends on it.

Having between 35 and 50 thoughts a day, just check out with for yourself which ones you would rather focus on. Let the self-punitive ones pass through your mind, don't feed them, and wait for better ones to float to the surface. They will come: remember there are 50 to 70 thousand thoughts coming your way today. Let's have a competition: Who's got the best ones!

Gudrun Frerichs, PhD is the director and founder of Psychological Resolutions Ltd. Visit her website for information about counselling and training courses for professional and personal development. Her focus is on helping people to access the power of their mind so that they create the life they aspire to.

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Saturday, August 20, 2011

Healthy Habits For A Healthy Life

Jim-rohn-PASSES-AWAY        Jim Rohn - Image via WikipediaBy Pete Zafra

Which way are you going? We're definitely going the success route! Read on and let's start our journey together.

We all hear people dreaming of a kind of life where it seems too good to be true. Well that's not true at all. Nothing is ever too good to be true. Everything depends on how we think and see things. Anything is possible.

The only thing that separates us from successful people is the fact that we just don't do whatever it takes to make it. We can't just do something productive now and leave it alone the next day.

We need to have healthy habits for a healthy life. We need consistency and discipline. The simple secret is we watch, learn and study the daily habits of successful people. What we need to do is change our habits and that will change our lives.

It's as simple as that!

Once we start changing our habits and start dedicating and disciplining ourselves to what we're doing, we'll definitely start seeing good positive changes. We should definitely embrace that!

It's either we work hard, or go home ...

Giving up is never an option. We highly suggest that you don't even think of that. Once it crosses your mind, divert yourself instantly! Nothing ever comes easy. Once we do the best daily habits around, there's no doubt what we choose to do and struggle on will definitely pay off in the future.

Study the daily habits of successful people. They all didn't get what they wanted or dreamed of overnight. It may seem like they achieved success overnight, but they struggled day and night, lost sleep, barely ate and never even took a break to relax and chill a bit simply because they have the best daily habits available. They are dedicated and determined to reach success no matter what.

Here are some of healthy habits for a healthy life:

Mindset - We can NEVER succeed if we don't believe in ourselves. It's just not possible if we don't believe in our selves and in what we're doing. It will drag us down and next thing we know, we're living the life of a bum. Start thinking positive now! You'll never regret it!

Discipline - Like we said before, we can't succeed if we're inconsistent. Success is sometimes defined as consistent actions done on a daily basis. Well, that's definitely true! We don't succeed overnight by doing one right thing today and expect amazing results the whole year. We simply do productive things on a consistent basis. It's a process, not a one-time deal. It's either we work hard, or go home ... do whatever it takes! Don't ever forget that. As our favorite mentor, Jim Rohn said "Discipline is the foundation upon which all success is built. Lack of discipline inevitably leads to failure."

Learn - Learning never stops. We can graduate school again and again, but learning will never stop. Everyone in this world is learning even when we happen to be the teacher. Learning is the sign of growth and evolution. If we don't learn, we definitely will not earn and grow. The best way to do this is to invest time in your day to read books, watch seminars, talk and understand people, go to events, and to study successful people. Let's study the daily habits of successful people and start applying them in our lives. Be attractive! Become the person people want to be with, not the person people will want to avoid.

Be Happy! - Being happy definitely helps in our success. Why? It's because if we are happy, we tend to attract way more people, positive energy, and way more results! Stop complaining, whining, and constantly thinking bad thoughts about the situation you're currently in. Instead, let's look at our lives, evaluate, and be contented with what we have. Other people in this world aren't as fortunate as we are. We're definitely in a better position considering the fact that we have an internet connection and a computer/laptop/mobile device to read this post with.

Set your goals - When it comes to goal setting, they should be something we are really passionate about and determined to accomplish, no matter what road blocks we come across. Work hard, or go home. It purely depends on us, but when I think of my goals, I can't stop working on myself and on my future. Another awesome saying by Jim Rohn is "Goals. There's no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There's no telling what you can do when you believe in them. And there's no telling what will happen when you act upon them." Go For It! Don't Look Back!

Act upon on your goals - We'll keep this one simple. Don't just sit around and expect things to happen. Go out and make them happen.

These healthy habits for a healthy life will definitely change us when we put our hearts into this and do whatever it takes to make it happen.

Become a Go Getter! Go out and make your dreams a reality! Anything is possible. How do we know? Look outside the world and see how many people actually conquered the word "Impossible". We can too, once we start seeing it is possible. Do whatever it takes and have a good time doing it. It will definitely pay off in the future. We will soon realize that changing our daily habits will ultimately change our lives and who we are.

Keep Hustling!!!
- Pete C. Zafra

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Friday, August 19, 2011

Start Your Journey to Self-Growth Now PumpkinfestImage by leesean via FlickrBy Arvin Cubil Mejillano

Move that body and get things done today. Self growth is all about doing what you can - no matter how small the steps are - in order to achieve success. You want financial freedom and personal gratification then strategize and work for it little by little each day. Procrastination will never lead you to success. It may be difficult to change your attitude but in the end, you will be rewarded with a productive life.

Start de-cluttering your files and things at work and at home. Arrange your books by topic and in alphabetical order. Ensure that you have an organized environment. This takes discipline. Sometimes the clutter bars you from concentrating on your work. Eliminate the visual and aural noise around you for maximum concentration and you'll see that you will be climbing slowly up the ladder of self growth.

Start planning for your future. If you haven't plan for what you want to be 5 to 10 years from now, then you must do it as soon as possible. Do not decide only when you are about to cross life's crossroads. For example, plan your college education ahead. You have to make sure that you see yourself doing that line of work 10 years from now. If you believe you would not be happy with it then choose another course.

See to it that you always plan for everything ahead. It is easier to solve a problem this way. Your 5 minutes of planning allows you to organize and time your actions. This will ease up a lot of stress.

Always maintain a positive attitude. You will have difficulty achieving self growth if you bask in negativity. When life becomes tough, don't think about the agony but focus on the people you love. Think that you are enduring these for them. The more you think negatively, the longer you will take to complete life's task. You focus too much on the negative side that it already affects the way you work.

Just continue doing the tasks that are assigned to you. As much as possible, never abandon them halfway. Learn to finish what you have started. You will feel better knowing that you have tried than you did nothing at all. After you have finished the tasks, hop on to other things that you know you would love to do.

Self growth takes time and maturity. It may be a slow process to some; it may be a fast one to others. No matter what your pace of self-development is, remember to still maintain the best attitude.

This article is inspired by an interview series with Success Coach Tony Robbins. For full transcription of the interview, go to Self Growth.

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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Create Business Success From the Inside Out

Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a s...Aim for the moon, if you miss, you may hit a star - W Clement Stone: Image by Sipreanna via FlickrBy Evelyne Draper

In today's fast moving, global world, many people suffer from the modern problem of information overload. We get bombarded by TV, radio, newspapers, magazines and the Internet, and the average person sees around 10,000 adverts a day.

As a consequence, we get intellectually, emotionally and psychologically overloaded about the way we should be
living. This means that you start to doubt yourself because
you live from the outside in. The media and the people
around you are telling you how you should be living, that you should have that BMW and that boat. Because your friends are doing it, and so should you. In this scramble of keeping up, you don't stop and ask yourself whether you actually want it, or even whether it's logical.

The psychological literature calls this "normative influence", and in marketing it is known as "social proof". Isn't it time for you to get in touch again with what's important to you?

You as a business person will have noticed that the pressure of doing more and more in the business is not getting you the success and results anymore that you are hoping for, because you are too caught up with "doing things".

Now, taking action is a very important component of business success, especially when the action is planned and is relevant to a well set goal. In a future article, we will look at how you can set achievable goals and create an action plan that allows you to reach your goals much more easily.

This article shows you how you can change small things in the way you think and do things, in other words change things on the inside which then have a big impact on your success. We will look at the 5 key factors of success and how you can apply them in your business and in your life.

This means that even if you're not in business, this is for you because these inside-out changes do not just transform business, they can transform lives, because they come from the inside.

Making changes from the inside out creates leverage, and this has a profound effect on business. W. Clement Stone says it beautifully when he writes "Little hinges swing big doors". Because by making small adjustments you can get big results. This is called leverage.

Do you make these common mistakes?

There has been an interesting study done by Pham and Taylor at the University of California. They took 5000 students and asked them what their goals were. They all had great goals and all of them had the greatest of intentions of achieving these goals. When they followed up 5 years later, they found that only 10% reached their goals. Now, it's interesting to check what these 10% did that was different from the 90% who didn't reach their goals.

What doesn't work? (remember, 90% of the participants did this. If you are currently doing these ... GOOD! This means there's room for improvement!)

  1. Visualising how perfect your life will be when _______ happens
  2. Focus on the negative
  3. Try to suppress unhelpful thoughts
  4. Rely on will power (and grit your teeth)
  5. Motivate yourself by focusing on someone you admire
Here's what works (this is what the 10% of participants did who reached their outcomes)
  1. Visualise the path and the actions you need to take to achieve success, not just your destination. This will create a step-by-step plan allowing you to achieve your goal
  2. Focus on the positive aspects of reaching your goal, and having an objective checklist. For example one item on that checklist could be, "What qualities will I enjoy when I reach my goal?"
  3. Record your progress along the way. A spreadsheet software program works well for this where you can draw up charts to make a visual representation of how far you've come
  4. Reward your progress. These rewards and celebrations don't need to be big. Extra time off, or a nice meal in a restaurant works well
  5. Tell other people about your goal. This keeps you accountable and is an important source of leverage
Don't climb the mountain on your own!

A series of studies, this time carried out by Simone Snall at the University of Plymouth, found the following interesting results:

Participants were taken to the bottom of a mountain. They were then asked to estimate how steep the mountain was, and how difficult it would be to climb it. Participants who were there with a friend estimated the mountain to be 15% easier to climb than the participants who were there on their own. What this indicates is that when you set out to achieve a goal or an outcome, it makes it easier when you take someone with you, say a friend or a partner. They can take the steps with you, they can be there with you, and very importantly, they hold you accountable.

A 1999 study by Brigham Young University shows that, in addition to having a clear goal, making an action plan, and measuring your results, if you have a coach or mentor who holds you accountable, you have a 95% chance of more success than if you do it on your own without a clear goal and a plan on how to reach it.

Make a commitment and think of one thing from this article that you're going to implement today. Or perhaps you've already started to implement one of the things you've been reading about here. And as you're noticing a change from the inside out, I look forward to reading your comments, observations and views below.

To your success from the inside out

Evelyne Draper is an NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Coach. She offers NLP coaching for business people and people who want to improve the quality of their lives. Very often people are not aware of how much their attitudes and beliefs influence how successful they are in business and in life. She is passionate about helping people achieve the results they want. For more information, go to Evelyne lives in Wellington, New Zealand, with her partner Michael, and when she's not helping other people get what they want, she likes to go on long walks in and around Wellington, along the beaches and exploring nature.

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Tuesday, August 16, 2011

What Is a Personal Strategic Plan?

Great strategic plan sign on wall at @flipboardImage by Robert Scoble via FlickrBy Leanne Hoagland-Smith

Life is indeed funny. People place greater priorities about vacations and even the common written grocery lists than they do their futures. Let me explain.

Most people have gone to the grocery store or market. In many instances, they take along a written market or grocery list to ensure that all the correct items are purchased. For many this list is written to be in strategic alignment with the store's interior space in mind.

Now sometimes the fates or distractions intervene and the piece of paper is left on the table, the refrigerator or near the phone on the desk. Then the buyer is frantically checking her or his memory to remember what to purchase. This failure to remember this simple little strategic plan generates the following outcomes:
  • More money is spent
  • Items not wanted are purchased
  • Time is wasted walking up and down the aisles in attempts to remember what is needed
Then upon returning home, negative emotions kick in because some items were forgotten and now a second trip is required. The individual actually may think additional personal thoughts such as "How stupid could I be to leave the list at home?"

By all accounts this simple strategic plan is very important because of the wasted resources of time, energy, money and emotions. Yet, how many people have a personal strategic plan for their futures. Not too many is the answer.

Strategy comes from the Greek for a general to deceive the enemy. In life we are the generals and the enemy is everything keeping us from getting to where we want to be, to winning the war so to speak.

By investing the time to write down our goals (think the items on the grocery list) we as individuals now have far more control of where we wish to go than before. Returning to that market or grocery store analogy, who do you think is the happiest camper when shoppers leave that necessary document at home? Hint, he owns the store.

When personal strategic plans are not utilized, individuals now become pawns on someone else's playbook so to speak. They have relinquished control of their lives and willingly turned them over to someone else. I don't know about you, but I personally do not want to be a pawn in another's life.

A personal strategic plan, in my opinion, works much better when incorporating the Life Wheel concept. Buddha from my research was the first person to discuss the Life Wheel. After working with several different variations on this subject, I have created an 8 spoke Life Wheel that also employs a counter balance approach.

Draw a circle and divide it into eight equal pieces. Now starting at one o'clock label the eight sections as follow:
  1. Purpose
  2. Mental
  3. Career
  4. Family
  5. Ethics and Beliefs (Spiritual)
  6. Physical
  7. Financial
  8. Social
You will notice that Physical is directly across from Mental. This is because when we are not feeling well physically, our mental game suffers. The counterbalance effect can be found in the other areas of the Life Wheel:
  • Purpose and Ethics and Beliefs
  • Career and Financial
  • Family and Social
Obviously there are written goals within each of the 8 key areas for the Life Wheel.

Additionally, a personal strategic plan should be simple and on one page. This document must also contain you:
  1. Vision of where you see yourself in 3 to 5 years
  2. Values those non-negotiable behaviors you will demonstrate 24//7
  3. Mission for the current year usually 3 key goals
  4. Personal motto statement
  5. Dashboard of key performance indicators to ensure you stay on track
If you believe the common everyday written grocery list has significant value, then not having a personal strategic plan simply does not make sense. Invest the time to construct one and then work it. You just may be incredibly surprised by the results.

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P.S. Do you have a personal strategic plan for your life? If not, you may find this one page personal growth action plan of interest.

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Saturday, August 13, 2011

Procrastination Kills Progress!

waste of timeWasting Time - Image by macati via FlickrBy Francine Bishop

I find it quite ironic that as we get older, and our responsibilities and "to-do" list gets longer, our bodies become increasingly more tired and lethargic. Even the most motivated, energetic, fit and nutritionally aware adults that I know, don't have the energy of my nine year old.

Children seem to have a never ending supply of energy. In fact, they CAN'T stand, or sit, still even if they try!
My children will run up and down the stairs in our home, for the tiniest reason, without even giving it a second thought. There is no consideration to the fact they have done so ten times in the past twenty minutes.

Yet, for me as an adult, if I've been up and down the stairs more than half a dozen times in the morning I can feel the frustration rising. I get agitated at myself for not being more organised, or I feel angst as I rush up there AGAIN! Do you think that's ironic?

Procrastination for me occurs when there are things that I really don't want to, I don't know how to do with confidence, or there is little or no reward for me, when I actually do get it done.

The unfortunate thing about procrastination is it doesn't help anything, or anyone. In fact, if we be totally honest, procrastination could actually be what is holding you back in your life, your business, your relationships or your career.

Generally procrastination results in us not achieving our goals, it sends mixed messages to the people around us because quite often our procrastination effects others, and it creates distrust. Distrust in ourselves, and with others. No one wins with procrastination. The "thing" that you put off, push to the side, try to forget about, or "will do tomorrow" hangs over you.

For me, when I put something off, just for the sake of not wanting to do it, it changes my mood. It makes me feel less successful and disappointed with myself for not "just do"ing it, and more often than not - it affects my sleep. I always sleep better when I know I am on top of everything I promised myself I would do.

So to avoid bringing myself down with procrastination there are three things I do:

1. I have a "to do" list - this sounds archaic and so simple it couldn't possibly work, but it does. I have it on my wall, on a white board, where I can see it. If I can't see it, it becomes out of sight out of mind - so I have to be able to see it. And I use a whiteboard because sometimes priorities change. So if somethings happens throughout the day, and an item becomes more or less important I can reprioritize the list.

I make sure my list is achievable. I don't overload the list to be unachievable, overwhelming or daunting.
Then I prioritise the list, so that I know the first things I'm doing are the most important (even though they may not be the most fun to do!). So long as I get the most important tasks done I know I will be able to celebrate success at the end of the day.

2. I give myself credit. Another simple sounding technique I know, but let me explain why. The tasks that I tend to procrastinate on are the tasks I don't enjoy, I don't get a sense of satisfaction when I complete them, they frustrate me and/or I'm not confident in doing. So when I do do them, rather than mutter to myself "Thank goodness that's over", I reward myself with a moment of recognition, enjoyment and satisfaction.

Sometimes that involves walking over to my white board and putting a big tick next to it, maybe a tweet or status update to recognise my efforts, or sometimes I even give myself permission to finish early (you can do that when you are your own boss). The important thing is to actually recognise getting the task done. The secondary benefit of doing so is next time you have to do the same thing you won't have such dreadful thoughts and memories of last time. You subconscious will actually connect with the positive feelings you experienced when you finished the activity - so there is twofold benefit.

3. The most powerful strategy I can recommend for overcoming procrastination is to have somebody keep you accountable. I have a business coach and am a member of a mastermind group. When I make a commitment to these people, I know I have to do all of the things necessary to achieve my goals; and I know my coach and my mastermind members will be waiting for my status report. That is my greatest motivator and incentive to just get things done - and get over the procrastination!

My strategies for dealing with procrastination have worked for me and enabled me to achieve things I never thought possible. Being a working parent, as many of you probably are, there really is no time in our days for procrastination.

Of course avoiding procrastination is not the only thing that has helped me achieve, it has to go hand in hand with other strategies to remain motivated and keep moving forward, but overcoming procrastination makes a huge difference to my productivity and my energy levels.

Written by Francine Bishop. Francine is the founder of Social Media Mayvin, providing coaching to small business owners to get past the overwhelm and make more money, do less work and have fun along the way. Visit for your free audio CD giving you the 7 step system to small business success, including how you can systemise, socialise and monetise more than ever before.

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Thursday, August 11, 2011

Why Procrastination Can Be Bad for Your Health

ProcrastinationImage by Litandmore via FlickrBy Robin Whiting

Most people will suffer from brief periods of procrastination throughout their lives, but for some it can be a chronic problem. So what is procrastination? Well in a nutshell it's putting things off for another time.

Procrastinators will make lot's of excuses as to why they don't want to tackle a certain task, these are some of the lies they will try to convince themselves with.
  • They will always overestimate the time they have left to perform tasks
  • They will also underestimate the time it takes to complete tasks
  • They will overestimate how motivated they will feel the next day, the next week, or whenever they are putting the task off until
  • They think that succeeding at a task must require that they feel like doing it
  • They mistakenly believe that working when not in the mood is just not effective
The effects on our health due to procrastination can be very negative, stress levels will generally be higher, anxiety attacks can also be a problem and many people will suffer with poor sleep patterns due to laying awake at night thinking about what they should have done today and how it will effect tomorrow. Deep down they know by procrastinating today and not completing urgent tasks they have just increased their workload for tomorrow and probably for the next day too.

Relationships can also be seriously affected by procrastination.Partners or work colleagues will often feel resentment as they very often have to take over tasks that are not being done by the procrastinator, they may see this behaviour as laziness and feel that they always have to work harder or shoulder the burden.

So how can we tackle the problem of procrastination and improve our health and relationships. Well there are some effective steps that can be taken:

1. Try to make a list of everything you have to do in a day
2. Write out a clear statement of intention
3. Set achievable and realistic goals
4. Break down your goals into small chunks
5. Promise yourself a reward at the end of a difficult task
6. Be honest with yourself
7. Don't be distracted by easier tasks
8. Work out how long you think it will take you to complete a task., then double it
9. Think about how it will improve your relationship with others if you complete a task on time
10. Try to see how you will have more free time to relax and enjoy life if you complete your tasks on time

So can a person really deal with overcoming procrastination? If they can see beneficial changes to their health and relationships by tackling difficult tasks sooner rather than later, then there is a good chance they will not want to return to their old habits.

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