Thursday, June 30, 2011

Two Gerald G Jampolsky Quotes To Inspire Your Greatness

Cover of "Love Is Letting Go of Fear"Cover of Love Is Letting Go of FearBy Steve Nash

Gerald G Jampolsky is the author of one of the most inspiring self-help books I've ever read. The book is not very long, but the wisdom (and love) inside "Love is Letting Go of Fear" is truly inspirational. It both challenges you to see the love inside yourself, the love inside another, and to recognise the fear in both too.

I believe that IF you DO what Gerald Jampolsky suggests in his book then you will truly transform your life, and the life of those around you, for the better. And the Gerald G Jampolsky inspirational quotes I include in this article is a good example of how you can inspire your own greatness.

Inspirational Quote #1:
"A truly creative person rids him or herself of all self-imposed limitations."
- Gerald Jampolsky

Most of us blame our limitations on others. Someone told us we couldn't do it, one time - maybe our parents or siblings, or maybe it was a teacher at school - and we continue to believe that we can't do it because of this. So we blame them for our limitations.

But the stark truth is, there is only one person to blame for our perceived limitations and that is OURSELVES - we are to blame! Admittedly, it doesn't help when someone tells you "you can't", especially when you're told this (or believe you've been told this) at an early age. But it is still an opinion, no more, no less.

So there is no doubt that, as an adult, when you think of doing something that you believe you can't do (examples in my case would be sing in front of people, do open mic stand-up comedy, even attempt to do Do-It-Yourself at home) then you usually don't do them.

And you don't do them, because YOU'VE limited yourself - you are your own worst critic; the voices of doubt you hear the loudest are the voices in your head; they are YOUR LIMITATIONS in YOUR MIND. So Gerald, in his simplicity, simply urges us to know our mind-made limitations and release ourselves from them. And we need no permission from anyone else first, to do this.

The naysayers (if they still exist) are simply projecting their own limitations on you. Ignore them. Even better, inspire them by your actions to shake off their limitations too. Loosening yourself from your limitations is a win-win game for all concerned...

Inspirational Quote #2:
"You can be right or you can be happy."
- Gerald Jampolsky

What bigger self-imposed limitation can there be than the desire to be right. Or, rather - let's be accurate, here - the desire to NOT BE WRONG!

So powerful is the desire to not be wrong, that most of us are completely unaware that we even have it. But have it, we do.

When, for example, was the last time you actually admitted to being wrong? Was it proven beyond all reasonable doubt, first? And did you 'confess' to your 'crime' willingly or begrudgingly? (did you lose your temper, maybe?). Can you even admit, now, to yourself that you don't like being wrong?

Being right, or 'not being wrong' is a VERY powerful force in all of our lives, believe me. There are social statuses to uphold, our status at work could be under threat, our very existence as who we are, even, could be challenged IF we admit to being wrong. However, as Gerald again simply states it, this desire to 'not be wrong' is robbing you, and me, of our natural state of happiness.

So I simply ask you now, sitting there in front of your screen, would it be really be that terrible if you could even admit, right now, that you really don't like being wrong? "I don't like being wrong!" I wish it were not true, but it is.

As for you, a similarly honest answer to this question would be a start - a start at accessing the incredible and empowering happiness that is innate in all of us. Available once we release our need to be right. Available, too, once we relinquish our other limiting beliefs.

So, Gerald G Jampolsky I salute you! And I urge YOU to read his incredible, inspiring book. And you can read and hear (and see) what I think of another Gerald G Jampolsky inspirational quote at

From Steve M Nash - Editor of

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Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Changing Habits: What Keeps Me Stuck In Old Ways?

ChangeImage by Wonderlane via FlickrBy Steven Handel

There are problems in my life that I have been conscious of for a very long time, but haven't yet found the capacity to fix. I reflect on these old ways and old patterns, and I can clearly see the unnecessary pain and suffering they have caused me. Yet I remain stuck in them.

Even while knowing they are wrong and ineffective, I keep doing them. Repeating them. Again and again. And each time the pain and suffering comes back. And I say to myself, "Okay, that's the last time. Fuck that. Never again. I've learned my lesson now."

But, for some odd reason, I do it again. And again. I act as if I enjoy the pain, even though I know I really don't. I act impulsively. Automatically. Like a programmed robot with no sense of choice.

These patterns in my life seem to be really sticky. They are deeply rooted. I've thought of countless ways I can try to correct them, but my efforts have so far remained fruitless. It is almost as if there is another part of me that I can't change. And perhaps there is.

But that's not going to stop me from trying. Not yet at least. Maybe I need to dig deeper. Maybe I need to ask myself better questions. Maybe I need a new perspective. Maybe I just need to be more patient. Maybe I just need more experience. Maybe I need to "just do it" and habituate myself to failure until it means nothing anymore.

If there is a solution, then I know that it's going to take some time, effort, and dedication. I'm well aware of the myth of overnight success, and as a 22 year old I don't expect to have everything work out my way all of a sudden.

Upon reflection, I've noticed that there are some things I need to consider about these "old ways" (ways that seem so persistent throughout my life), and how these relate to personal development more broadly.


Not only can I not change everything overnight, but I also can't change multiple things all at the same time. Making a conscious change in your life takes up physical and mental resources. The more resources you allocate to one conscious endeavor, the less you can allocate to another.

Trying to change everything all at once is only going to spread your resources too thin - and then nothing will get accomplished. Therefore, it is important to focus on only major change at a time.
"We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations" - Anais Nin.
We are multi-faceted beings. Therefore, simple solutions (while desirable) aren't always the correct ones. Occam's razor says, "Make everything as simple as possible, but not simpler."

It's good not to over-complicate our problems, but at the same time we can't ignore the details of our plights if we truly want to get to the root of them. If we think too simply, then we won't develop the proper focus to overcome our bad habits.

The truth is our life can be broken down into many different components:

* Health
* Relationships
* Career
* Finances
* Education
* Psychology
* Religion/spirituality

Sure, they are all intertwined and interrelated. For example, working on your health may increase your confidence and self-esteem, and that can then spill over into your relationships and career. But it is important that you don't try to conquer the whole world all at once.

If you are the kind of person who has never went to the gym on a regular basis, then you should really just focus on that for your first 2-5 weeks until it becomes a more common habit. Once that becomes more second-nature and automatic, then you can shift your consciousness to other aspects of your life that you want to adjust. This basic rule applies to any kind of habit change.

The point is that you go step-by-step, building yourself bolt-by-bolt, and not trying to transform yourself in one desperate swoop.

Again, these things take time, effort, and dedication. Personal development is an ongoing process with no clear beginning or end. Often you just have to take life one step at a time, because any other way will just get you flustered and frustrated.

LESSON: Some aspects of my life have been relatively "stagnant," because I've been busy focusing on other aspects of my growth.

This is one reason I am still stuck in some old ways.

However, I can try to better overcome these old ways by focusing on them on a 1 to 1 basis. It's OK to put some goals on the back-burner while I work on others, because working on them all at once would spread my physical and mental resources too thin.

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Steven Handel is a frequent blogger on psychology and personal development who practices what he preaches. Check out more of his articles on personal development. If you really enjoy his writings then also subscribe to his psychology and personal development newsletter.

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Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Self-Blame Or Personal Responsibility?

Grafitti with social statementImage via WikipediaBy Janet Hilts

We're encouraged to take personal responsibility to empower ourselves. It does feel good, doesn't it? I admit it can be scary, but the strength of it feels great. When I'm taking responsibility for my life and there's a problem, I'm in charge of the solution. It's my choice. Since I like being in charge, that's good news to me.

Plus I don't have to wait for somebody else to change, or for a circumstance to change - none of which I can control. So I vote YES on taking personal responsibility.

But in the process of doing that, self-blame can creep in. Without me even noticing. So what? you might ask. Isn't that part of taking responsibility? Isn't that a good thing? My answer to both questions is a large NO. Because it's just not constructive to blame yourself. In fact, it can keep you seriously stuck.

Self-blame says:
  • I need to fix myself
  • I need to punish myself in some way
  • I need to regret what I did
Since I'm not sure how long these things take, or when I'm finished, I could stay here a long time. I keep telling myself, "I should know better. I shouldn't have done that. If I scold myself enough, maybe it won't happen again", etc. And while I'm blaming myself, it keeps me in a looking-back position - focused on the past. Also an unhelpful place to hang out. I'm speaking from plenty of personal experience here.

On the other hand, taking responsibility simply requires me to see my part in what's going on. I can do that honestly AND without self-blame. So first I take a close look. Then I just ask myself: Do I want to change something? If so, what are some options? What action do I need to take to change things? This keeps me in a looking-forward position - focused on the future - instead of looking back with regret, remorse or self-blame. And that looking forward draws me ahead in the direction I want to go.

And here are some unexpected bonuses: When you let go of the whole self-blame thing, your creativity has some room to breathe. It's really liberating! With creativity freed up, you can see so many more possibilities when you're not bogged down in the heaviness, the negative energy, and thought-spinning of self-blame. Your intuition and insights are stronger, too - all contributing to more ideas and productivity.

And to help dissolve your everyday stress, claim your free tapping audio Stress Relief On Tap when you go to Just fill in your name and best email to get your free audio recording and simple EFT instructions. From Janet Hilts, EFT coach, specializing in helping motivated people like you get unstuck and moving forward again. Find out more at

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Sunday, June 26, 2011

Say "I Can" Now And Fill In Your Blank

i can on 19 February 2010 - day 50Image by Leonard John Matthews via FlickrBy Shelli Thompson

Are you like millions of other people in the world today that needs to get permission?

Permission to be happy
Permission to be successful
Permission to be wealthy

Who is going to give you permission to do any of these things? Most people are so busy just taking it for them self. You need to give your self permission to have all of those things by using the two most powerful words in the world.

When a desire is added to the end of these two words if forms a complete sentence. These two words need to be heard and repeated over and over again. We need to use these two words every day in place of some other words that are less positive.

These two words "I CAN" are the two most empowering words that your ears can hear you say.

Why is it so important to hear I CAN?

I can be happy
I can be successful
I can be wealthy

Yes you can be all of these things. Give your self permission and take action. When you become truly aware that all we see is the human form however, what lies under that are cells and tissues that get broken down into smaller and smaller parts until we are just atoms.

Little energetic atoms vibrating and moving at the speed of light, all contained by the field of our body. The slightest movement or sound effects the speed of the vibration just like your thoughts affect your mood.

If your pool of energy was a pond with a mirror finish, calm and beautiful And you threw in a rock, what do you suppose would happen? There would be a splash and then several ripples that gravitate out in a circle and affect all of the water around it.

When we raise our vibration it works just like that rock. It spreads a circle and effects all of the vibrations around it. Vibrations from other humans, animals, plants and the entire universe.

The two words I CAN have the capability of raising your vibration so much that you will notice a change in your world. A positive feeling of energy that is so strong that it just makes you feel good.

That feeling that you get of feeling so good is absolutely addictive. You will never want to go back to the way you felt before!

I know you can, now you just need to know you can.

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Saturday, June 25, 2011

Things to Be Grateful For

LONDON, ENGLAND - JANUARY 06:  In this photo i...Image by Getty Images via @daylifeBy Jeff Davidson

We asked around, found out some of the things for which people express gratitude, and put together the following list. While some items on the list may not apply to you, most are items for which all of us can be grateful. Whether it's a person, object, form of entertainment, place, or concept, everyone can be grateful for something.

People & Relationships

1. Family
2. Friends
3. Good teachers
4. Role models
5. My boyfriend
6. My girlfriend
7. My parents
8. My children
9. Babies
10. Siblings and cousins
11. A decent landlord
12. Mentors
13. Family reunions
14. Engagements and weddings
15. Pets
16. Dogs


17. Health insurance
18. Generally good health
19. The ability to walk
20. Breathing
21. My genes
22. My ethnic heritage
23. Good hearing and eyesight

Safety and Security

24. Police and Fire Departments
25. US Military
26. National Weather Service
27. Freedom
28. Freedom of religion

Modern Luxuries

29. Clean water
30. Listerine
31. Cars
32. Public transportation
33. Air conditioning
34. Clothes that fit
35. Washers and dryers
36. Jobs
37. Being employed
38. Book publishers
39. Financial aid
40. The ability to own property


41. GPS
42. DVR
43. Pandora
44. Computers
45. Smartphones
46. The Internet
47. iTunes song collection
48. PowerPoint
49. Photographs


50. Movies
51. The silver screen
52. Broadway shows
53. ESPN and ESPN2
54. TV news
55. Learning Channel
56. History Channel
57. VH1 and MTV
58. iPods
59. Xbox
60. Books
61. Paint
62. Concerts
63. Wall Street Journal
64. Art
65. Fashion
66. Adidas Sambas
67. "Retail therapy"


68. Cheerleading
69. Running
70. Skiing
71. Rowing
72. UConn Huskies basketball
73. March Madness
74. Tennis


75. Good food
76. Mexican food
77. Sushi
78. Pizza Fruit
79. Ice cream
80. Crunchy peanut butter
81. Cream cheese
82. Beer
83. Tea
84. Chocolate


85. The USA
86. National and state parks
87. Social scenes
88. Bars
89. Whole Foods, Earth Fair, and Trader Joe's
90. Costco and Sam's Club
91. Coffee shops
92. Public schools and universities
93. Swimming pools
94. The beach and mountains
95. Shopping malls
96. Cruise ships


97. Pretty weather
98. The arrival of spring
99. The arrival of fall
100. Thanksgiving
101. Freshly cut flowers


102. Learning
103. Formal education
104. Lessons learned
105. Experiences
106. Jokes
107. High-fives
108. Respect
109. Ability to change
110. Varied interests

Jeff Davidson is "The Work-Life Balance Expert," a preeminent time management authority, the author of 56 mainstream books, and an electrifying professional speaker, making 778 presentations since 1985. Jeff has been widely quoted in the Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Christian Science Monitor, New York Times, and USA Today.

Cited by Sharing Ideas Magazine as a "Consummate Speaker," Jeff believes that career professionals today in all industries have a responsibility to achieve their own sense of work-life balance, and he supports that quest through his websites and and through 24 iPhone Apps at the Breathing Space Institute page of the iTunes App Store.

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Friday, June 24, 2011

Why People Fail: Top 10 Out of the Box Reasons

NOTTINGHAM, ENGLAND - SEPTEMBER 05:  Sven-Göra...Image by Getty Images via @daylifeBy Sture Nyberg

"The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure" said Sven Goran Eriksson.

Success and failure are the two sides of the same coin and they don't leap much ahead of each other. Many people generally fail their goals because they lose hope much ahead of their deadlines. People fail because they think that they will fail. It's all in our minds that compel us to believe that we will not succeed much before attaining the final stage of the results.

Fighting with this so called failure-phobia mindset, many people tried to explain the question 'why people fail'. Most of the comments roam about the fact that people fail because they don't have the required will power to succeed. By giving a close look at the top failure reasons that people normally gives, one thing becomes clear that the 'failure' could have easily been overcome, but something went missing.

Let's find out this 'something's and also the top failure reasons:

1. We blame others for our failure
This may not be the case with you, but majority of people make the excuse that they fail/failed their goals because of the fault of other people. This mentality makes them habitual with the process of failure, because every time they fail they find some reasons to blame upon. Blaming others is one most destructive reason why people fail. Once you start accepting your failures, you would automatically get the courage required to fight back stronger in the next stage.

2. Lack of Trust
Lack of trust is also holds a good position in the top failure reasons. May be sometimes in the past you were turned down by someone else. This doesn't mean that everybody will do the same. Without any support from others succeeding seems quite difficult in the present time. In one or two cases, you might feel the joy of success by not keeping faith on others, but in the long run you must trust others.

3. Trying to get rich quicker
Another common factor behind the massive failures is the thirst of getting rich quicker. Well, there is no harm if you want to get rich. But, problem arises when somebody wants to earn money in a quicker and easier way. If somebody runs after these kinds of quick success, they are sure to fail their goals, sooner or later. It is very truly said that, there is no alternative to hard work and there is no get rich quick scheme in the world.

4. Self-centric attitudes
No matter, whether it is a business, study or any other related stuff, self-centric attitudes are really harmful for everyone, and therefore it is widely considered as one of the top failure reasons. Until and unless somebody adopts a wide perspective view to his/her daily activities; s/he is sure to fail his/her goals.

5. Lack of self-dependence
Many people, instead of counting on their own, seem to concentrate on the others. This tendency takes them well out of the track and consequently they fail their goals.. Focus well on your goal and have faith in yourself; you can easily overcome the barriers that come on the way to success.

6. Unable to determine the goals
Many a times, we don't know what are we doing, what are we running after. Yes, we follow our responsibilities pretty well, but we don't realize why we are doing so. It's not about running fast in a race course it is our life filled with certain goals and there must be a finishing line to it too.

7. Shaking hands with chiseler
The ever green line 'honesty pays' is not only a mere advice, it is a solid base ignorance of which is a prominent reason why people fail. No one can ever make permanent success by lying on some false approaches. Fallacious methods are meant for short term success only.

8. Criticizing Others
This is another reason why people fail most of the time. Instead of looking after their own faults, they get busy in pointing fingers on others. Criticism is nothing but a total wastage of time when done and aimed on others; avoid this, concentrate on your own faults and the duties to overcome them.

9. Habit of quitting before the game is over
In this world, we are only the players; we don't make all the rules all the time. And this is why we can't determine who is going to make it or else is going to break it. So, how can we run away before it is all over? Without focusing on the results, it is better to keep on playing as long as the game lasts.

10. Fear of Finale
Many times, it happens that we perform quite well in the early stages, but whenever we come to the end part we get shattered and lose focus. This is one of the biggest reasons why people fail their goals just before touching their success stars.

Reading all these 10 out of the box reasons, one should always try to avoid them at the best possible level. Avoiding them and focusing on what is actually required is the path to your success.

Go on, have a look and prepare a checklist if you have any of these factors within you. Don't stop at there, take some action and prioritize the tasks that need your best attention to overcome them.

Aloha to your success ahead!

Irrespective of the type of your business or the product depth & width, Sture can help you boost up the business you are doing or you are about to enter with him.
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Thursday, June 23, 2011

How Setting Money Goals Can Help You Achieve the Financial Future of Your Dreams

Sample budgetImage via WikipediaBy Lisa Boyd

Setting money goals is the first step toward enjoying financial freedom and living the life of your dreams. Do you work hard but don't seem to get anywhere? Are you tired of living paycheck to paycheck? You know that you should be a wise steward, but do you feel like your money is controlling you rather than the other way around?

A lack of financial goals is the main reason people experience money problems and if you want to change your financial future you must learn how to manage your budget and set goals that will put you on the right track.
We all have dreams, but the difference between those who achieve their goals and those who do not is the ability to determine what they want from life, create a plan of action, and stay focused until they realize success. They keep their eyes on the prize and persevere because they know that the end result is worth the sacrifices.

Money management, not income level, is the key to financial success. Taking responsibility for your financial life and learning to set money goals that will give you a sense of purpose and mission is the foundation for building a strong financial future.

Why Set Money Goals?

Without goals, you will wander aimlessly, lacking purpose and direction. The same is true when it comes to your money. If you don't know what you want to achieve financially, you will make decisions without thinking about the future. Goal setting offers many benefits that will bring your life into focus and help you achieve the financial future of your dreams.

1. Goals are an effective tool for planning and thinking of the future. Setting a goal means you are no longer living only for the moment, but you are looking at your financial situation in terms of where you are now and where you want to be in the future. Where do you see yourself in five years? What do you have to do to get where you want to go?

Many people adjust their lifestyle according to their income, so if they get a raise they simply increase their standard of living. Goals will help you put your spending into perspective so you can use this extra money to increase your savings, build wealth, and work toward those things that are outlined in your long term plan such as retirement, a vacation, college funds, or getting out of debt. Thinking about the future can create excitement that will motivate you to pursue your dreams and turn your ideas into reality.

2. Goals provide motivation and momentum. To stay focused, it is important that you set a goal that is significant to you - something that you think is worth achieving. For example, having money simply sitting in a savings account may not matter to you, but paying off your bills so you can afford to purchase a boat or new car may keep you motivated to work toward getting out of debt. In other words, do not only define the goal but identify the 'why' because this will give your goal purpose and meaning.

Outline the benefits that your goal will bring such as freedom, less stress, a vacation, and the ability to start your own business, or buy a new home. This way, when you get discouraged or feel frustrated because you have to give up some luxuries such as eating out or entertainment, you will be able to look at the bigger picture and be motivated by these advantages. Goals give you a sense of mission and allow you to realize that all of your efforts and hard work have purpose or meaning.

Breaking your large-scale goals into smaller mini-goals will allow you to keep the momentum going because you can see what you have accomplished and be encouraged by these successes.

3. Goals will help you gain control of your budget, finances, and life. If you are struggling financially and have no goals or direction for your budget, then you are essentially being controlled by your money instead of allowing your money to work for you. If your finances seem out of control and overwhelming, then setting reasonable, attainable goals can help you design a plan that will make your budget more manageable so you can regain control of your money and begin the process of getting out of debt. Imagine the freedom you will feel when you can once again decide how to spend your money and be able to use it to achieve your dreams and make a difference in the lives of others.

4. Goals will help bring balance and enjoyment to your life. By setting goals you will know exactly where your money is going so you will eventually reach a point where you can pay your bills, save money, and be able to have fun without going into debt. Financial struggles can be stressful, but defining clear goals can help you balance responsibility with enjoyment which will benefit your overall health while also ensuring your financial security.

5. Goals will provide clear direction. Essentially, goals are a road map that will lead you to your destination. If you don't know where you are going, your spending will have no purpose and you will be less motivated to make the sacrifices necessary for financial freedom. Goals also force you to define your priorities and possibly make lifestyle or value changes that will facilitate the achievement of these dreams. When you are tempted to make a purchase you will have to ask yourself, "How will this affect my goal and is having this item a priority in relation to my goal?"

Tips For Goal Setting To Achieve The Financial Future Of Your Dreams

1. Look at your spending patterns. The first step in creating money goals is to look at your current financial situation and find out where your money is going. How do you use your money? Do you buy things you can't afford? Do you feel the need to 'keep up with the Joneses'? Are you an impulsive spender? By looking at your money habits you will be able to identify excessive spending and find ways to cut back. Many people are actually shocked when they study their spending patterns and realize how out of control their finances are. Setting goals will help you plan your spending so you are always aware of where your money is going and will be able to increase your saving power.

2. Create a budget. Many people do not have a monthly budget that lists their financial obligations. It is important that you are aware of all your expenses and how much of your income is designated to these bills. You need to live within your means and account for every cent you spend. Taking responsibility for your finances will help you achieve your goals and enjoy a secure future. Once you get your budget under control and have a good understanding of your expenses, then you can begin setting a little aside into a savings account that will help you meet your longer term goals.

3. Set both short term and long term goals. Your long term goal is the big picture, the ultimate result that you are hoping to achieve. But, sometimes this overall goal can seem overwhelming, especially if your finances are a mess. In order to be successful, break this larger goal into smaller 'short term goals' that are more attainable and will make you feel like you are reaching important milestones along the way. For example, your long term goal may be to become completely debt free, but this can seem like an enormous task. To make things simpler, set a shorter term goal of paying off one credit card by a certain date, so that you feel like you have accomplished something toward your bigger dream.

4. Put your goals on paper. Writing your goals down is a way of clearly defining them so that you know what you want to achieve and can monitor your progress to increase your chance of success. Put a copy of your goals where you can see them and read them regularly, maybe even including pictures of what you are hoping to purchase when you become debt free. Putting your goals on paper is a way of making a commitment and creates accountability, especially if you share your goals with family and friends. It makes the plan clear, gives you direction, and will help you stay on track.

5. Make sure your goals are specific. Many times people fail because their goals are too broad or too general. It is important to know exactly what you are wanting to accomplish so that you know when you have reached your goal. For example, don't say, "I want to save money this month", but rather, "My goal is to save $200 this month." Make sure your goals are realistic. Long term goals may seem overwhelming, but you should be confident that your short term goals are attainable. If your monthly budget will not allow you to save $200 then it would be counterproductive to set this goal. If it is not reasonable, you are setting yourself up for failure before you even begin.

Finally, your goals should be simple. If they are too complex, you are more likely to give up. For example, if you are wanting to save $200, purchase a new washing machine, and make a double payment on your credit card, you will probably put yourself under a lot of stress. By setting a simple goal, or choosing one thing to focus on at a time, you will know how to concentrate your efforts and will be more likely to succeed. Remember, success is a step by step process and you can do anything if you approach it one step at a time.

6. Write down the benefits of your goal. The purpose of money goals is to help you achieve the financial future of your dreams, but getting from where you are to where you want to be is not always easy. By reminding yourself of the benefits, you will be able to persevere through the sacrifices, setbacks, and discouragement you may face along the way.

7. Identify the obstacles of your goals. Often people give up before they realize success because they are not prepared for the difficulties they may encounter. Remember, changing your financial future can be a big task and requires both discipline and patience. By being aware of some the obstacles you might face, you can come up with a plan that will help you overcome so that you are not distracted from your goal.

8. Outline a plan of action. Once you have determined your goals, you must come up with a plan to achieve these goals. Simply knowing your goal is not enough. Many people don't realize their dreams because they never take the steps necessary to make their dreams a reality. Your goal will help you define your course of action and come up with strategies that will turn your ideas into something reachable and attainable.

Remember, your goals are specific so your plan of action should also be specific, with reasonable time limits, measurable results, and clear steps. Design savings and spending plans, outline direction for each day, week, or month, and make sure that your spouse or other family members living in your home understand the plan and their role in it.

9. Educate yourself. Educating yourself on money management and smart investments will give you control over your money and allow you to secure both your future and your retirement. Consult a financial adviser, talk to successful friends, read books, or take courses. By setting educational goals you are preparing yourself to make wise choices in any financial climate and ensure that your money is always working to your advantage.

10. Make sure you have support and accountability. Setting money goals is only the first step - achieving those goals takes a lot of hard work and discipline. To increase your chance of success you should enlist the help of family, friends, or a professional who can help keep you accountable and encourage you throughout the process. They will also be able to help you evaluate your progress and point out any areas where you may be going off track.

Goal setting is the first step to success in any area of your life. By learning how to set money goals you will gain control of your life and be able to secure the future of your dreams.

About Author

Lisa Boyd is the owner and creator of and is committed to inspiring others to pursue the life of their dreams. Live your best life and use Lisa's tips for goal setting to set long and short term money goals.

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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Focus Is Like A Magnifying Glass

Magnifying glassImage by the Italian voice via FlickrBy Elvire Smith

At a recent seminar, a successful women, Louise Taylor, said: "Focus more on your desire than on your doubt, and the dream will take care of itself. You may be surprised at how easily this happens. Your doubts are not as powerful as your desires, unless you make them so." How does that resonate with you?

Let me talk a bit about focus here, because once you understand what it is you may want to pay more attention to it.

Remember when you were younger, and playing with a magnifying glass you parents let you have, you either burnt leaves, or you burnt a hole in your pants, which did not make your parents happy, then again THEY gave you the magnifying glass in the first place, right, so what was their problem, or you might even have burnt yourself a blister on your skin.

How does that work?

Simple, the energy of the sun is all around us, even on cloudy days, yet when you harness this incredible power, it becomes white hot and it can burn anything, the more you harness it the more and faster it burns.

Hmm, interesting. Did you know that you have that very same energy at your disposal to use for your own good, that it is inside of you, all the time, 100% present? Bet you never thought of that before, you are energy, the same energy that can be turned into anything you can possibly think of.

This is part of your thought process, energy IS your thought. Thinking is creating pictures of what you want in your life. The more you think about it or focus on these pictures, the more your picture becomes clear and the more you attract it to you.

The more intense your focus, the bigger the attraction-factor. So, if you want something really bad, think about it constantly, every single second of the day. See yourself already in the possession of it, and experience how good that feels. Feeling is energy as well, created by your thoughts, your thoughts create any vibration you choose, we call that feeling. So think well, and feel well as a result of it.

Keep doing this all day long and watch what happens. You will amaze yourself. Things will go better for you and you will feel better about how well things work for you, it's like a ping-pong game, or like a computer - good information in, good information out, garbage in, garbage out.

PS: The same applies to something you definitely do NOT want in your life - like debt or breast cancer - the more you focus on it, the more you attract it! Think about THAT next time you watch TV and see all those ads flying by about pills for diseases - what do you think that does for you? It simply keeps the awareness of attracting it to you alive, constantly. Do you really want any of those diseases? Just focus on your DESIRES!!!!! Think about it.

Elvire Smith, LifeSuccess Consultant, inspires women to discover how to create the life of their dreams by teaching tools to make them come true in their lifetime. "You become what you think about!" Think about your dream life, imagine it, plan it, achieve it. Elvire can be reached at:

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Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Personal Development: Practice Is More Important Than Theory

Do It NowImage by Hatchibombotar via FlickrBy Steven Handel

Why Practice is More Important Than Theory

"In theory, there is no difference between practice and theory. In practice, there is" - Jan L. A. van de Snepscheut

If you read and talk about personal development too much, then it can begin to turn into a kind of mystical abstraction. The more you try to intellectualize about it, the further away your goals seem to become.

This is why you should view your personal development as a "practice-based philosophy." The very nature of the subject "personal development" requires that you are capable of putting your values, beliefs, and ideas into action. Action is the primary requirement. Without action, you're in a place of personal stagnation.

Have you ever heard of a "keyboard jockey?" A keyboard jockey is an individual who spends more time typing on their computers about how to do something than actually practicing it in the real world. It's a term that first became popular in the Pick-Up Artist (PUA) community.

Whether or not you agree with PUAs, they were right on this one. They understood that in order to learn something, or get better at it, you need to go out into the "field" and practice it.

Michael Jordan didn't become a professional basketball player by reading books about basketball. Gary Vaynerchuk didn't become a Wine expert by reading books about wine. And Style didn't become a Pick-Up Artist by reading books about seduction.
    Nothing can replace practice and personal experience.
So what happens when we don't practice and just theorize?

Paralysis by Analysis

In effect, we begin to think about a situation so much that we actually inhibit ourselves from ever taking action. We get an idea for a new business, then the very next day we think of 2 or 3 other possibilities. Eventually, our list keeps piling up, but we never follow through on any of them.

Paralysis by analysis is especially prevalent in today's world because we have so many damn choices. There are so many different foods to eat, girls to date, careers to choose, places to see, music to listen to, etc. Sometimes there are so many possibilities that we don't know where to start. So we just do nothing. We become so overwhelmed by the amount of choices we have that we'd rather not make a decision. Perhaps it's because the "opportunity cost" of missing out on all those decisions is too much for us to bare.

The more we ruminate on our options, the more likely we are to suffer paralysis by analysis. This is one very obvious way that too much theorizing can greatly inhibit our personal development.

Goals become more clear and vivid when we begin working toward them

Often we don't really know what we want (let alone how to get it) until we get a taste of it. This is why experimenting with new experiences can be so beneficial. Sure, we may have some rough moments along the way, but that will just give us an even better idea on what we want and don't want out of life.

Sometimes it's better to let the bad things happen rather than keep theorizing and worrying about them inside your head. You may find:
  • It wasn't as bad as you thought it would be
  • You gain experience and learn from it in a way you never could just by thinking about it
  • You build resilience - "what doesn't kill you often makes you stronger"
  • You develop a deeper understanding of your preferences and values
Now, I'm not saying we should act recklessly without any sense of caution, but I do think that often the things we worry about are more harmless than we make them out to be.

Beliefs Should Be Practical and Flexible

"Truth is what works" - William James.

Beliefs are only as valuable as they are practical. You can theorize about alternative universes and multiple Gods all you want, but if you have no access to the truth, and it has no bearing on how you act on a daily basis, it shouldn't really matter (at least not from a personal development perspective).

Sure, it may be fun to think about all these unknowns, and it may even make us more critical thinkers, but if these questions begin taking up too much energy and time, then it is probably best to re-focus on more practical matters. Focus on the ideas that bring you results and ignore abstract matters which are often inconsequential.

I recall the earlier years of my conscious pursuit for personal development. I began to become really infatuated with Buddhism, eastern philosophy, enlightenment, and seeking an "absolute truth" about the nature of reality and consciousness.

I would go to my universities libraries and take out books on all kinds of stuff, not excluding astral projections, the afterlife, paranormal activity, philosophy of mind, etc. It was a long and tiresome journey, and nothing very fruitful came out of it. I eventually had to abandon the pursuit, accepting the fact that there are some things I don't know and can't know, and those things aren't worth obsessing over.

Since then it feels as though a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Being able to accept that you "don't know and can't know" everything is one of the most liberating feelings in the world.

It's also the best reason to keep your beliefs flexible. It would be pretty presumptuous to think you can discover (and settle) for a few beliefs and principles and live your whole life in accordance to them. The universe is way too complex and humans are all too fallible for us to base all of our decision-making on a few static principles.

That's not to say we should abandon all principles and values, only that it is important not to be bounded by them when they no longer apply. That is the big idea behind being ground in practicality vs. being grounded in theory.

You may make it a general principle "not to kill others," but if you find yourself in a situation where someone was attacking you, then you may be willing to kill them in self-defense. In the same way, there are situations I may not even be able to imagine where I may need to compromise, adjust, or abandon certain values depending on the circumstances.

I want to finish by saying I believe choosing practice over theory also opens us up to more possibilities and more freedoms. Being completely fixed on our principles makes us stubborn and narrow-minded. But giving ourselves the flexibility and freedom to adapt to our surroundings allows us to navigate throughout life much more effectively.

Steven Handel is a frequent blogger on psychology and personal development who practices what he preaches. Check out more of his articles on personal development. If you really enjoy his writings then also subscribe to his psychology and personal development newsletter.

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Monday, June 20, 2011

Making Affirmations Work For You

Affirmation!Image by bark via FlickrBy Maya Kante

Many folks are curious about how affirmations work or why they seem to work for some people and not others. The funny thing is that we all use affirmations all the time. What you experience depends on what you affirm all day.

The word affirmation refers to a statement that one accepts as reality. The statement could be good or bad. If you often say things like: "I never have enough money," it's more than likely that you don't have enough money now. Persisting to hold this affirmation in your consciousness will lead to you not having enough in the future either. Your subconscious is now programmed to seek and enter into situations that make this statement true.

Most of us hold more negative beliefs than positive because our parents, churches, and schools didn't impress upon us how important our words really are. It's time for us to teach ourselves how to be more conscious of carefully constructing our beliefs by making affirmations work for us and not against us. After all, you create your reality by what you believe. So it is in your best interest to change your negative beliefs into positive ones!

So how can you make affirmations work for you specifically? Well, affirmations work through your constant use of and belief in them. So there are a couple things to consider when going about making affirmations work for you. You need to examine what you have been taught about affirmations and what you believe. This process can be tricky because often we aren't aware of the hidden beliefs that are stored in our subconscious.

Not only are we not aware of some of our negative beliefs, we often have forgotten where they originated. This makes these beliefs more of a challenge to identify and change. But you can do it! People who say affirmations don't work are approaching them with the wrong mindset and more than likely not using them correctly. A good friend of mine had picked up the belief that using positive affirmations meant you believed in magic in the supernatural sense. It wasn't until he understood that using affirmations was a way to focus and train a natural mental process, that he became open to using them and experiencing their benefits.

You first task is to identify any negative beliefs or statements about affirmations or related subjects that you have been exposed to. Then you must work on releasing them. Create or look up a release affirmation. "I now release all negative thoughts about positive thinking exercises. I now know using positive affirmations will benefit me" is a general one you can try. But it is best to name the specific negative thought in the release affirmations. Writing, singing, chanting, and visualizing, are among the popular methods of repeating affirmations to retrain your negative thinking.

You can use one of these methods to change your thinking about positive affirmations themselves. The more quickly you change your core beliefs about using affirmations the more quickly you can use them to change other areas of your life. So you should find a method of using positive affirmations that helps you to use them several times throughout your day. The more you use them throughout your day, the more your subconscious will begin to accept them as true.

Maya Kante has been an avid student of Science of Mind with an emphasis on positive affirmations for over 15 years. For more great information on making the most of affirmations, visit

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Sunday, June 19, 2011

Utilizing Mind Power to Your Advantage

200px-Descartes mind and bodyDescartes: Mind and Body - Image via WikipediaBy Greg Frost

The mind is a powerful tool that greatly determines the direction one's life takes. It is evident that those who continuously focus their minds on the negative have their lives heading in the wrong direction. On the other hand, those who purposefully choose to focus on the positive empower their lives for good things. This factor is especially tested when things may not seem to be heading in the direction that you desire. It is during these moments that you can use your mind power to either get out of the situation successfully or be brought down by it.

Perseverance is a term that many people do not like to hear. With this present age, the temptation of having a quick fix to all matters has made it difficult for some to patiently wait for a desired goal. Those interested in unlocking their mind power, need to incorporate this important entity in all that they do. The power of the mind cannot be exhausted. No matter how much mind power one is using, there is still more that can be unlocked. This makes mind power discovery a continuous process. Know-how, though, is important to successfully achieve this.

The mind is so powerful that it can literally be in a place where your physical body is not. One can sit in a specific place and go to a far away region using their mind. Such a person can even begin to experience the environment of that place without physically being there. This illustrates how the power of the mind cannot be undermined. The statement that it is possible to achieve anything with the power of the mind is definitely true.

Whether you choose to utilize this power or not, it will reflect in the direction your life takes. Dreamers of positive things are one of the most successful people in the world. This is mainly because they continuously engage their minds on what they want to achieve. Dreaming is where someone visualizes where they want to be. This energizes the person and gives ideas of how to achieve the dream. Still, this cannot happen without believing of being capable of achieving it.

One of the greatest ways to unlock the power of the mind is through meditation. This involves deep reflection of one's life and what needs to be achieved. This gives one the opportunity to be in touch with their inner being. One is able to deal with issues that affect their life. The mind is then projected towards a desired goal. This cannot be done when one has a disturbed mind or is in an unfavorable environment for this. Peace and tranquility are important to make meditation successful.

The state of the physical body greatly influences the mind. Sound health facilitates a sound mind. Exercise is one way of giving the mind a good environment to unlock its power. Exercise releases tension in the body which goes a long way to having a relaxed mind. With these points in place, mind power is ready to be released for the achievement of one's dreams.

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Saturday, June 18, 2011

Personal Development, The Importance Of Investing In Yourself

Keeping a diary supports personal developmentImage by m-c via FlickrBy Kevin Sims

Personal development is the key to free yourself from mediocrity. Your current level of thinking has created your current situation, so if you want to change your situation, you have to change your mindset.

Before you can change your mindset, you have to be willing to immerse yourself in various forms of personal development everyday. Personal development is not something that you do once, you can't go to one seminar and expect your mindset to be changed forever, no matter how good the speaker is. If I had a dollar for every person that said, personal development "yeah I did that once" I would be rich. There are a few common traits of people that truly get great results from personal development.

These are: They will listen to audio material when they don't feel like listening to it, they will read when they would rather watch TV and they will set their alarm 15 minutes early to rewrite their affirmations everyday before work.

I'm sure you have all heard that success is a decision. The same applies to changing your mindset. It is as simple as making the decision that I am committed to my future therefore I will be consistent with my personal development.

Below are a few different ways you can apply personal development to your life. It is recommended that you partake in all forms but obviously some more that others.


Developing a positive mindset is one of the most powerful life strategies there is. By using affirmations, what you are effectively doing is changing your self image using the power of auto suggestion. The aim is to use present tense incorporating powerful positive thinking techniques, positive affirmations and visualizations, it is possible to convince yourself that you are who you say you are.

We can all use affirmations on personal level, but it is also extremely beneficial from a professional and business stand point. Using these techniques consistently will transform your life, your health and passion for life. Your friends and associates will comment on the changes they noticed in you and on how positive you are.

Some tips for affirmations

Affirmations are essential in changing you self image to allow you to grow in to a leader and person of influence. Affirmations should be done daily in the morning before you head to work and I also like to record my affirmations on my phone so I can play it back throughout the day.

Some Points to remember: Keep them short 1-2 lines is plenty

-Have a page of these bullet point affirmations and rewrite them daily for 21 days.
-Keep them positive, avoid using: don't, not, wont, etc
-They must be in the present tense, you should write your affirmations as if you already had all of these qualities.
- To help you create some affirmations, look at three or four people that you respect and admire. List ten qualities that they have that you would like, and develop your present tense affirmations around them.


Audio is a vital component of your personal development plan. Everyone has heard of the power of association which is exactly what audio is. When your driving around in your car, instead of being frustrated by peak hour traffic you can be listening to some of the most powerful, big thinking minds in the world. That is worth so much more than what you may first think. What I mean is, if you listen to only half an hour of audio per day, over the course of a year that is 182.5 hours of associating with big thinkers. Do you think that may do something change your mindset? Of course it would, and a point to make is that consistency is the key here.

Sign Up For Blogs

Signing up for great quality blogs is an excellent way to keep your attitude in tact. A blog on a social media site is a great way to be drip fed positive and motivating quotes, affirmation and posts. These blogs are also a great way to network with like minded people. If you are using Linkedin or Facebook it is recommended that you also add value to the group or page by contributing your own posts. This will show that you are actively interested in other peoples thoughts and discussions, not just wanting to push your business or thoughts on people.


In a nutshell, seminars are so powerful because of the power of association. It has been said that you can figure out someones annual income by averaging out the income of their five closest friends. If this is the case, doesn't it make sense to associate with wealthy, big thinking people? If you spend your time associating with these solution orientated people, then you can't help but be positively effected by them.

If I could give you any advice at all, it would be to mirror how these people think, act, walk and talk. Choosing the right seminars to go to is also important. Some seminars are extremely cheap but are still unbelievable for motivation, inspiration and association. However these cheap seminars are often tied in with network marketing companies. The mindset you need to have when it comes to seminars is, its not what the seminar costs that is important, it is what it will cost you by not going.

Paying $12,000 for a five day seminar may seem excessive but the information you will come away with will impact your life forever. Only if you take action that is! The volumes of people that go to seminars and then two weeks later cannot remember what it was about are the ones that will never exceed in life. You need to be taking notes on what the speakers say and then work out how you are going to apply this to your life.


A mentor is not only someone that can teach you how to do particular things, but is also someone who can hold you accountable to your dreams or goals. Your mentor will be someone who you look up to and someone who you can go to for advice. A mentor may not always be a person that you can personally contact, they may be an author or just part of an education program. Having a mentor is extremely important for success in all areas of life as we can learn from their mistakes and follow their lead to prevent us getting distracted from our goals.

My advice is to find a mentor in your chosen field but to do this you need to ask yourself a few questions first. If you look at their life as a whole (health, money, assets, social life, family life, business achievements) do they have the result you want? This is the most important question you can ask your self, as an employer may have a nice house, car and big pay check but do they spend time with their family or are they always stuck at the office? Get these questions and answers clear in your head before choosing a mentor.


Basically books are positive self talk. Think about it, who's voice are you listening to when you read? Yours I hope. The greatest minds in the world convert their thoughts and knowledge into books. Books are generally inexpensive and can be referred to when ever you feel like. I'm sure you have heard that "readers are leaders" and this is so true because reading is food for the soul, it allows us time to analyze what we have just read. We can take notes as our minds are opened to possibilities we may have otherwise have never thought of. Reading stimulates our imagination.

I stumbled across this quote:

the more you read, the more you know
the more you know, the smarter you grow
the smarter you grow, the stronger your voice
when speaking your mind or making your choice.

If you combine all of these elements into your personal development program I am confident that you will have great success in all areas of your life. Good luck for the future!

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Creating A REMARKABLE YOU! - A Simple Guide to Improving Your Life by Anthony McGloin

Mr. IncredibleImage by Omnitographer via FlickrBy Alvia Levigne

A personal development book with a twist, 'Creating A REMARKABLE YOU!' is one of the best books I have read in this field.

Written from the heart and drawing from personal experience, the book is inspirational, enlightening, educational, thought-provoking and enjoyable.


Anthony begins by summarising his story of a very sudden, unexpected and personal tragic situation he was forced to deal with. He found himself thrown into a terrifying world of unfamiliar territory that he had to come to grips with in addition to providing compassion, strength and guidance.

Anthony's journey is one of complete transformation. From the dark days of keeping a daily journal in the aftermath of a serious accident to one of his children, he realised he had to find the strength from within to overcome his own emotions while being a guiding light for his daughter along with his two other children.


His discovery of strength, character and inspiration led Anthony to develop an A-Z of 5 minute exercises, taking the reader through emotions, feelings and concepts that we all experience at some point and are sometimes challenged with. In some cases, these emotions are completely brushed aside and not dealt with at all. Anthony draws the reader in to an identifiable description of each of these 26 areas, following up with questions designed to help the reader work through them. Here are just a few topics he covers:
  • Anger
  • Emotions
  • Fear
  • Purpose
  • Relationships
  • Wonder
These exercises are truly thought-provoking and are really the heart of 'Creating A REMARKABLE YOU!' They will benefit anyone feeling that they have lost control in any area or areas of their life for whatever reason.

Re-building a REMARKABLE YOU!

A tragedy of any magnitude is hard to cope with and overcome, whether it be illness, loss of a home, loved one or a job, divorce or some other unexpected and negative life altering situation. In re-building his life, Anthony identified 12 key stages that he went through. These include:
  • Overwhelm
  • Protecting yourself
  • Temporary collapse
  • Embracing a new life
He is candid and very realistic in describing these stages and how they manifested themselves in him and what the reader may expect when faced with them. There are tips and suggestions to help identify and work through each of these stages.

Whether you have experienced a tragedy, know someone who has or are in a position to be a support for others in trying times, you will learn the different emotions and challenges to be faced and have a much better understanding of how to work through them.

The Kindness of Remarkable Strangers!

As Zig Ziglar once said:
"You can have everything in the world you want if you'll just help enough other people get what they want".

Anthony reached out and received the kindness of others during difficult times, and he reminds us that just one small act of thoughtfulness can make a huge difference to someone who is struggling. It's a reminder to all of us that it takes very little effort to be remarkable to someone in need!

This book is Anthony's act of thoughtfulness. He generously shares his experiences and learnings to help others. I highly recommend taking the time to read this powerful book.

Creating A REMARKABLE YOU! will help you transform your life and the lives of others.

Alvia LeVigne is a lifelong learner of personal and business development. This book is strongly recommended and you can get your copy now by clicking on this link: Enjoy!

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Quotes About Encouragement And Strength: Get Inspired With These Motivational Quotes

Ralph Waldo EmersonRalph Waldo Emerson - Image via WikipediaBy Michael Lee

We all need quotes about encouragement and strength once in a while. Sometimes, when we're having a bad day, bits and pieces of inspiration can help us get through.

Here are some quotes about encouragement and strength to reassure you and spark your motivation, which you can also share with people you love.

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Don't let the past trouble you, it is what it is and it's not in your power to change it. Neither can you control what's going to happen in the future, so stop worrying about it. Your past and your future are not as important as the strength of your character, which will help you overcome all the obstacles along the way.

"When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." - Franklin D. Roosevelt

Most quotes about encouragement and strength will tell you this: hang on and stay strong. When you're on the brink of giving up on your dream, goal or belief, remember that the key to success is perseverance. Don't give up! Many people give up without realizing how close they are to achieving their goal. No matter how hard the circumstances get, hold on. When you think that there's no more strength left in you to fight, think about what you might accomplish if you hang on for just a little more!

"Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go." - T. S. Eliot

What if nobody dared to think out of the box? What if nobody tried to push the limits or venture to the unknown? What if everybody just gave up? It's hard to imagine a world without innovators and risk-takers. How will you know if you won't try, right?

Quotes about encouragement and strength will always advise you not to be afraid to break the rules, try new things or make mistakes. Widen your horizons and test your limitations, you never know how far you're going to go! Hopefully, reading these quotes about encouragement and strength have helped somehow. We all feel weary, jaded or discouraged sometimes; that's okay.

Just remember that it doesn't end there. There will always be challenges and sometimes, failure is inevitable. The important thing is to pick yourself up, try again and never give up.

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What Are Your Goals?

goalImage by smemon87 via FlickrBy Susan Leigh

Goals in life are important. They motivate us to try harder, to keep on going when times are hard and they inspire us to dig deep and improve. But often goals incorporate several different factors in order to achieve true success. They can require various areas of our lives to co-operate.The ultimate goal for many people is, on reflection, to be happy.

Let's look at what your goals are and what they entail.

- Money is often equated with success as it is often the result of effort, improvement and accomplishment. Often, though, the more we earn the more freely we enjoy spending; improving our home, car, lifestyle. Then follows the pressure to maintain that level of earning. It is often extremely expensive to maintain living to a certain style and that in itself can become a goal. Simply to continue earning the money to maintain the lifestyle that we originally aspired to.

Many people become disillusioned with the lack of happiness and satisfaction that monetary success brings. It is not uncommon for people to walk away from high income jobs in an attempt to find satisfaction and fulfillment in other ways.

- Relationships and a settled family life are often the ultimate goal for many people. We look to our families and want them to have the things that make them happy. Those things may translate into possessions, holidays, a nice home and a good education. But frequently we come to realise that a happy family is the one that spends time together, builds close relationships based on love, respect and affection. Appreciating that can help us to revise our goals.

- Career satisfaction is an important goal for many people as we often spend more time at work than anywhere else. This goal often links with improving qualifications and a commitment to ongoing training. Continuous professional development is an important part of the plan in order to better improve career prospects.

Good work relationships are an important consideration for many people. Supporting others and feeling supported, building good team relationships helps people work towards their professional goals whilst feeling encouraged and respected.

- Physical fitness is a goal for good health. Many people have more leisure time and want to feel inspired to achieve something special and motivational. There is an increasing level of interest in challenge based hobbies, like trekking in remote areas or running marathons, skiing, outward-bound pursuits. Many people enjoy setting a personal challenge to improve their golf handicap or their stamina and fitness levels.

- Spiritual contentment is an important goal for many people. Whether it be through charitable work, a closer connection to faith and religion or improving their bond with nature, many people find that moving along a more spiritual path is the ultimate goal to achieve happiness and satisfaction. Achieving inner peace and contentment can bring a sense of fulfillment and inner calm.

Goals are often an important way of adding interest to what we do. They provide something to work towards whilst trying to improve ourselves. The most powerful goals are the ones that enable us to feel positive whilst we are making the effort. In many cases the commitment of working towards a goal is more satisfying and inspirational that the eventual outcome.

Many people find that over time, they start to drift in a rather aimless fashion, getting through each day without focus, goals or any real direction. They then suddenly realise that years have passed them by in a flash. Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works to help people re-establish their focus in life and become more confident and motivated about their goals. Improve your quality of life and read more of her articles.

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Goal Setting - Not Just Any Kind of a Goal Will Do

Put Your Dream to the Test by John C MaxwellImage by BetterBizIdeas via FlickrBy Hannu Pirila

"It has been proven many times that if you do not have goals, chances are you will not be able to find what you truly want." - Shelle Rose Charvet

It is obvious that if you want to achieve something worthwhile in your life, you need to have goals. Then, on the other hand, you will also need to be careful on how you set your goals.

"The first thing is to decide: What do I want? When the goal is well-formed it is easier to get started to fulfill it." - Terttu Gronfors & Trygve Roos

How do I form my goals, then? What is a well-formed goal? There are five basic principles on how a well-formed outcome should be like:
  1. Stated in the positive
    • Say what you want and not what you don't want. In other words - describe the desired state that you want to be in when you get there.
    • Our subconscious mind can't deal with the word "no". If you say to yourself "I don't want to be fat", your subconscious mind skips the word "don't" and instead it hears "I want to be fat." It only understands the outcome, which is "fat."
    • Therefore, you should set you your goal, for example, as: "I want to be lean. I want to see my six-pack abs," or something similar.

  2. Initiated and maintained by the individual
    • Is your goal within your own control? If it isn't, how can you make it happen? Probably you can't!
    • You have to make it so that you are the controlling power in initiating and maintaining the process of getting there.

  3. Sensory specific
    • Visualize how will it look like, sound like and feel like when you have reached your goal? Go in your mind to that moment when you have reached your goal. Be there fully as it is really taking place.
    • Also, put a specific date on your goal. Give yourself enough time to reach it, but not too much. You want it to be a challenge, but still a reasonable challenge (if on that date you still have not reached your goal, don't change the goal, give it a new date and continue to work your way towards it).

  4. Ecology check
    • Ask yourself: "Is this good for me and for the important people in my life (family, colleagues etc)?" and "is it going to violate the rights of others?" If the answer to the first question is "yes" and to the second question "no", then you are on the right track
    • Also ask: "How will getting this positively affect and influence my life?" and "is there anybody in my environment who can help me?"

  5. Testable
    • How do you know that you have reached your goal? What specific thing(s) will happen when you reach it? How will other people know that you have reached it?
    • What difference will it make in your life to reach this goal?
Use this check list every time when setting goals for yourself. Having the right kind of goal gets you already half way there. Written by Hannu Pirila, CEO and founder of HPA Consulting, eMBA, Licensed Trainer of NLP, Licensed NLP Coach, Licensed Sports Performance Coach and Licensed Business NLP Practitioner.

The author is one of the leading Personal Development and NLP Coaches in Finland.

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